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lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

:rotfl:

Funny you should say that, I was asked for a list the other day I haven't had time to write it yet. I wouldn't want the kids picking it up by accident
It's my birthday coming up, so I'm guessing it will be a happy one.

I thought you were a nice boy for me? I meant a list like...mow the lawn, strim the thistles, paint the windows, move the electric fence, etc etc

coin_operated_girl

Percy1983 wrote: »

I am like that, I will always consider my reply so arguements just don't work + she is cute when grumpy, but saying this makes her more grumpy.

I guess this thread has moved on to next steps.

Yeah i guess it has Three weeks ago i never thought i would be "ok" with the breakup. I thought my world would crumble around me without my ex, but instead i have built it up to be stronger. I am still sad that i have lost the most important person in the world to me and that we have lost our future together, but one day i'll build a new future with someone else.

I just want to say thanks again to everybody who has helped me out these past few weeks. I have benefited so much from everyone's experiences and advice. It has also helped me to get my thoughts in order just by writing everything i am thinking down. And lastly, thanks for making me smile and feel less alone

Speaking of next steps...

Elle7 wrote: »

Thanks everyone...I'm getting ready to go now. If I don't think about it too much and just jump on the bus, I'm hoping it will be easier. Finding the pub could be a challenge itself, though!

I'll post back later and tell everyone how it went!

How did it go?

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

I thought you were a nice boy for me? I meant a list like...mow the lawn, strim the thistles, paint the windows, move the electric fence, etc etc

Well I wasn't planning on giving the list to you :rotfl:

Oh, that sort of list, I thought you meant the other type. My OH does say I have a one track mind. Which is a bit unfair, I also spend alot of time thinking about food. Anyway, looks like I'm in for a decent birthday present. :rotfl:

I really like the sound of your OH, I think he must be pretty spectacular to have snagged someone like you. And he puts up with your ideas as well!

Percy1983

I have just sent my order to my other half via SMS, its like my birthday everyday!

One of the many reasons I am marrying her.

Lotus-eater

Percy1983 wrote: »

I have just sent my order to my other half via SMS, its like my birthday everyday!

One of the many reasons I am marrying her.

I remember life like that. That was BK....

Times were more simple then, now we have to plan a week ahead :rotfl:

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I really like the sound of your OH, I think he must be pretty spectacular to have snagged someone like you. And he puts up with your ideas as well!

He's wonderful. I like to think he'd get on well with most of my MSE chums. And thanks for the flattery I don't quite know why he fell in love with me but I'm certainly very pleased that he did.

Any way, back on topic, you see cin operated girl, all of us have bounced back and ended up luckier than we thought possible. and certainly luckier than we desearve

Lotus-eater

lostinrates wrote: »

Any way, back on topic, you see cin operated girl, all of us have bounced back and ended up luckier than we thought possible. and certainly luckier than we desearve

Absolutely, I met what I thought was the love of my life early on. When I lost her (my fault) I thought my world had ended, I moped for months.

Then I met my present OH and was blown away. It would have been a huge error to have stayed with my first one, I see that now. I took it very slowly with the OH, it was months before we slept together, years and years before we moved in together. We both had lives to lead and uni/training/jobs to get done and sort out.
When we got to live together full time, we were both professionals in our chosen careers, went into it as partners, our years being together yet being apart, was perfect and enabled us to not feel as though we had missed out by being with one person the whole time.

coin_operated_girl

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Absolutely, I met what I thought was the love of my life early on. When I lost her (my fault) I thought my world had ended, I moped for months.

Then I met my present OH and was blown away. It would have been a huge error to have stayed with my first one, I see that now. I took it very slowly with the OH, it was months before we slept together, years and years before we moved in together. We both had lives to lead and uni/training/jobs to get done and sort out.
When we got to live together full time, we were both professionals in our chosen careers, went into it as partners, our years being together yet being apart, was perfect and enabled us to not feel as though we had missed out by being with one person the whole time.

Awww thats nice

Me and my ex definitely rushed things. I met him right at the beginning of uni and probably about 4-5 months in i had pretty much moved into his room (i didn't like where i was living) and then we lived together with a couple of other people during the 2nd year and then in the 3rd year we had our own place. We just loved being around each other so much that thats just the way it happened. We later on wished we hadn't rushed things so much. It meant that we didn't really get a chance to have our own lives and we never really did the whole dating thing. When he got made redundant a couple of years after uni and moved back in with his parents and i moved to London it turned out to be really good for us (until we broke up anyway lol) because we had some time apart. So i have learnt my lesson and when i find someone else i definitely want to take it very slowly so we can make sure we have our own lives and dont fall into the trap me and my ex did.

Lotus-eater

I think if you go out now and live your life for a while, get back into the swing of being single and having a good time, have your own life, it won't matter so much when you meet your next OH. You will be more independent.

When I met my now OH, we were really too young to be thinking about staying together for life. But I came home (was living there from what I remember) and told my Mum I'd just met the woman I was going to marry, her and her friend burst out laughing 20 years later, I think I've proved my point

You never know what's round the corner.

coin_operated_girl

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think if you go out now and live your life for a while, get back into the swing of being single and having a good time, have your own life, it won't matter so much when you meet your next OH. You will be more independent.

When I met my now OH, we were really too young to be thinking about staying together for life. But I came home (was living there from what I remember) and told my Mum I'd just met the woman I was going to marry, her and her friend burst out laughing 20 years later, I think I've proved my point

You never know what's round the corner.

Its funny how you get a feeling about stuff like that. My ex used to say to me he knew he was going to marry me from the first time he saw me. Ok, we never made it that far, but hey, 6 years isn't that bad going considering we were young when we met and i didn't fancy him at all at first (he very quickly grew on me though lol).