Desperately need a break

CH27

aliasojo wrote: »

They say a change of scene is as good as a rest. Enjoy your break.

Maybe when you get back you could sit down with a cuppa and a notebook and try to 'streamline' your day a bit? Have an 'important' section where you jot down things that you feel you really need to do and a 'not so important' section where you put things that could be done every couple of days or so.

Then you need to look at the important section and see if there is anything specific you could maybe ask your OH to do? (Men need a specific task, they don't deal well with simply 'can you help'.

It's nice to have a clean and tidy home (so I'm told, mine never is, lol) but it's not worth affecting your health over. We're only here a short while, don't waste your life fretting over house stuff.

That is soooooooooo true:D

euronorris

CH27 wrote: »

That is soooooooooo true:D

I second that!!!!

Gillyx

All I can remember of my childhood is my mum cleaning, and moaning about crumbs. I'm determined not to make that mistake with mine.

Gigglepig

I haven't read the whole thread, but if I really needed a break and had say a 500 pound budget, I'd consider going away to stay with relatives for free/cheap, and spend the 500 on a cleaner to come in for a couple of hours every week. That way you can take the toddler out for something fun and come back to a clean(er) house for several weeks :-)

Hope you have a nice time away!

KxMx

All you need to do is find small things to make life easier for yourself in a big way.

A house that is a bit messy won't kill you, just shut your eyes to it. It can be difficult but in the long run it is less stressful. I live with Mum and she is messy which turns into actually dirty from time, but I tut to myself and leave her to it.

Things I do when I would cook (long story) was literally chuck the pans into the sink when I was finished cooking, take my plate out on the way to bed and then a quick wipe of the oven top if needed while I parcel up any leftovers. Mess cleared in seconds and no stress!

Your son should be at the age where he is being taught to tidy one toy away before getting out another. Mum managed it with us!

If your hair is difficult to manage how about a trim or tidy-up? Maybe even consider a cut, it'll grow back after all and when your ds is a bit more independent it'll be long again and you'll have the time and energy you need to devote to it.

Keep food out of certain rooms. Crumbs on the carpet for a few hours until evening when ds is in bed ain't going to kill anyone.

As for the washing, I appreciate how many clothes a toddler must go through, but where is the rest of it coming from? Sheets and towels and undies need washing often, but as for clothes, they only need doing if they are smelly or dirty frankly. Wearing something a few times doesn't mean it needs washing.

Quite frankly I never iron :eek: unless something is so creased I would be ashamed to be seen out in it- hubby is quite capable of doing his work shirts etc! Either that or he takes ds for a few hours while you do it.

I appreciate you need a break but unless you change your routine and mindset as other posters have said, you'll be back to square one before you know it.

ilovecushions

Hope ur ok now.

Have a serious think about a cleaner, £20 a week should get you 2 hours a week, and after a while you might only need once a fortnight and you'll be back on top of things. It's ok to ask to ask for help. Tell your partner how much it means to you and i'm sure he'll support you in getting a cleaner as it means he doesn't have to clean!!

marywooyeah

thankyou everyone, I thought I'd update: our "trip" turned into a day out at gullivers kingdom. I'd accidentally left my phone at home so though oh no hubby won't be able to contact us, so when we left gullivers I couldnt see a payphone anyway and DS wanted daddy so we came home - I figured we could just get the bus back tommorow and save the hotel fee - very MSE!

Me and my son had a lovely day, there was only 2 rides he couldnt go on due to his height and the whole day he was well behaved, walked everywhere himself (usually if he's out of the pushchair he wants me to carry him!) and we were both laughing and smiling all day it was great. At one point I knelt down and asked if he was having fun and he said loudly "yeah mummy I having fun!" and gave me a big hug we went for tea at a pub and he ate it all then we went to an ice cream parlour afterwards and I also got him one of those windmill toys. I got a magazine for the journey, he feel asleep after 10 mins on the bus so for the other hour I listened to my ipod and read the magazine and with the countryside scenery I felt really relaxed and pleased with how the day had been, I really felt like I'd had a break and that we had spent a nice day together, then when I got home hubby had done the pots and cleaned the kitchen! :T:T:T
my happiness was shortlived though when i walked into the bathroom to find he'd blocked the loo though lol!

having taken advice from people on board I have decided to:
make a list of jobs for each day to break down the amount of work,
rotate toys
try to go on more days out so we are not in the house to make mess
put more emphasis on him helping me tidy so its more like a game

I am really grateful for everyone's ideas and input x

marywooyeah

KxMx wrote: »

I appreciate you need a break but unless you change your routine and mindset as other posters have said, you'll be back to square one before you know it.

thanks, hopefully the list I have come up with in the above post should help with this