heartbroken

Percy1983

I quite like being single, it just appears I never will be again.

Maybe thats the trick I was 100% happy on my own before I met my fiancee and in many respects that is one of the strengths of our relationship, we are both independant people and happy to be so but we also make an excellent team.

coin_operated_girl

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Join the club!

No really we should have a club

Lol, done. Welcome everybody to the MSE singles club. Population: 2

Percy1983 wrote: »

I quite like being single, it just appears I never will be again.

Maybe thats the trick I was 100% happy on my own before I met my fiancee and in many respects that is one of the strengths of our relationship, we are both independant people and happy to be so but we also make an excellent team.

Yeah i guess if you aren't 100% happy and independent by yourself then you start to lean on someone else to provide that for you. Stupid hindsight.

fs110

Oooh yeh lets have a club

I agree with Percy. If i was a boy (well i am a boy!) I would wait for you to make a move in these circumstances. Otherwise i run the risk of making myself look like an idiot, or getting involved with someone who isnt ready.

Elle, you did really well. Well done. Next time it will be awesome!!! :j

coin_operated_girl

Yeah that makes sense. I dont want to make myself look like an idiot either though lol. Its hard to tell whether he likes me because he doesn't flirt with me so its not like i can pick up any little signals, but i think hes just not a flirting kinda guy. I'm not really a flirting kind of person either. Nor was my ex- the way we got together was that we had been friends for about a week and then one evening we were watching a scary film and i cuddled up to him and he went "so we going out now?" and i said "yeah i guess" :rotfl: It was like a true fairytale Turns out he later thought we were already going out because he took me to a comedy club one night, bought me my ticket and drinks but with me being thick i didn't realise it was suppose to be a date (i just said i'll pay next time as i thought that was easier than trying to spilt to cost of everything), thats why he had to ask me if we were going out because he realised that i wasn't aware of the fact we were dating lol -and that is why i hate being single, because i am an idiot.

I still don't know if i am ready for a relationship anyway. Its early days and theres no rush. I'm definitely not ready for anything full on or serious. But as everyone says, the main thing is i'm having fun and i'm not sitting around moping

Elle7

Definitely

Thought things had picked up a bit, had made plans to go to a theme park with a friend. Doesn't look like it will happen though...I think they are trying to slowly get out of having to go. Don't know if I'm more annoyed that I won't get to see them, and actually am not really deemed worth the time, or that I've already paid.

Starting from scratch is so, so difficult.

Anyways, I'm thread-hogging. Have you arranged another meeting yet? He sounds cute

coin_operated_girl

Elle7 wrote: »

Definitely

Thought things had picked up a bit, had made plans to go to a theme park with a friend. Doesn't look like it will happen though...I think they are trying to slowly get out of having to go. Don't know if I'm more annoyed that I won't get to see them, and actually am not really deemed worth the time, or that I've already paid.

Starting from scratch is so, so difficult.

Anyways, I'm thread-hogging. Have you arranged another meeting yet? He sounds cute

Oh no, i hate it when people do that. I dont understand why people can't just be straight and say they dont want to/can't go I'm sure its not that they don't think you are worth the time though.

I agree that it is so hard to start from scratch, especially when you don't work and so can't make friends the conventional way. Do you have many friends where you live?

Don't worry about thread hogging I like that other people are joining in and talking about random stuff so feel free to post away

I'm meeting up with him and another friend in an hour or so...and yes, he is cute

Elle7

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

Oh no, i hate it when people do that. I dont understand why people can't just be straight and say they dont want to/can't go I'm sure its not that they don't think you are worth the time though.

I agree that it is so hard to start from scratch, especially when you don't work and so can't make friends the conventional way. Do you have many friends where you live?

Don't worry about thread hogging I like that other people are joining in and talking about random stuff so feel free to post away

I'm meeting up with him and another friend in an hour or so...and yes, he is cute

Not really..It's a complicated story. I ended up here due to child protection issues...I'm legally estranged from my parents, now, and was caring for my two little sisters. At the time it was just getting away from 'home', to a safe distance, but when SS got involved with my sisters, I was too old to help, so they just left me here.

All my friends from school are quite a while away, as are my work friends. So volunteering is my best bet...I've started to apply but with my panic attacks getting very frequent and my health starting to go downhill again, I'm not confident I'll be able to persuade anyone to take me on!

Ooohh sounds good I hope you have a great night! It's rare to find a man who is nice and cute, keep your eye on him :rotfl:

fs110

Sounds like you have been through a lot Elle

coin_operated_girl

Elle7 wrote: »

Not really..It's a complicated story. I ended up here due to child protection issues...I'm legally estranged from my parents, now, and was caring for my two little sisters. At the time it was just getting away from 'home', to a safe distance, but when SS got involved with my sisters, I was too old to help, so they just left me here.

All my friends from school are quite a while away, as are my work friends. So volunteering is my best bet...I've started to apply but with my panic attacks getting very frequent and my health starting to go downhill again, I'm not confident I'll be able to persuade anyone to take me on!

Ooohh sounds good I hope you have a great night! It's rare to find a man who is nice and cute, keep your eye on him :rotfl:

aw man, sorry to hear that

How are you feeling today?
Have you found many voluntary places to apply to? I'm sure you will be able to find somewhere. From my experience doing voluntary work most places tend to be pretty understanding and accommodating. I think most charities tend to get a lot of people in a similar sort of position to us where they aren't working for medical reasons and are either trying to get back to work or are just simply trying to get out of the house for a couple of hours, so they will probably understand it (and maybe even expect it) if you aren't the most reliable person because of your health. Hopefully once you start the therapy that will make a big improvement to your panic attacks as well

Elle7

Hey I like this thread. It's kind of like virtual company, lol.

I'm not too bad today. I'm preparing myself mentally to catch the bus to Tesco...I panic too much when I'm out and about on my own, so I'm determined to go on my own and be okay. I probably won't talk to anyone, because it's just shopping, but it's a start I think.

I really wanted to work with Guide Dogs but they are quite slow at getting back in touch, and the jobs I really wanted to do are full in my area. I'm hoping there will be a waiting list or a vacancy soon...not driving makes it quite challenging!

How are you today? Was last night good? x