My boyfriend said "Yes.I'll marry you" on facebook...

serious_saver

I got together with my partner when I was 17. We talked about getting married many times over the years but 8 years on and we just haven't got round to it. We are perfectly happy as we are and will probably think about it after we have bought a house. You don't have to be married to be a happy couple. Besides if you wait a few years and you're still together you'll know exactly what you want from your wedding and possibly be able to afford it too!

I know plenty of people who have remained together since their teens and got married later. A good friend got engaged when they were both still in sixth form. They were really happy that they waited until after university because it meant that at an uncertain time in their lives they had something amazing to look forward to and plan.

The truth is that times have changed. In the past it was frowned up to to live with a man you weren't married to but not anymore. A wedding is just an outside symbol of what you already know in your heart. As long as you know you love each other that's all that matters.

Charley.christian

well the more time i spend with him and talk to him, the more he talks about getting married,so its definatly real.

Bufger

Wait until after you've been to university to settle down.

BEST YEARS OF YOUR LIFE RIGHT THERE!

ViolaLass

Charley.christian wrote: »

well the more time i spend with him and talk to him, the more he talks about getting married,so its definatly real.

Have you told him how YOU feel?

Charley.christian

I aint going to university lol.
and i got to get a job and a flat yet, so i aint getting married for a long time

Sammy85_2

I got engaged at 16, to a man quite a bit older than me. I thought it was true love, i was head over heels, he said all the right things. My parent put a stop to the relationship pretty swiftly, but i still managed to find ways to see him. Eventually we broke up when i went to college.

I got married earlier this year at the age of 25 to someone who i love utterly, someone my age and with the same aspirations in life as me, and it is a completely different feeling to how i felt at 16. Ive grown up alot, completed my studies, travelled the world with work and visited some amazing places on leave.

Im not saying this guy isnt "the one" for you, just dont go jumping in at the deep end now. Go and finish college, travel a bit, get yourself settled into a good career and if he is still there when you get to that point then jump in :-)

Charley.christian

cool.
I've already discussed what will happen and what might happen,
and after everything i've been through already,he's always been here, so i guess
he has no intention of leaving yet. Lol

I don't really take all this marriage things he said too seriously because we're both in college & He might find someone new.
so I'm just waiting to see if he means what he said or not lol

Kay_Peel

I've come across quite a few needy and insecure young men (it was always seems to be young men) who are always asking girls to marry them - any girl!

I know one 19 year old soldier who's asked three different girls to marry him in three years. Really, he only wants to have someone to come home to and someone to think about when he's away. He wants her to write to him and remember his birthday. He's so desperate for security that he'll even marry her to keep her - not that he really knows her or has anything in common with her.

His desire to get engaged springs from feelings of insecurity. He's afraid in case she finds someone else and he's left alone. He asks her to get engaged because it's the only way he knows to make sure she stays with him. It's his insurance policy.

Make sure he's not asking you to marry him because he's immature, insecure, needy or just plain stupid.

Charley.christian

Well , he is kinda insecure but i kinda like that when he don't get too over the top.
I won't marry any guy like that.

thorsoak

Oh all you cynics out there - enjoy reading about young love!!!

Charley Christian - sometimes, in real life things do happen like this! I was 16, he was 19 when I first met my love - I was still at school, and lived 150 miles away from him, he was a trainee engineer. At first, we'd write - every few days, and then every day. By the time I left school at 17 1/2, we were starting to get really serious - he could drive and would drive down once every month and stay with my family for a weekend, and every couple of months, I'd get on the train and go and stay with his family for a weekend.

We got engaged on his 21st birthday, saved like mad, got married 3 weeks after my 20th birthday and moved into our new (mortgaged) house with just a bed, cooker and kitchen table & chairs.

He died in January, after 47 1/2 years of marriage and 4 children. We had a great marriage - we loved a lot, fought a lot and learned a lot during this long time - we both grew up, and fortunately, we grew together liking the same things rather than finding out that we were growing apart with different interests. And I miss him every day.

But would I be happy if my daughter, or now my granddaughters wanted to do the same as we did???

Errr.....I'm not too sure !