lies lies and more lies

pinksuedeshoes

So your husband has a job, he is at home at night, he plays with your kid.
Yes he has lied about not going on games at night but this is a part of who he is. If he enjoys it why shouldn't he carry on i don't want to sound awful but you are a complete control freak. You can't control people like that cause he will get fed up and he will start to resent you for it.
He sounds like a nice guy and if my hubby had been going behind my back to buy gaming credit, i would be more concerned that he felt like he had too. Stop putting him down it sounds like your giving him a hard time about everything he does.

Nara

The only reason he has lied to you about stuff is to avoid confrontation i imagine.

He knows that you asked him to not play the game, but he wants to still play it, so he lies.
He knows you don't like his parents so he lies about them sending money etc.
The reason he does it is to avoid you having a go at him i imagine. I can see his point as I would be the same!

I play WoW also, have done for 4 years, so quite an addiction going on! but I don't go out much and don't spend much money so its my personal 'hobby'. My partner knows this and if he told me to stop playing I would tell him where to go.
It's all about compromising, I spend a couple of nights a week playing my game and we spend a couple of nights a week watching our fav DVD's together.
He has his friend round once a week to play their computer games and I speak to my fellow guildies online :-)

It sounds like he is trying his hardest in spending some time with you and your child and also he does have a job, maybe not an amazing one but so what? as other people have mentioned he is lucky to have a job and if it pays the bills then so what?

I think your being too harsh on him and you need to think about WHY he felt the need to lie to you about silly little things.

Lotus-eater

LOL if my OH told me I couldn't do something.

Thankfully she's not that stupid, even when I come up with one of my completely idiotic ideas, she will only gently try to point out the downsides.

I think she said no, when I talked about a Ducati, but she's clever enough to know I would kill myself on it. And she'd let me have one if I really wanted it.....Which she knew I didn't :rotfl:

Nara

Hehe, the funny thing about playing a game where the main bulk of the players are male is the fact that all they do is moan about how their wives/girlfriends/partners all moan about them playing the game! Some have had to give up playing as their partners demanded it, some have been dumped because of it, there have even been marriage breakdowns because of it! Most of these guys were not addicted and playing 24/7 but had jobs, worked and just liked to play some evenings but their partners hated it.
Being female myself I don't really get it why women act like that and demand that men choose between them and a game/hobby/idea/etc, I feel sorry for alot of my male friends and they often say they wish their partners would play too, I just don't see a problem with it, its all about balance, fair enough if someone is playing 24/7 not working and not spending anytime doing anything else, that would be an addiction.

But most people just use it as a way to relax and have fun, gaming online can be very social and we often all chat to each other on the mics. As i tell my boss (who cannot get her head round games online) its a real team bonding experience! LOL

jamespir

i would post on this but i just got to complete this quest

onlyroz

jamespir wrote: »

i would post on this but i just got to complete this quest

The correct answer is "sorry, I can't come to the dinner table/put the kids to bed//do the washing up/have sex with you because I'm in a dungeon and I'm the main healer - and they're all relying on me, oh b*gger we've just wiped, stop distracting me, my armour is now ruined and it'll cost me 50 gold to fix, get out of the way, can somebody please resurrect me now?"

Lotus-eater

onlyroz wrote: »

The correct answer is "sorry, I can't come to the dinner table/put the kids to bed//do the washing up/have sex with you because I'm in a dungeon and I'm the main healer - and they're all relying on me, oh b*gger we've just wiped, stop distracting me, my armour is now ruined and it'll cost me 50 gold to fix, get out of the way, can somebody please resurrect me now?"

I am so so glad I'm not into WOW


:rotfl:

relic

He plays a game, it's hardly something bad.

My partner occassional plays WoW, I admit that some people become addicted to it, but those sort of people become addicted to whatever they are doing.

Perhaps he wouldn't play as much, and be as secretive as he is if you weren't trying to control something as little as how much he plays a game.

Tropez

For those who are concerned that their OH's are becoming addicted to MMO's, such as WoW, one sure fire way of telling things are getting a bit far is when you start to see empty bottles of these lying around the computer area - http://www.manapotions.com/

onlyroz

Tropez wrote: »

For those who are concerned that their OH's are becoming addicted to MMO's, such as WoW, one sure fire way of telling things are getting a bit far is when you start to see empty bottles of these lying around the computer area - http://www.manapotions.com/

That's brilliant :beer:. Now I know what to get hubby for Christmas