Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Welshwoofs

deb68 wrote: »

Extreme

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No Honest
Coward,an Delusional putting your own Happiness befor others a wife an KIDS

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Yes

I think you really need to wind your neck in dear and using the "Oh won't somebody please think of the children" really doesn't have the same weight of moral indignation when the 'children' in question are nearly adults.

deb68 wrote: »

Spitefull huni is what you an he are

Why do you bother calling PTN 'huni' when every post you write in reply to her absolutely seethes with venom? If I were you I'd just drop the fake niceness - you obviously don't mean it.

VestanPance wrote: »

This post pretty much highlights the type of person you are and those who have thanked you for it.

:rotfl: And another one of the moral minority yaps away ineffectually.

You know absolutely nothing about me - not gender, age, relationship status nor background

neverdespairgirl

We 106-lot are an exclusive club then (-:

Thanks Nicky, I didn't know that.

POPPYOSCAR

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I have no-one on ignore at all.

I was only joking.

I have never really understood why people do this anyway, it would confuse me no end.

Lotus-eater

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I was only joking.

I have never really understood why people do this anyway, it would confuse me no end.

No it works brilliantly. I do it to remember who is an argumentative idiot and although I still look at all the posts, I don't get annoyed if someone on ignore is still an idiot.
It does mean that if someone has been a prat in the past, I won't answer them.

lostinrates

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I was only joking.

I have never really understood why people do this anyway, it would confuse me no end.

Oh, I think its a wonderful tool! I pop someone on ignore when I feel that it benefits me. There is nothing to be gained at all in being prickled into poor behaviour. I think as a permanant use it wouldn't suit me at all, but to take a few days off someone on a long term post to avoid minor frustration its brilliant.

nickyhutch

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I know what you mean. I have never understood what all the fuss is about either.

Now Johnny Depp I can understand.

Yes, Johnny Depp I would probably have a go at

Person_one

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

I think she can have what she wants, sounds like she has so far.

Interestingly, Angelina seems to have escaped censure for appropriating Brad - is it 'cos they is slebbritees?

Don't you remember all those 'Team Aniston' T shirts? I think she was heartily condemned, much more than him if I recall.

I don't actually fancy Brad Pitt, being a cheat takes away any appeal, but couldn't think of anyone else on the spot!

Welshwoofs

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Of course she is, he's most to blame. PTN's isn't without blame though.

I don't understand just from a basic feeling of humanity, why she doesn't care how the wife feels here.

Again, she's not responsibile for the wife's happiness.

And moving on to general points (i.e. not at you Lotus): simply because an affair is going on does not necessarily mean that the cheated-upon half of the marriage is overwise happy or is otherwise faithful. There's marriages out there where both sides are straying, the relationship is as dead as a doornail and only held together for financial and child-rearing expediency.

If we're going to make assumptions on the status of the marriage and the wife's happiness it's surely as equally valid to assume that the relationship is an almighty mess as it is to assume that it's a blissfully happy marriage being ruined by a cheating husband and his 'scarlet woman'.

I know from a dear friend of mine who had an affair with a married man for 7 years (which ended without him leaving) that no woman would choose to place herself in that position; giving that amount of time to a man who they see for snapshots of time, who's never there for Christmas and birthdays, who cannot drop everything to be by her side if emergency strikes. It seems to me to be a pretty soul-destroying choice of relationship. In my friend's case it turned out ultimately that the wife had known about my friend all along and didn't really give a damn because her concern was more financial...which was also the reason he didn't leave. In that case it ended with a heart broken friend and her lover of 7 years promptly moving on to a younger model..which his wife also knew about.

On a more mundane front, my Mother had an affair with her boss for just over 2 years. He always stated he wasn't happy with his wife. Ultimately my Mother dumped him, saying it wasn't going to go anywhere and he promptly walked out on his wife of 4 years. My Mother and him married and lived very happily together for over 30 years....until his death.

These situations with affairs are simply NOT black and white and although obviously the best thing to do is leave your marriage before getting caught up in one, the reality is that some people muddle along in an unhappy status quo because it's the easiest route until something shakes them up (like meeting someone new.) Added into that, we're in an economic climate where, perhaps, the unhappy one simply cannot afford to walk then and there.

In this particular thread I'm absolutely disgusted at some of the comments PTN has been getting thrown at her and not once have I seen her respond in kind. Now as an onlooker who has no particular opinion either way (because I simply don't think these are black and white situations), I think PTN is coming off as a FAR nicer person than some of the people who're sitting in judgement on her.

Lotus-eater

Christina Hendricks please

VestanPance

Welshwoofs wrote: »

And another one of the moral minority yaps away ineffectually.

You know absolutely nothing about me - not gender, age, relationship status nor background

I don't need to. Your attitude to taking part in the destruction of relationships and families is clear for all to see. That and you see having morals as a character flaw.