My boyfriend said "Yes.I'll marry you" on facebook...

LadyMorticia

Charley.christian wrote: »

his mum doesn't like me too much because i have a nose ring & baby ear stretchers. I'm really nice to her & i do her housework & just spend time with her.... another reason could be that she feels like im taking her son away from her and that me and him kinda... had sex.
but we were virgins and both agreed to it ...

I'm not allowed to visit because "im not family" which is weird because she always refers to me as her daughter. i understand that she wants family time though.


um a girl mate who he was looking out for gave him a BJ in school toilets, I asked him if it was true and he said no, then a month later he said its true. I got so mad but you should have seen how angry he was at himself for not telling me the truth, but i know the girl and she does it all the time to other girls bfs....

He could have said no though, sweetie but he didn't.

You have so many years to settle down and get married but it's important whilst you're young to go out and live your life and gain some experience whilst you're still young.

I'm not saying that young love can't last because it sometimes can but married life is no picnic either and alot of work needs to go into a marriage to make it work.

Charley.christian

well we've both said if we happen to get properly engaged and a house,
we'll move in together, regardless of his mum. she can't say much, she was having an affair with the milk man lol

vroombroom

thats not very christian of her.

Charley.christian

well, i think that was before she was christian.
I guess she doesnt want us to make mistakes -.-

LadyMorticia

Charley.christian wrote: »

well, i think that was before she was christian.
I guess she doesnt want us to make mistakes -.-

Well, whilst that is true, it's still not fair to project her views on other people.

If you and your boyfriend decide to live together before marriage when you're in a stable and loving relationship then there's nothing she can really do about it.

He may be her son, but that doesn't mean that he shares the same views as her.

If my husband's mum had projected her Christian views onto him, he wouldn't be having any of it.

annie12

Charley.christian wrote: »

cute! me & my boyfriend is like that
I just wondered, my parents said that you fall out of love when your married & that its not worth it

I think that only happens when you're not truly in love

Do they say that because they have fallen out of love or because thay want to dissuade you?

Charley.christian

annie12 wrote: »

I think that only happens when you're not truly in love

Do they say that because they have fallen out of love or because thay want to dissuade you?

I don't know, They've had pretty bad arguments.
Mums left a few times (she came back) , and once she threw a frying pan at my dad.

I just think mum doesn't want me to get hurt whenever we have arguments and doesn't want my boyfriend to be really nasty (my dad is most times during an arguement). She says I'm lucky that my boyfriend cares for me though.

System

Ah loves young dream

Whilst it can work out i see nothing wrong with waiting a few years. From 16 to 21 i completely changed as a person as i went through different stages and met other people. I fell in love and thought it'd be forever but in my case it wasn't. In fact i've just come out of a relationship where i thought we might have had a future together. I've lived with 2 of my bf's and its certainly an eye opener! You might thinking being around each other 24/7 is great but you can get on each others nerves if you don't give each other space! Also i found us having our own groups of friends and having seperate nights out kept things better

I wish you the best whatever you choose

LadyMorticia

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Ah loves young dream

Whilst it can work out i see nothing wrong with waiting a few years. From 16 to 21 i completely changed as a person as i went through different stages and met other people. I fell in love and thought it'd be forever but in my case it wasn't. In fact i've just come out of a relationship where i thought we might have had a future together. I've lived with 2 of my bf's and its certainly an eye opener! You might thinking being around each other 24/7 is great but you can get on each others nerves if you don't give each other space! Also i found us having our own groups of friends and having seperate nights out kept things better

I wish you the best whatever you choose

I agree. It's not healthy to live in each other's pockets and I'm thankful when OH goes to gaming club or band practice as it gives us some space and means that I can have some "me" time.

Charley.christian

Thanks Its kinda awkward though because we have the same friends.
his boy mates go out with my girl mates or that my other friends are in relationships too lol.

im starting my second year in college soon , so hopefully i'll make new friends and go out a little more.