Confused and upset.

Gigervamp

I guess there's nothing to update. OP has posted on another thread today.

NickyBat

Gigervamp wrote: »

I guess there's nothing to update. OP has posted on another thread today.

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rachel6188

hope your ok bigmomma xx

emsywoo123

NickyBat wrote: »

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Was that a reaaaaaally long rudey word :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

NickyBat

No lol, i am just amazed that it seems a lot of people come on the forum and post their problems wanting help from everyone and advice and then don't bother coming back to either update or tell us how they got in, if they made a decision etc.

Meanwhile people like me think about them and wonder how they are (more fool me i hear you say).

The OP on this post seemed to be really upset, and loads of people have been back on in the last few days asking her how she is and she hasn't replied but has posted on another post, and yet she must have had plenty of notification emails so she must know people are concerned.

emsywoo123

NickyBat wrote: »

Meanwhile people like me think about them and wonder how they are (more fool me i hear you say).

I agree with your entire post, but highlighted this bit as I wanted you to know you are not alone, as MJ once said :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

bigmomma051204

Hi all. Just wrote a massively long update and have blooming well clicked "back" and got rid before posting GRRRRRRRR

Firstly, sorry to those who think i should have come back within their time frame to explain what has happened since my last post. Unfortunately, i have been busy having crisis talks with hubby and moving out of my marital home for a few days so havent had the time to come and do the long post which this promises to be. Posting an odd comment on another persons thread takes 2 mins iyswim....? But i apologise to anyone who has been offended. Also, i am sure those understanding types will appreciate that whilst it is easy to post about other peoples problems, it is much harder to revisit ones own thread and lay oneself bare as such when the situation is all still very raw. But again, sorry

So. We argued alot. I said i needed space away. Moved out for a few days to my parents with my little boy. Decided that i didnt see why i should continue to pay the majority of bills,rent etc but not live there so moved back - this was also after a whole lot of apologising from OH. We had a LONG chat the other day where he told me that he had gone to his parents on the day he disappeared. His mum had asked no questions but let him sit, watch telly and made him bacon sarnies. "awwww bless him" (NOT)

He said he had not wanted to come home cos he was mortified - he had apparently seen me going back up the stairs and stopped immediately with what he was *ahem* doing.... His explanation for the particular pic lacks reason hence i left and needed space.. he would only say that he had a moment of madness, he admits it looks suspicious and weird but says he cant really explain why he did it. This of course does not HELP ME particularly which he says he understands but cant say any more.... :cool:

He has been very apologetic and seems genuinely sorry about the whole sorry situation. But i am still holding fire on making any decisions as yet... he knows this and seems upset that i might leave him.

Oh, and i told him i was going to tell my friend and he went purple and started spluttering about how embarrassed he would be and he would not be able to face people again. I took a brief bit of pleasure in his apparent discomfort
Anyway, things are very strange at the moment...

Sorry if anyone was worrying about me. To be honest, when he had disappeared, i had plenty of time to be posting on here and replying etc but once he came back and the proverbial hit the fan, i have been too busy to write these kind of essays LOL.. oh and i dont get notification emails btw..... so i didnt know how many people had asked how i was etc. soz xx

Thanks for the support though guys i do appreciate it i promise... apart from those who tried to stir a bit with the comments about not trusting my friend.. as someone mentioned, i have the background knowledge of the situation to gauge whether my friend is trustworthy - or at least more knowledge than those implying otherwise!!

xxxxxx

Money_maker

Thanks for coming back and updating.

Sounds as though you have got him to open up a bit - talking is so good.

You have stuff to work out between yourselves, no one on here will be able to help on that score.

The posters who insinuated that there was something going on with your friend were not trying to stir things up a bit I don't think but perhaps just bouncing what seems like possibilities based on your original post. Leave no stone unturned... and all that.

Good luck with sorting things out and once you get him opening up, keep him opening up!

marywooyeah

welcome back bigmomma!
what sticks out to me from your post is how the tables have turned, you seem to be in control and he's grovelling to you!
don't let this position slip, I would give yourself a few more days to think it through - but as you are married I would read over the marriage vows and see if you feel you can still remain married to him.
only you know how you feel deep down. what he did was disgusting and he has treated you badly, but if this is a turning point where a man you married for love and for life is really going to change, then hopefully this will be a new start for you. you've showed him that you're not a pushover, I hope he treats you better now x

CH27

Glad you are ok BM:)
Good luck with working things out.