Desperately need a break

CH27

I tidied & hoovvered at the end of the day.
It's like shovelling snow whilst it's still snowing. Pointless:D

**Patty**

Ummmm am i Hitler-Mom then?:o

Eating and drinking was done at the dinner table. Period.
It was the one time i ever got a reasonably warm cuppa


Even now they are 15/13/9.....no drinks or food in the front room.

marywooyeah

balletshoes wrote: »

thats what I did too when my little one was a toddler - a 10-minute tidy round of all her toys and hoover up when she was in her pjs and ready for bed. I had toy boxes in the living room and her bedroom so it was easy just to drop the toys in those, all ready for the next days mayhem.

i've got one toybox upstairs and one downstairs, and a bookcase up and down too. I have tried doing it at night but I dont like mess so get p'd off looking at it and it gets hard to manouvre round all the stuff on the floor! at night my house is very tidy lol

marywooyeah

SailorSam wrote: »

I wish i had kids.
Aren't they good fun when they're little.

want to borrow mine?! :rotfl:

RAS

marywooyeah wrote: »

I look after our toddler all day and all I do is walk round picking up mess to find it out again 10 mins later, my day revolves around his mealtimes and what he wants to do.

Why are you letting a 3 year old dictate what happens?

I bought him a baking set to give us something to do and we went to the shop to get some eggs. the shop is less than a minute walk from the house, but he wanted to walk up the next road so something which should have taken a few minutes took more than thirty.

Why did you let a 3 year old dictate what happens?


I've hoovered the carpet 4 times today cos he keeps dropping crumbs on it.

Hoover once at the end of the day.

his chest of drawers caved under the weight of my husband constantly leaving the drawers pulled out so I've had to shell out over a £100 for a new set which won't come for 3 weeks so theres clothes all over the place.

This suggest he has too many clothes?


he wet my bed so I can't put the bedding on while it's airing out and had to wash the bedding.

Sorry about that


my son spilt drink over the sofa so I've had to wash all the sofa covers.

Was that really necessary? Could you have spnged it down?

Also why is a 3 year old drinking sitting near the sofa/on the sofa. He needs to sit at the table.

I usually do 2 loads of washing a day, I do everyone's washing ironing cooking cleaning and I'm sick of doing it day in day out.

OK you are sick of it but you need to get a bit more realistic. Why wash so much every day? Some of this is not even dirty, or are you changeing your child as often as you hoover?

How much of this actually needs ironing? NEEDS ironing?

marywooyeah wrote: »

I get so hot and bothered running around and I have quite long hair so if we decide to go out it takes me more than an hour to shower and get ready and then he needs lunch etc so its usually at least 2pm we get out of the house! so its quite hard to plan days iyswim.

You seem to be trying to live like Posh. You do not need to shower and wash your hair before going out. You need to let go and get more realistic standards.

By the way, Posh has not been seen since little one was born, and you can bet she does not look great at the mo.

Please let go, start to be the adult in this relationship and be realistic about what you child needs.

Which is a firm but fun mummy not an immaculate floor or dictating what happens.

When can he start nursery by the way?

January20

**Patty** wrote: »

Ummmm am i Hitler-Mom then?:o

Eating and drinking was done at the dinner table. Period.
It was the one time i ever got a reasonably warm cuppa


Even now they are 15/13/9.....no drinks or food in the front room.

No, you are sensible mum who doesn't let the little ones rule the roost

Also, eating is better done as a one off activity, ie not playing with toys or watching tv in my opinion. Good habits for the future.

balletshoes

marywooyeah wrote: »

i've got one toybox upstairs and one downstairs, and a bookcase up and down too. I have tried doing it at night
but I dont like mess so get p'd off looking at it and it gets hard to manouvre round all the stuff on the floor! at night my house is very tidy lol

I can't help thinking its going to continue to be very stressful for you at home if you can't let the mess "go" a bit. You can bet your bum your toddler doesn't notice or care that the house is constantly being cleaned up (and generally they only get more selective with what they see/hear as they get older ).

smartpicture

marywooyeah wrote: »

i've got one toybox upstairs and one downstairs, and a bookcase up and down too. I have tried doing it at night but I dont like mess so get p'd off looking at it and it gets hard to manouvre round all the stuff on the floor! at night my house is very tidy lol

Why is there so much mess that it covers the floor? When I had toddlers, we had toys sorted in large plastic boxes. Only one plastic box allowed out at a time, and they had to help tidy that one away before I would get another one out, so there was a limit on how much stuff there could be lying around at one time. Also, you need to be training the toddler to tidy up after themselves at this stage, unless you plan to be running around after him for the rest of his life. You sound overwhelmed, so the best thing would be to think about strategies to reduce the things that stress you the most and learn to accept the rest.

Running_Horse

Sounds like normal toddler stuff. My work means I get to spend more days with our daughter than my wife. Rather than seeing everything as a problem, you need to chill and accept the house is going to be messy and dirty sometimes. Also, never let him dictate things or refuse to tidy up; you are the parent, they are the child. I will never get the chance to do this again, and treasure every moment, no matter how tiring. Enjoy your child rather than battling with him.

Wish we could afford a break, but we are still saving for our first holiday for six years next year.

marywooyeah

smartpicture wrote: »

Why is there so much mess that it covers the floor? When I had toddlers, we had toys sorted in large plastic boxes. Only one plastic box allowed out at a time, and they had to help tidy that one away before I would get another one out, so there was a limit on how much stuff there could be lying around at one time. Also, you need to be training the toddler to tidy up after themselves at this stage, unless you plan to be running around after him for the rest of his life. You sound overwhelmed, so the best thing would be to think about strategies to reduce the things that stress you the most and learn to accept the rest.

he has tubs eg colouring tub, duplo tub, music tub and for some reason he seems to enjoy tipping all the stuff out to play with it all over the floor then gets bored after about 10 mins and moves onto something else. I do ask him to tidy up and he does help, but he is very active and constantly into things so if I didnt tidy aswell it would just be a constant tip.
I'm not trying to make him anal or anything, but at the same time I don't want him to think its ok to just chuck things everywhere and mummy will clean it! no way! it's an "I'll do this bit, you do that" but its cos it happens so mnay times during the day it gets too much.