Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

msb5262

Still off topic - I LOVE "Every day's a school day"...but I would, I'm a teacher!

gratefulforhelp_2

msb5262 wrote: »

Still off topic - I LOVE "Every day's a school day"...but I would, I'm a teacher!

And me:rotfl::rotfl:

basketcase

msb5262 wrote: »

Still off topic - I LOVE "Every day's a school day"...but I would, I'm a teacher!

So don't you get any holidays then? :rotfl:

gratefulforhelp_2

basketcase wrote: »

So don't you get any holidays then? :rotfl:

Nope. It's all planning and preparation;)

Person_one

PTN, I know you have a lot of diffuculty with empathy and seem to find it impossible to see your situation from the perspective of this man's wife.

Take a look at the raw pain and devastation in this thread, its heartbreaking, maybe you'll get an inkling of the kind of harm you are contributing to:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3568737

purpletoenails

Person_one wrote: »

PTN, I know you have a lot of diffuculty with empathy and seem to find it impossible to see your situation from the perspective of this man's wife. You don't know that, and it's not true at all.

Take a look at the raw pain and devastation in this thread, its heartbreaking, maybe you'll get an inkling of the kind of harm you are contributing to:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3568737

Thank you, I have been reading it.

Person_one

purpletoenails wrote: »

You don't know that, and it's not true at all.

Thank you, I have been reading it.

It flies off the page from every post you make about her, but whatever, if reading that doesn't make you feel any guilt about her then nothing will.

purpletoenails

Person_one wrote: »

It flies off the page from every post you make about her, but whatever, if reading that doesn't make you feel any guilt about her then nothing will.

I rarely post about her - as I've said before I have no feelings towards his wife, I'm not jealous, I don't think she's horrible or anything like that. I don't know her at all. To be truthful, I rarely think about her, she's his wife, not mine. Sorry if that seems callous. Of course I sometimes feel guilty, of course I have empathy, just because I'm not gushing my feelings out on here doesn't mean I don't have any.

nickyhutch

purpletoenails wrote: »

I rarely post about her - as I've said before I have no feelings towards his wife, I'm not jealous, I don't think she's horrible or anything like that. I don't know her at all. To be truthful, I rarely think about her, she's his wife, not mine. Sorry if that seems callous. Of course I sometimes feel guilty, of course I have empathy, just because I'm not gushing my feelings out on here doesn't mean I don't have any.

That's just how I felt, callous or not. In my case, probably helped by the fact that because of the things he said about her ("I'm in with the kids on my own, she's out til 4 in the morning", "I don't think she'd notice I was having an affair if I brought you round", "We never do anything together any more" etc. etc.) I guessed long before he did that she was out and about "enjoying herself" too.

Errata

purpletoenails wrote: »

I rarely post about her - as I've said before I have no feelings towards his wife, I'm not jealous, I don't think she's horrible or anything like that. I don't know her at all. To be truthful, I rarely think about her, she's his wife, not mine. Sorry if that seems callous. Of course I sometimes feel guilty, of course I have empathy, just because I'm not gushing my feelings out on here doesn't mean I don't have any.

It's quite strange that you rarely think about her, given the significant role she's played in your life for almost three years.