Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

relic

Person_one wrote: »

Having fun? Have you considered knitting, or evening classes?

Don't bother, he can't have his own thoughts or talk like a grown up. I really hope the picture in his avatar isn't him, as he does act like a teenager.

Person_one

relic wrote: »

Don't bother, he can't have his own thoughts or talk like a grown up. I really hope the picture in his avatar isn't him, as he does act like a teenager.

1echidna used to be a sensible poster you could have a decent conversation with, not sure what happened!

euronorris

Person_one wrote: »

1echidna used to be a sensible poster you could have a decent conversation with, not sure what happened!

I've noticed there are phases with 1echidna, which I do wonder if they are connected to his mental health at the time. I have a vague memory of him talking about once before.

So, I try to ignore a lot of the comments when he's like this, in the hope that things will soon improve.

xxxxhelpxxxx

caledonian_princess wrote: »

........ I've always feared emotional infidelity more than physical, to me it seems a much bigger betrayal than, say a one night stand. I hope things work out for you and your husband and that, in time, it stops hurting so much.

I set a quick poll up on my FB about whether emotional or physical infidelity was worse. The majority of replies said emotional.

My husband was emotionally unfaithful with different people for a long time and finally it was physical with one of them. This hurts so badly. I thinks it's worse to know that they have been talking, laughing, maybe even making plans. I think having a one night stand may be easier to deal with (STI's notwithstanding) His physical infidelity left me having to go to the clinic to get checked out anyway.

a1969baby

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I wonder if the OP will be anywhere nearer her answer after reading today's posts!

Would I be right in thinking that 1echidna is a bloke? They do seem to have a somewhat different take on this sort of thing that a woman. It's probably biological. Doesn't make it right though.

Would be interesting to hear from any men that have been in this situation - did they leave their wives? did they ever have any intention of doing so? Why did they have an affair in the first place? I don't expect all that many men read this section tho, and even if they do, are they actually willing to 'fess up?

1echidna

a1969baby wrote: »

Would be interesting to hear from any men that have been in this situation - did they leave their wives? did they ever have any intention of doing so? Why did they have an affair in the first place? I don't expect all that many men read this section tho, and even if they do, are they actually willing to 'fess up?

I 'fessed up as you charmingly put it to an extent on https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2844078

poet123

1echidna wrote: »

I 'fessed up as you charmingly put it to an extent on https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2844078

Did you? I have to say the number of times you have alluded to this thread and your online dalliance leads me to think you are still getting a vicarious thrill from this.

And what was the intent behind your comment re deserving to be cheated on? Is that how you justify what you did?

1echidna

poet123 wrote: »

Did you? I have to say the number of times you have alluded to this thread and your online dalliance leads me to think you are still getting a vicarious thrill from this.

And what was the intent behind your comment re deserving to be cheated on? Is that how you justify what you did?

And just who are you to pontificate? Keep your personal inuendos to yourself.

poet123

1echidna wrote: »

And just who are you to pontificate? Keep your personal inuendos to yourself.

Someone with as much right to pontificate and offer opinion as you have to post. If you don't want comment don't post. Did I hit a nerve?

1echidna

poet123 wrote: »

Someone with as much right to pontificate and offer opinion as you have to post. If you don't want comment don't post. Did I hit a nerve?

We could test it out with the abuse team. See what they think. However I'm not particularly bitter, just a warning that I'm not falling for obvious trolling.