My boyfriend said "Yes.I'll marry you" on facebook...

Charley.christian

well, i said that he was too young too, but he said he was ready to think about the future. I'm not sure if i'm ready. i can't tell him that though.
We've been together for about 16/17 months as a proper couple but we've been together for about 2 years.

I don't want to get married until i'm at a proper age like 19-25.
I know he is the one but in all fairness i feel like we're moving too fast.

Charley.christian

puddy wrote: »

so he answers a question you never answered him about quite a sensitive and personal subject and then posts the answer (to the question you never put to him) on face book where everyone will see it and start gossiping and fueling the subject

yes, he sounds very mature and grown up

no it was in private message - no one knows apart from you guys & my friend.

jamespir

it would be silly to get married at 17 wait till youe been togetha a long time ive been with my gf for nearly 10 years and im not ready to rush in to marriage

Ames

Charley.christian wrote: »

well, i said that he was too young too, but he said he was ready to think about the future. I'm not sure if i'm ready. i can't tell him that though.
We've been together for about 16/17 months as a proper couple but we've been together for about 2 years.

I don't want to get married until i'm at a proper age like 19-25.
I know he is the one but in all fairness i feel like we're moving too fast.

If you can't tell him that then it's not a strong enough relationship to be even thinking about marriage.

Annisele

Charley.christian wrote: »

I've told him that i have my life to live and he understands that and he's given me so much freedom. its like being single,only i have a guy.

This rings serious alarm bells for me. You don't "give" people freedom; it's something they have by default. It's possible to take somebody's freedom away - and I'm worried that's what your partner might be doing - but you absolutely can't give it.

You also say that you "don't really have any friends" and that you "can't see [yourself] doing any better than him". That worries me too.

Having said that, it would be hypocritical of me to argue that first loves don't last - mine did. But I'd be properly upset if my partner took it into his head to "give" me freedom or "let" me do something!

Charley.christian

he isn't controlling, i didn't mean "He gives me freedom" in that way i just meant like whatever i could have done when i was single , i can still do them now.
i do have friends but they all kinda back stab me and im socially awkward

DVardysShadow

Charley.christian wrote: »

he isn't controlling, i didn't mean "He gives me freedom" in that way i just meant like whatever i could have done when i was single , i can still do them now.
i do have friends but they all kinda back stab me and im socially awkward

Deal with those issues first. It seems that marriage is to you a way of sidestepping those issues.

balletshoes

Charley.christian wrote: »

I have an independent life & he really isn't controlling.

I'm not needy... I'm a little well clingy sometimes, but i have had some bad experiences with guys saying this type of stuff and then they break up or just go off with another girl.

You do know thats perfectly normal behaviour, from boys and girls, when you're teenagers, right? thats what you're supposed to do, meet different people, try out your lines etc, its all part of growing up.
He's 16, you are 17, in all probability by the time you are in your mid-twenties you will both be very different people from the ones you are right now. Life and life experience will do that to you.

balletshoes

Charley.christian wrote: »

well, i said that he was too young too, but he said he was ready to think about the future. I'm not sure if i'm ready. i can't tell him that though.
We've been together for about 16/17 months as a proper couple but we've been together for about 2 years.

I don't want to get married until i'm at a proper age like 19-25.
I know he is the one but in all fairness i feel like we're moving too fast.

you can totally tell him all of this, if he is mature enough to be ready to think about marrying you, he is mature enough to listen to you about your feelings.

annie12

Charley.christian wrote: »

well, i said that he was too young too, but he said he was ready to think about the future. I'm not sure if i'm ready. i can't tell him that though.
We've been together for about 16/17 months as a proper couple but we've been together for about 2 years.

I don't want to get married until i'm at a proper age like 19-25.
I know he is the one but in all fairness i feel like we're moving too fast.

I think you have answered your own question

If he is being serious, just tell him the truth