My boyfriend said "Yes.I'll marry you" on facebook...

Stephb1986_2

Charley, I was your age once (not so long ago) I'm going onto 25 in a few weeks. When I was your age I did the exact same thing I had a bf and we got engaged within a few months started buying a house (he was older than me) I had a good job working for a mortgage company, everything was going great I had a big fall our with my parents (how you do when your that age and hormonal) so I went to stay at his house with his mum, she wasn't too keen on me but I tried hard to stay out of her way and help her with the house work one day I was off work and she had a hospital appointment so once she left I blitz the house from top to bottom when she got back she was off with me and then after a while said that I took her job! I was shocked she wasn't so good on her feet I thought I was doing her a favour.

Anyway I went back to work and a few weeks later he didn't pick me up from work when I got home he was sh agging my best mate. I was heartbroken for a long time. I'm now nearly 25 and I've been in a serious relationship for just over 4 years and engaged for nearly 2 years to someone who is a million times better than the loser I was going out with. I caught up with the "friend" a few months ago turned out he did the same to her but they were together alot longer.

At your age you think everything is forever it would be fantastic if it was but sometimes it's not the case hun. Don't jump in with both feet your still so young and have your whole life ahead of you and it is true that you have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince. I think the majority of posters on here have been in the same boat.

You should put it out of your mind for a few years and if you still feel the same then go ahead, But think long and hard about it hun.

Good luck

Steph xx

jellyhead

Charley.christian wrote: »

Well to be honest, our relationship wasn't going too well when it happened, I almost broke up with him a few days before. So i don't blame him. I was a jerk to him. I probally deserved that to happen.

He's actually not getting the rest anywhere else. I'm the only one who shares that intimacy with.

Sorry if it seems we're all harping on about this point, but if you were my teenage daughter I'd want to ask ...

Is this what happened? You didn't give him blowjobs, so he cheated on you, then from that point onwards you gave him blowjobs?

Charley.christian

jellyhead wrote: »

Sorry if it seems we're all harping on about this point, but if you were my teenage daughter I'd want to ask ...

Is this what happened? You didn't give him blowjobs, so he cheated on you, then from that point onwards you gave him blowjobs?

No not at all. I did give... but i was a horrible person to him, like really hurtful to him.

Emmzi

In honesty you sound too young to be coping with this very odd relationship.

BJs are not a way of apologising. That is what apologising is for. I am not convinced you are not being manipulated here. And I am concerned about whether you are taking disease preventing precautions. (You can still get sick from BJs as there is fluid sharing.)

It sounds deeply unpleasant and not at all loving to me - more like a series of transactions than a relationship.

Charley.christian

Its really loving. i swear. he does alot for our realationship.
And we don't do it to say sorry. its more of a way to be closer to each other.

i'd rather forget what happend with him & the girl. Its in the past. and our relationship is really good now.

Emmzi

Then I can only wish you luck. I'd leave it a bit to get hitched though - when all the school-related drama has been left behind.

soccermom

Charley.christian wrote: »

Okay so my boyfriend is on holiday 30.1 miles away or a 45 min drive away, we don't have a car. and I'm not allowed to visit him.

so anyway, I was having a casual conversation with my boyfriend & he said "Yes.I'll marry you" I never even asked him and yes, it was on facebook.

I'm 17 and he's 16, although he acts like he's older & mature.
We've talked it out and if we do get married we're going to get married at 20-25 . and he asked me before. and he said he'll ask again properly when he has a ring.

What do you think?

sorry removed post changed my mind

LianeB

When you don't have £200 for your college course or want a job how do you expect to pay for a wedding or a marriage?
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3392142
see ops other posts

Pee

I don't believe in marriage, at any age and would think that the two of you are too young. However lots of people meet the person they spend the rest of their lives with at your age or younger and whilst I quite like that I was over 30 with a single and independent past before I got together with the right man for me, it is a bit swings and roundabouts. I have a very good friend who started seeing her now husband at 14, he was about 21 and they are still very much together thirty years later with one of the happiest relationships I am aware of. That said, of the other great relationships I'm aware of, the one couple got together when she was about 25 and the other when she was about 60. It could be great or it could be awful, only time will tell.

Absence does make the heart grow fonder...

puddy

she said she would wait to be married in her mid 20s so thats not really relevant

personally, and this is clearly an old fuddy duddy cynicism but i think teenagers this age talking of marriage is all pie in the sky, but im aware that some people do meet and stay together during their teen years and there have been people in this thread giving examples