My boyfriend said "Yes.I'll marry you" on facebook...

Charley.christian

Awh Im sorry about your loss

And I'm defiantly learning a lot that we like,
and we're growing closer to each other rather then growing apart.

I'm not getting married until im like 20 - 25. after that I won't bother lol

elantan

robpw2 wrote: »

well you cannot get married without parental permisssion til your 18 and by that time you may have met someone else , i think your a bit young to be settling down , you still have som much to expericnce

sorry but you can get married without your parents permission from the age of 16 ... i did so at 17 ( and still married to the same guy 21 years later) ... but that's in Scotland

Lotus-eater

Charley.christian wrote: »

Awh Im sorry about your loss

And I'm defiantly learning a lot that we like,
and we're growing closer to each other rather then growing apart.

I'm not getting married until im like 20 - 25. after that I won't bother lol

Well if you're not getting married until you're at least 20, then what's the point of asking us about it?

Do you need someone to tell you that we hope you are happy and live happily ever after?

If you were my daughter, I'd just tell you to wait until you are 20 them worry about it then. So that's what I'll do with you. Put it out of your mind, enjoy life and stay with him if you like. But I almost know you won't be with someone as clingy and needy as that when you are 20.
But if you are, talk about marriage then, pretty pointless bringing it up now.

ViolaLass

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Well if you're not getting married until you're at least 20, then what's the point of asking us about it?

I agree, I don't see what the point of this thread has been either.

Charley.christian

well i was just wondering what you thought of being asked to marry your boyfriend over facebook.

shellsuit

Charley.christian wrote: »

well i was just wondering what you thought of being asked to marry your boyfriend over facebook.

I think it's immature.

FattyBettyBoo

Get engaged once he can afford to buy you a really expensive ring!!

Lotus-eater

Charley.christian wrote: »

well i was just wondering what you thought of being asked to marry your boyfriend over facebook.

It's about par for the course from a daft 16 year old boy who thinks he may be in love.

ps all 16 year old boys are daft.

Bufger

Charley.christian wrote: »

well i was just wondering what you thought of being asked to marry your boyfriend over facebook.

I think its childish but strangely fitting given the mental profile i have created in my head.

angelil

Hi Charley

It is certainly possible to meet young and marry young and carry on being happy. Two cases in point: my mum met my dad when she was 15 and he was 16. They got married when she was 19 and he was 20. They had me when she was 26 and he was 27. They had my sister at 29 and 30. They're now 51 and 52 and still happily married. As for myself, I met my husband at 18. We kept up an international long-distance relationship for 3.5 years because it was that or not be together at all. We then moved in together in 2008 and got engaged in 2009 before getting married this year. We're still as happy as anything and like both our sets of parents (actually, their story is similar to that of my parents, so make that a third case in point!) have barely had a hitch yet.

The similarity in all of our stories is the slow and steady progression. My parents were together for 4 years before they got married and both were out of school and in work by the time they did. They also waited 6 years after marriage to have their first child. My husband and I got through our studies first and then lived together before marriage. Even though we, and my parents, may have known for a long time before actually getting married that it was what we wanted to do, we knew it was sensible to wait a bit. If it's worth it, it'll keep.

I therefore think it would be silly of you and your boyfriend to rush into anything - although thankfully it does not sound like you are going to. I think, from the sounds of things, that you and your boyfriend both have a lot of self-development and self-discovery to go through before you even consider marriage seriously. I'm certainly quite different to how I was at 18 (I'm 25 now) and my now 30-year-old husband is very different to how he was when we met when he was 23. I certainly don't know that Facebook is the place to air such private thoughts, even if it was only in a private message and not on a wall - when we decided to get married, in spite of relying so much on the internet to get us through our LDR, we discussed it in person and not online

Hope this helps a bit