My boyfriend said "Yes.I'll marry you" on facebook...

Charley.christian

Yeah I thought he was just joking or being stupid when he asked me on facebook,
but he often leaves hints that he wants to get married.

So far, we've both started college and so far we're still together and he doesn't "want to go out with anyother girl".
yetserday he was talking and he just said so much stuff that made me realize this could actually be real.

Kay_Peel

Charley.christian wrote: »

...we're still together and he doesn't "want to go out with anyother girl".

You're half way up the aisle!

Then again, you haven't actually TALKED about getting married. He's not mentioned it - just floated the idea on Facebook?

You don't seem to be very good at communicating with one another yet. You might find that the lack of face-to-face TALKING is a hurdle to a partnership.

Try it. It's good to talk.

Lotus-eater

Kay_Peel wrote: »

You're half way up the aisle!

Ahhh, young love.

Young stupid, bonk your brains out, love.

I'm feeling old





Sort of anyway

claire16c

Kay_Peel wrote: »

I've come across quite a few needy and insecure young men (it was always seems to be young men) who are always asking girls to marry them - any girl!

I know one 19 year old soldier who's asked three different girls to marry him in three years. Really, he only wants to have someone to come home to and someone to think about when he's away. He wants her to write to him and remember his birthday. He's so desperate for security that he'll even marry her to keep her - not that he really knows her or has anything in common with her.

His desire to get engaged springs from feelings of insecurity. He's afraid in case she finds someone else and he's left alone. He asks her to get engaged because it's the only way he knows to make sure she stays with him. It's his insurance policy.

Make sure he's not asking you to marry him because he's immature, insecure, needy or just plain stupid.

Sounds just like some of the guys my DH lived with when he was in the army.

Lots of them would marry girls after knowing them for about 6 months and were about 18/19! One guy married a girl, was with her for about 3-4 months, then they got divorced because apparently she didnt like him going out on the town drinking so much anymore. Then within another 6 months he was married again to someone else :rotfl:
At one point there was only my DH (then boyfriend), and 4 of his mates who were not married in their block!

MandM90

Charley.christian wrote: »

Yeah I thought he was just joking or being stupid when he asked me on facebook,
but he often leaves hints that he wants to get married.

So far, we've both started college and so far we're still together and he doesn't "want to go out with anyother girl".
yetserday he was talking and he just said so much stuff that made me realize this could actually be real.

Maybe it's different around here but didn't college just start yesterday/today?

166million

Charley.christian wrote: »

I don't want to get married until i'm at a proper age like 19-25.
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I'm 31 and the thought of marriage terrifies me! :eek:

Charley.christian

166million wrote: »

I'm 31 and the thought of marriage terrifies me! :eek:

It kinda terrifies me too,but i feel completely myself around him. And
well, we already act like we're married.

&& Kay Peel, We've talked about it SO much.
It was first said on facebook,and i just ignored it, kinda.
But then over the past few days/weeks,he showed me he meant it.

College started this week , but its more or less induction week.
We start properly monday/tuesday...

ViolaLass

Charley.christian wrote: »

And
well, we already act like we're married.

The fact that you can say "We've started college and we're still together" and then admit that college started a week ago - honestly, stop playing at being an adult and just concentrate on your studies.

Being married doesn't make you grown up, being grown up does. I think you're attention seeking.

Charley.christian

Can i just ask you something?
How am I attention seeking? I just asked a question...
and i don't think that marrige makes you grown up at all.

And i certanly don't want to get married just to feel grown - up.

I am concentrating on my studies.

ViolaLass

You've been blathering on about this marriage thing for over a month. Occasionally the thread dies down and then you resurrect it. That's how I think you've been attention seeking.