How to sack a bridesmaid?

TokochickUK

honey moon maybe? lol i hope she posts back on soon, i read all of this when it started but am eager to know how it is going and what the conclusion is .

victory

Still no update?:eek: Come on, need to know NOW:rotfl: :rotfl:

purplepatch

Lillibet wrote:

I've just PM'd Sportsbeth to ask for an update, however she hasn't posted on here at all since the 30th January so she might be away or something. Fingers crossed that she comes back soon!;)

She was logged in on 13th Feb though if you look at her public profile.

purplepatch aka Miss Marple :rolleyes:

victory

purplepatch wrote:

She was logged in on 13th Feb though if you look at her public profile.

purplepatch aka Miss Marple :rolleyes:

:rotfl: :rotfl: with answers?:D

sportbeth

waterlilyann wrote:

I got married in Feb and had a similar experience. I don't want to bore you with details but in a nutshell I ask my friend (well, she pressured me into it), I then moved away and we NEVER saw each other and i was always the one to contact her. She never asked about wedding/how could she help etc.

All in all, with not seeing her and her being completly disinterested with the wedding and then buying the most godawful shoes I sacked her!!!! By email!!!!! :T

So......

Hubby to be and I have been humming and haahing about this lots, and now to be honest, getting a bit further along with this whole process has made me a bit more ruthless which I think you all thought I would get about it. My lack of worrying about myself worry in all this meant I was just faffing.

So. I had my first e-mail on Tuesday, my first contact since xmas eve when aforementioned BM turned up at my house "arms a swinging" and drank most of our wine. Her e-mail asked what I was doing for my birthday.

I e-mailed back a long e-mail saying hubby to be is surprising me and I will be out on Saturday, also I talked about the wedding saying it was all getting a bit fraught with decision making, (do we spend 14k on the wedding of our dreams or have a teeny tiny wedding in a restaurant for £7k and have the holiday of our dreams together) so I kinda set the scene saying it was getting to me a bit and the decision making part of it gets a bit much

I then nonchalently threw into the mix, if push came to shove and we totally changed our ideas of what WE want to do, would she be crushed if we didn't have her as a bridesmaid? I threw in all sorts of pluses for her, saving money on accessories, hair, nails etc and having a good time rather than working all day.

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That was 2 days ago, I have heard nothing since ..........................................

My Birthday was yesterday..........................

Ladies and Gentlemen, I think we may have our answer...................

suekjw

Well done!

1_step_closer

oooooooooo you go girl! well done!

SHEARERBOBS

Hmmmm tricky one...I had this dilema but in a different way. My sister in law was being my bridemaid (i was forced into it as cant stand her). We bougth her a lovely fitted dress then she got pregnant...she'd ahve been 8 months pregnant on my wedding day - no way was i having her look hideous in my photos. So my best friend stepped in to do it but i said to my SIL that obviously she couldn't be my BM but we had a very special role, would she be a witness for us? She was happy enough with that. So you could always try that one!

MrsTinks

I have a CB too, who most likely won't make the wedding... not her fault and she warned me when I asked her She's in the RAF and has to go where she's stationed so she might not make it and she'll be away loads in the run up... but she's a mental support for me - someone I can call and ask and talk to etc... upside - no cost for dress etc etc downside... no-one to help me on the actual day...

sportbeth

1_step_closer wrote:

oooooooooo you go girl! well done!

Well I guessed the clumsily nonchalent approach was best. Especially as thats the way she seems to be with me quite a lot. Like when she commented on my newly decorated lounge telling me what I could do to make it look nicer. It had taken me nigh on 3 months to finish it

It is very out of character to not even have a birthday e-mail from her. Reeeeessssssuuuuuuulllllttttt!