domestic violence

Lotus-eater

3v3 wrote: »

Heaven help anyone you sit on a jury for if they are awake at 2.56am, lack writing skills and their general tone.

And if they say they broke their GF's nose and drunk drove, then yes heaven help them. Also if they lied about it.

3v3

Lotus-eater wrote: »

And if they say they broke their GF's nose and drunk drove, then yes heaven help them. Also if they lied about it.

Your judgemental responses were clearly aimed at the OP's time-keeping, tone and writing skills, not his acts.

However, as you now choose to acknowledge his post, you are still choosing to ignore the OP's intent: he asked where to find help. He set out the circumstances, not for people to jump on the bash-wagon, he already knows what he did was wrong.

To those of you claiming to have your "backs up" because you are mothers, do remember, the OP is someone's son too. How would you feel if your son made the same mistakes, admitted feeling ashamed of doing the wrong thing, turned to people for help ... and didn't get any help, just condemnation?

My sons haven't made the mistakes the OP has (although they've made others) I prefer to think that if they got themselves in a mess and appealed for help, people wouldn't be so quick to condemn, scorn and would at least give them the benefit of the doubt.

katym79

erm....troll.

make_me_wise

Why have you left it this long before seeking help? Doesn't sound to me like you have taken the enormity of your problem on board in all this time. Only now, after the ex has contacted the police, do you want to address it!!!

Do you have any idea of the emotional harm you will have caused to your ex with your violent outbursts? She is the one who will need help for years, to come to terms with what you did. There is never any excuse for domestic violence. I felt physically sick when you said you had broken your partners nose.

Did you ever consider, when you were driving over the limit having a fight, that your lack of concentration could have ended with yourselves and innocent members of the public getting very seriously hurt/killed.

I hope you do seek help for your anger and violence problems. Do your ex a favour and leave her alone

3v3

Forum Etiquette:
Pls be nice to all MoneySavers.

katym79 wrote: »

erm....troll.

Evidence? :huh:

newcook

get yourself to your doctors and he can point you in the right direction.

for what its worth I think the pair of you want to thank your lucky stars that while you were having a p!ssed up physical barny in the car that you didnt cause an accident.

Lotus-eater

3v3 wrote: »

Your judgemental responses were clearly aimed at the OP's time-keeping, tone and writing skills, not his acts.

Correct, that's part of why I think he is a troll. I don't have to explain myself to you, that's my opinion. Live with it.

j.e.j.

If the case goes to court OP may be offered help. If it doesn't get that far then he needs to either pluck up the courage to speak to his GP or contact Respect, either use the phoneline or email them.

RachBc has already posted a link to the respect helpline. Just for info here's another link to their website detailing what they do and their contact details:

http://www.respect.uk.net/pages/get-help.html

There are other things the OP can do if he genuinely wants to learn how to think or act differently, - mindfulness approaches, anger management. If he happens to live in or near a city there are likely to be many organisations, for example Buddhists and/or meditation classes who offer courses.

3v3

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Correct, that's part of why I think he is a troll. I don't have to explain myself to you, that's my opinion. Live with it.

:rotfl: You really are quite rude, aren't you. Your statement says far more about you than it does me

pigpen

I am shocked you were capable of driving after hitting her once.. I'd have rammed your face through the drivers side window!!! and probably punched you in the throat so you couldn't breathe!

She is obviously far too nice.

GP for you to ask for help with anger and drinking.. both go hand in hand really..

Good on her for going to the police.. bit late IMO .. but if it makes you realise the error of your ways and means noone else has to suffer as a result of your anger and alcohol consumption it's not a minute too soon!

I hope you can get the support and help you need.. and make sure you share with your friends and family.. 'yes I did this horrible thing and these are the steps I am taking to stop it happening again .. You can bet many will be very supportive!