Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

gratefulforhelp_2

Marisco wrote: »

Which is exactly what I said quite a few pages back, I just wrote "yes" (with a few full stops as they won't let you post short answers!!!:)) Yes, of course everyone is entitled to an opinion, that's what a discussion forum is about. It's just when they put their views across as "my way or no way" that things get hairy. Who is to say whose "moral code" is right? You might not believe in abortion, I happen to think it's up to the woman concerned, whose has the right to say any of us is right or wrong IYSWIM. I believe in it, you don't, (don't know if you do or not, but for the sake of argument) neither has the right to say we are in the right with no question. That does not mean to say you are any more moral than me! It just means we have differing viewpoints.

Yeah why can't we post short answers...never understood that?

But where does "my way or no way" begin, and having a reasoned argument but not changing one's view at the end of it...end?

I wonder if anyone has changed their view as a result of this thread.

POPPYOSCAR

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

We all have a set time scale to get over relationships then?

It's ok for the cuckold to be devastated for a fortnight, but after that time (or any other fixed time) they're just wallowing?

That's very harsh.

gratefulforhelp I feel that you are trying to put words into my mouth.

I mentioned nothing about timescales or wallowing.

All I know is that I have seen what bitterness can do to someone and I would not wish that on anyone.

I am not judging anyone for feeling bitter, they can be bitter for the rest of their life if thats what they want, but it does not seem to make them a happy person in my opinion.

gratefulforhelp_2

lostinrates wrote: »

hmm...read the bit where we have pets.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

lostinrates

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

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But only if you let it.

I think that's idealistic. In the context of happy endings in OP, its an example of the lack of likelihood of it. I think most people have felt bitterness' lingering tendrils crawling around their decision making and openess. Sometimes its very valuable way of protecting from further hurt. Obviously, in other ways, as clearly evidences, it becomes nothing more than a handicap.

But yes, people DO need to take responsibility for actions and emotions...whether its self damaging bitterness or affairs. Something some people can find common gorund over maybe?:o:D

Marisco

VestanPance wrote: »

VestanPrince may be young, I'm pushing 40.[/QUOTE]

Ah, but from what direction

FatVonD

VestanPance wrote: »

VestanPrince may be young, I'm pushing 40.

Lol! And I'm clearly senile

Apologies, I'm posting from work and not paying attention properly!

gratefulforhelp_2

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

gratefulforhelp I feel that you are trying to put words into my mouth.

I mentioned nothing about timescales or wallowing.

All I know is that I have seen what bitterness can do to someone and I would not wish that on anyone.

I am not judging anyone for feeling bitter, they can be bitter for the rest of their life if thats what they want, but it does not seem to make them a happy person in my opinion.

Not intentional, which is why I used question marks. I agree with this bit

but it does not seem to make them a happy person

but some have to put work than others into NOT being bitter, and one has to be ready for that.

gratefulforhelp_2

lostinrates wrote: »

bitterness' lingering tendrils

fab expression.

Margaret52129

PTN - What if your man comes back to you with the answer you don't want to hear, ie that he is choosing to stay with his wife and then after being without you and missing you he decides months later to leave the marriage because he regrets his choice but you've been able to move on in your life and have found peace and perhaps a new friend, he was to contact you again after these months apart, what would you do?

It's a hard decision for you I guess, especially as you really don't know this would happen, but I was just wondering.

POPPYOSCAR

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

fab expression.

Yes I was thinking that.

lostinrates does have a way with words.