Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Lotus-eater

Marker wrote: »

Because women are devious manipulative little biatches. As every woman knows. A wife, mistress, daughter, mother etc can manipulate the !!!!! out of any situation to get what they want.

A woman, be it fat, thin, beautiful or dog ruff can get their hooks into any man if they really want to. A womans skill in life is to manipulate a man. So when an affair is involved, yes the man is at fault, and any wife should either rip their husband a new one or divorce their sorry !!!!. But I bet my bottom dollar that the other woman formed the shape of the affair.

Bit early to be drinking?

No woman can get their hooks into me if I don't allow it.

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

It will pass to the children in most cases, it is a secure place for them to return to and so on. Children do not hit 18 and stop needing a home. In most cases, yes. ALl I was saying is that it's her (and her new husband's) house to do with as she chooses. She might choose to sell up and bu99er off to Australia for all I know. The children are 14 and 16, by the way.

Have I been left with nothing I was talking about the children, not you. As I understand it, your ex is trying his hardest not to let you have the house. Apologies if I'm wrong. no I have my children unlike him he has nothing oh apart from the car lol. Statistics on winning winning? the family home are very hard to come by as I've found most cases do not reach final judgement one or other party backs down.

I do feel for you and what you've been through, and hope your ex does the right thing by his children.

princessdreamer

I know winning is the wrong term just happens I'm stuck in a war I did not ask for and it's sink or swim. Will he do the right thing probably not will he cheat again as far as I know he is still seeing the other one he was cheating on me with when he left.

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

I know winning is the wrong term just happens I'm stuck in a war I did not ask for and it's sink or swim I realise that must be really, really hard for you, and I hope you can come out the other side as well as possible, and especially hope that for your children. It IS hard on children - there's no getting away form that, but that old chestnut that children are resilient is generally true, too, as long as the parents do the right thing. Keeping them well out of the way of any bickering. Making sure that the only thing they are aware of is that Mummy and Daddy don't love each other any more, but still love the children more than anything in the world. Both being involved in everything that's going on in the childrens' lives. Not slagging each other off to the children - you are still Mummy and Daddy, and the parent who tries to badmouth the other will come off the worst in the end. It's not a competition for the childrens' affection - it's more about ensuring the children still have a good relationship with Mum and a good relationship with Dad. . Will he do the right thing probably not will he cheat again as far as I know he is still seeing the other one he was cheating on me with when he left.

Will he cheat again? When you get past what's happened to you (I say past, rather than over - I don't think you get over being cheated on), you wont care whether or not he does cheat again.

VestanPance

Marker wrote: »

Because women are devious manipulative little biatches. As every woman knows. A wife, mistress, daughter, mother etc can manipulate the !!!!! out of any situation to get what they want.

A woman, be it fat, thin, beautiful or dog ruff can get their hooks into any man if they really want to. A womans skill in life is to manipulate a man. So when an affair is involved, yes the man is at fault, and any wife should either rip their husband a new one or divorce their sorry !!!!. But I bet my bottom dollar that the other woman formed the shape of the affair.

What a load of gibberish.

The only guys that can get wrapped around a womans finger in this manner is the knuckle dragging idiot that is thinking with his c**k.

princessdreamer

Except all their father cares about is himself. I forced the children to stay in contact and all they got was abuse, mainly about me. My older two hate him, such a horrible world but sadly true. The cheating thing is more oh crap if they break up we go back to square one with a new woman who will wonder why he does not see the kids and I will get grief again.

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

Except all their father cares about is himself. I forced the children to stay in contact and all they got was abuse, mainly about me. My older two hate him, such a horrible world but sadly true. The cheating thing is more oh crap if they break up we go back to square one with a new woman who will wonder why he does not see the kids and I will get grief again.

I am truly sorry you're going through this, and that your kids are suffering. He sounds like a total ar5e. It's so sad that he can't see past his feelings for you and realise that he can still have a good relationship with his kids, regardless of how bad his relationship with you is.

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Bit early to be drinking?

No woman can get their hooks into me if I don't allow it.

I agree....but I have to admit I sometimes have to fight the urge to ''get my own way'' at home because tbh I know I usually can.

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

I agree....but I have to admit I sometimes have to fight the urge to ''get my own way'' at home because tbh I know I usually can.

Here's the truth (shhh) men allow themselves to be "persuaded" in a special way by their ladies, so they get what they want.
You think you're in control, nope, t'other way round

VestanPance

Stolen from the TV show Frasier:

Daphne: It's not like men have never used sex to get what they want.
Frasier: How can we possibly use sex to get what we want? Sex is what we want!