Are these what you would call red flags or warning signs?

thistledome

K,A+P wrote: »

- a black man walked past me, going in the opposite direction.

He smiled at me and said hi, so me being friendly and polite, said "hello" back. Stupid of me really, all they are looking for is just ONE response and it almost gives them "permission" to "prey" on you. He started walking alongside me and asked me questions about where I was going and if I'd like some company.

You will now be vilified for being racist, but this is a well known phenomenom. Political correctness shouldn't have higher value than the truth. This information could save some poor girl from being raped.

Very often they will approach girls at bus stops in this way. The girl doesn't want to leave in case she misses her bus and being (usually) fairly polite, she will respond to his opening smile and chat.

Sorry if people find the truth offensive, but this is a very common tactic.

No, it doesn't apply to ALL black men. Obviously. Just the ones who are rapists (and according to some of the PC types on another thread on this very site, the population explosiion in famine-hit East Africa is caused by the Women being raped. You can't have it both ways!)

OP's friend reminds me of Danny Lynch btw. Be extremely careful if he wants to meet you or asks you where you're going or what you're wearing.

*Chattie*

Miss_Scrooge wrote: »

Okay, I believed this thread at first but after reading the next segment, I'm pretty sure the OP is taking the !!!! now.

"He said he will not rape me or force me to do anything against my will because he is a parent (he has kids from an earlier relationship) and therefore could not afford a rape case on his record. He also said that "even if the woman is so aroused that I can smell her aroma, I will not force myself on her in any way. Even if you ask me for sex I will not do it yet." That entire conversation REALLY scared me."

Yeah, no one would ever say that. And even if they did, you wouldn't then ask for advice that would be obvious to anyone with a brain. Wake up people.

the OP would , already said in the thread she/he is a troll trying to spice up their lack of love life by parading it weekly here , now its turning racist , well done OP

K,A+P_2

Oh my word, noooo I'm not being racist! I apologise, I should have worded that differently.

Just to clarify I am not racist in the slightest! Never have been and never will be.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is, (but I'm not someone who worries or takes notice of the political correctness of what I'm saying, sorry about that!) some men from some parts of the world have different ways of "obtaining" a woman they're interested in. Some are more forceful than others, it's a cultural thing and I suppose in some societies where women aren't equal to men, they aren't given as much respect and are seen more as possessions. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

K,A+P_2

MissMotivation wrote: »

What a load of racist twaddle!!!

Also, that wasn't "twaddle" - it really did happen.

I wasn't being racist either - it's just that some men from other cultures don't understand the way things are in other countries and more than likely see no problem with being pushy and upfront about what they want.

It's best not to engage in any kind of conversation with them in the first place and then these sorts of situations can be avoided. That's what my point was.

QuantumSuccess

K,A+P wrote: »

Oh my word, noooo I'm not being racist! I apologise, I should have worded that differently.

Just to clarify I am not racist in the slightest! Never have been and never will be.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is, (but I'm not someone who worries or takes notice of the political correctness of what I'm saying, sorry about that!) some men from some parts of the world have different ways of "obtaining" a woman they're interested in. Some are more forceful than others, it's a cultural thing and I suppose in some societies where women aren't equal to men, they aren't given as much respect and are seen more as possessions. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

But then a lot of the black guys (the majority even?) are British born and raised and their parents may be British born and raised as well.

QuantumSuccess

As I said before I'm mixed race myself and I do not feel racism towards anybody, black or white. However, I have always had awful experiences with black men. With white men I've found that some are good, some are just OK and some are bad but with black men all the ones I've ever gone on dates with, been chatted up by etc have seemed to be, at best, not quite right.

hollydays

thistledome wrote: »

You will now be vilified for being racist, but this is a well known phenomenom. Political correctness shouldn't have higher value than the truth. This information could save some poor girl from being raped.

Very often they will approach girls at bus stops in this way. The girl doesn't want to leave in case she misses her bus and being (usually) fairly polite, she will respond to his opening smile and chat.

Sorry if people find the truth offensive, but this is a very common tactic.

No, it doesn't apply to ALL black men. Obviously. Just the ones who are rapists (and according to some of the PC types on another thread on this very site, the population explosiion in famine-hit East Africa is caused by the Women being raped. You can't have it both ways!)

OP's friend reminds me of Danny Lynch btw. Be extremely careful if he wants to meet you or asks you where you're going or what you're wearing.

What " phenomenon"? How is brute force different between the races,in a potential rape situation? Yes approaching women at bus stops is a known method,but white males use different methods to approach women,it proves nothing.

Li0nhead

I am really hoping this thread is a wind up but something tells me it is not and QuantumSucess is just really naive.

This man is a racist, pig headed, perverted and has no sense of responsibility for his own actions.

You are staying away and have informed him to.
Keep a record of this and any communication he tries to make with you and if you feel threatened in any way, take the lot to the police.
Ok he will try to make you that its your fault because your some sort of sexist racist but you need to do it.

Talking sex on the second date? did that not hit you as being a bit forward?

QuantumSuccess

Li0nhead wrote: »

I am really hoping this thread is a wind up but something tells me it is not and QuantumSucess is just really naive.

No it is not a joke. You're making me feel like I'm the most naive woman in Britain or something:eek::)

Li0nhead wrote: »

This man is a racist, pig headed, perverted and has no sense of responsibility for his own actions.

Yes, that is a very accurate description of him.

Li0nhead wrote: »

You are staying away and have informed him to.

Yes. And I hear he's already moved on to a new victim. That's good news for me but bad news for her....

Li0nhead wrote: »

Talking sex on the second date? did that not hit you as being a bit forward?

Yes it did strike me as horribly forward. I actually told him I found him too forward but he turned it around and actually boasted about how forward he is ("Yes I am very forward! Haha").

Another thing that bothered me was even after I explained to him I need to take things slow and that I wouldn't be having sex with him just yet just one or two days later he texted me to arrange details for a date and he included the words, "Just make sure you are super wet for me on Saturday evening." :( When I had a go at him about this and tried to cancel that particular date this is when he came out with his awful lines about he wouldn't rape me because he couldn't afford a rape scandal on his record. It was at this point that I really, really knew he was bad news/a predator. I avoided seeing him again ever since that moment although I did speak to him on the phone several more times after that. All that has finished now.

Bu then when I posted on here some people said they will actually sleep with a new guy on the 2nd or 3rd date so I began to think 'maybe this forwardness is normal?'

CH27

So have you emailed him & told him not to contact you again?