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Dormouse wrote: »

That made me think, Jo, seeing that you said your eldest picks up the baby, I had been wondering whether it will be okay to let DS1 pick up DS2 once he's a bit bigger and can hold his head up properly. DS1 is a big strong boy (bigger than most 5-year-olds), so I guess he'd be able to (and he's desperate to!) but I wasn't sure. I'm glad you mentioned it.

For sure - my DD1 is only 4 and a skinny little thing, but she has no trouble lugging baby around. It doesn't look the most comfy carrying style, but she doesn't get too many complaints... just the odd yell when the constant cuddling gets a bit tedious :rotfl:

jo_b_2

Dormouse wrote: »

That made me think, Jo, seeing that you said your eldest picks up the baby, I had been wondering whether it will be okay to let DS1 pick up DS2 once he's a bit bigger and can hold his head up properly. DS1 is a big strong boy (bigger than most 5-year-olds), so I guess he'd be able to (and he's desperate to!) but I wasn't sure. I'm glad you mentioned it.

My husband insisted before the baby was born that our eldest would never be allowed to pick him up etc. :rolleyes: After a few weeks he was so desperate to 'help' and was so loving and gentle with the baby, I felt okay about him picking him up. He knows how to hold him properly and is really careful when he's got him.

The baby doesn't seem to mind and is quite content when he's picked up by his 'big' brother. He is getting heavier all the time though!

By the way, he did the laying on the changing mat thing, and even climbed into the moses basket, when he were getting stuff out of the loft before the baby arrived! :rotfl:

hippychick1

These helpful sibling stories are really comforting! I was worrying about whether to let Josh hold the new baby on his own, but I think he'll be fine. You lot seem to have really helpful loving kids!

spinning_hamster_wheel

hippychick1 wrote: »

These helpful sibling stories are really comforting! I was worrying about whether to let Josh hold the new baby on his own, but I think he'll be fine. You lot seem to have really helpful loving kids!

My DS is 26 months and a total mummys boy, I was really worried about how he'd be with Amelie and his limited understanding of why mummys tummy was now called "baby" had me a bit worried but hes a total star! He runs into our bedroom every morning , or comes back from nursery shouting "amy, amy!" and cant wait to see her, he brings her his toys all the time and babbles away to her.

Only thing is he gets a bit frustrated because he tries to lift her to give her a cuddle or pat her back and he gets upset that hes not strong enough!! He loves to "help" with nappies (imagine packets of wipes being emptied out everywhere upon hearing the words "lets change the baby's nappy") and baths (also bathing the baby ends up like a scene from titanic; once I turned my back on him for a second when I was lifting Ame out of the bath, next thing I heard this big "whooosh" as he upturned the bath all over our rug and wood floor!!!) so I think including your son in everything will go a long way in helping things to go well. DS seems to have accepted her so readily from day 1, like the rest of us I think he just cant imagine the house without her now!

Lu_T

Imogen's big cousin is 3.5 now and dotes on her. SIL said she was sad at his first day back at nursery after a holiday and he came running out shouting "Imogen!" not "Mummy!" like he normally would.

He's not big enough to pick her up, but we often let her sit on his lap. Although we had a near-miss last week when we was getting rowdy cos he was tired and decided it was his turn to sit on her. Eeeekk!

cha97michelle

Hello:D

I've been super busy at work since last posting, but have managed to sort out my booking in appointment with the midwife, and it is next Monday. It isn't the midwife i saw last time, although she did see me for one of my check ups, but she seems nice enough.

I've been chuckling a bit at your sibling stories. Anyone any experience of the 18month age gap? As my only similar experience is my sisters boy is 12 months older than DS, and he is very rough and ready, such as when he sees him trying to stand up to reach something he shouldn't he will say 'no - naughty!' and then push him over. He does cute things too though like he was tickling him under the chin the other day - again a bit roughly, but the sentiment was there.


Breastfeeding - i am definitely going to try again, as i managed till 11 weeks, then expressed for about another 3, and then swapped to bottle. I gave up when the feeding went to every hour during the evening and i didn't have any time to relax as it was around xmas time. This time it would be round about July, so hopefully less stressful.

Expressing was a great way of cutting down the milk supply gradually. Pads - i will use the boots washable ones again. I found the other types superabsorbant, which would stimulate more milk to be released, so a bit of a nightmare.

Thanks heather for looking up the mat leave pay for me, and thanks bailey for the advance warning about leaking. I had best do some pelvic floor exercises as i can't leave the classroom to go to the loo in a rush, so best get practicing. The things we have to worry about. :rolleyes:

Anyway, best finish off the school preparation or i will be up till midnight and i am already shattered.

Michelle, x

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HELP GUYS, I'M HAVING A BAD DAY!

Just sitting here in tears out of frustration and tiredness. Things aren't right between DH and I this morning and since we've been home I just can't get Jack back into his nap routine which throws the rest of our day out. Before we went away he would go down for his naps easily and be asleep within 10 mins. Even though I did try to keep him into some sort of routine on holiday it was impossible otherwise we wouldn't have got out and about. This week i'm been putting him down between 9-9.30am when he is looking tired, but he's up and down in his cot bouncing like tigger, crying, whinging etc. I go up and resettle him but before I'm down the stairs he's off again. I'm doing everything exactly like I used to but its taking me over an hour sometimes 90 mins for him to sleep, some times I've even just given up and we've gone out, so he's eventually fallen asleep at noon.......GREAT! Which then impacts on his pm sleep and of course bedtime.

I am at my wits end today, I (THINK) he has just gone off, so that's an hour and 20 mins. Its rediculous. I just don't know what to do with him. I cuddled him to sleep one afternoon, as I was so desperate, but that's not the route I want him to take.

Luckily he is still going down well at nighttime so that's someting to be thankful for.

Any tips or hints, I feel stupid ringing my HV I think she'll think i'm bonkers.

Today I am tired, have a stinking headache and fed up.

Changing the subject slightly, I saw my MW yesterday, she agrees with me that i probably have another boy inside due to the heartbeat rate. Only 3 weeks to go till I find out for sure, hopefully.

Js_Other_Half

Hi Bailey

We've just been on holiday with our DS as well, and things have changed from then too. You aren't going to have the reserves to cope with things at the moment, so give yourself a break.
If DS won't sleep, then how about cutting his naps during the day? Maybe he needs one longer one now rather than 2 shorter ones?

I hope you feel better soon - have you taken anything for the headache?

Snaggles

Hi Bailey, sorry you are having a crappy day.

How about taking him out for a little walk in his buggy? Will that help him get off to sleep at all? The fresh air might help with your headache too.

I'm sorry things aren't right with your dh, I hope you sort things out soon, it can't be nice for you feeling stressed out about the little one and having to worry about him too.

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Thanks guys, unfortunately taking Jack out doesn't send him to sleep he is so nosy he stays awake. Which is why he fell asleep as noon on Wednesday. He has to be exhausted and hours over his nap time before he'll succumb.

I know he still needs 2 long naps as on Monday he did 2 lots of 2 hours, just not at the right times.

I will sort stuff out with DH, he's just being a typical man. I will take some paracetamol and Jack is due to go to his grandparents at lunchtime, so I am spending the afternoon researching double buggies and car seats with a friend who's driving me and her baby into a town an hour away. But its the onl yplace around here that does the really big mothercare stores. I want to decide on the model we want by seeing it and looking at it. Then get it on ebay or somewhere.

You know the holiday wasn't worth it either.............................

Update pics of Jack:- http://picasaweb.google.com/thejamjf/Jack

These were taken during his 8 and 9 months.