My boyfriend said "Yes.I'll marry you" on facebook...

gratefulforhelp_2

Charley.christian wrote: »

Okay so my boyfriend is on holiday 30.1 miles away or a 45 min drive away, we don't have a car. and I'm not allowed to visit him.

so anyway, I was having a casual conversation with my boyfriend & he said "Yes.I'll marry you" I never even asked him and yes, it was on facebook.

I'm 17 and he's 16, although he acts like he's older & mature.
We've talked it out and if we do get married we're going to get married at 20-25 . and he asked me before. and he said he'll ask again properly when he has a ring.

What do you think?

Charley, don't get married until you are a least 21, and don't run relationships on faceache, it leads to dreadful misunderstandings:eek:
I would say "Ha ha that was funny, did your mate get control of the keyboard" and move on.

Are you pleased?
xxx

Charley.christian

McKneff wrote: »

I'm an old wrinklie, so take it with my best intentions.
You have the whole world ahead of you, probably lots more boyfriends, tell him your far
too young to be thinking about marriage yet, Its another 10 years yet.

What about college, university, holidays with the girls, flirting with all those georgous Spanish waiters.

Live a bit, I know, I know, its all loves young dream and he's the one for yu but just take it slowly.

This will all be a distant memory by the time your 25.

I've told him that i have my life to live and he understands that and he's given me so much freedom. its like being single,only i have a guy.

We're both going to college & I've told him that we might meet someone new, if he does i'm totally fine about it. I can't see myself doing any better then him though.

I don't really have any friends and I'm not into going away, I tend to miss home alot when I'm away.

He really is the one for me (at least for "now" anyway) he just loves me for who i am and he just says things that would just melt your heart.
And we've already had times where we nearly ended it but i totally forgive him because i know people make mistakes.

I'm ready to have a life with him just not marrying yet until im 20-25.

DorsetGirl_2

Live your life, have fun, see the world and learn everything you can.

You will look back on his 'proposal' and cringe n 10 years time.

DorsetGirl_2

Charley.christian wrote: »

I've told him that i have my life to live and he understands that and he's given me so much freedom. its like being single,only i have a guy.

We're both going to college & I've told him that we might meet someone new, if he does i'm totally fine about it. I can't see myself doing any better then him though.

I don't really have any friends and I'm not into going away, I tend to miss home alot when I'm away.

He really is the one for me (at least for "now" anyway) he just loves me for who i am and he just says things that would just melt your heart.
And we've already had times where we nearly ended it but i totally forgive him because i know people make mistakes.

I'm ready to have a life with him just not marrying yet until im 20-25.

Everything else you say in this posts says the opposite.

Charley.christian

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Charley, don't get married until you are a least 21, and don't run relationships on faceache, it leads to dreadful misunderstandings:eek:
I would say "Ha ha that was funny, did your mate get control of the keyboard" and move on.

Are you pleased?
xxx

We have a relationship outside of facebook and he has said stuff about marriage when we are together. its just this week on facebook cos i cant see him or spend time with him

Charley.christian

DorsetGirl wrote: »

Everything else you say in this posts says the opposite.

Really. Oh sorry I'm not too good with posting the thread, i feel like i give too much un-needed information.

its not opposite & we're not stupid...
I mean. we've sat down & talked about all the things that
could come between us and what we may face together or on our own.

puddy

you sound prime material for a controller and a manipulator. he's trying to make you emotionally dependent on him and you're likely to become so because you sound quite needy.

thats normal to some degree at your age but dont mistake it for not having a need for an independent life

Charley.christian

puddy wrote: »

you sound prime material for a controller and a manipulator. he's trying to make you emotionally dependent on him and you're likely to become so because you sound quite needy.

thats normal to some degree at your age but dont mistake it for not having a need for an independent life

I have an independent life & he really isn't controlling.

I'm not needy... I'm a little well clingy sometimes, but i have had some bad experiences with guys saying this type of stuff and then they break up or just go off with another girl.

PolishBigSpender

Charley.christian wrote: »

What do you think?

We think that you are far too young to get married any time soon. Getting engaged now might make it more difficult to leave if needs be.
That said, I'm not claiming such relationships never last - my friend got together with her boyfriend when they were 17, now - 12 years onwards - they are happily married. However, they did not get engaged until they were 23 and they got married after graduation.

annie12

My son is 17 & no way mature enough to get married.....:eek:

I was 17 when I started going out with my hubby, he was 19.
We got engaged when I was 18 & my mum told me I couldn't get married until I was 21 (it was purely to see if he was 'the one' I think). We have been married 19 years.

How long have you been going out together?

My personal view is 16 for a boy is way too young to be thinking about marriage.