heartbroken

fs110

Dinah :embarasse i meant my message was too short so had to add characters. (Maybe you have guessed that by now)

Lol, i bet you use that quote a lot...just like dropping it in everyday conversations David Brent style

:rotfl: i would do if it were me


Elle, it sounds fun. Good luck and let us know how you get on :j

Dinah93

Sorry fs110 didn't mean to embarrass you! I just did a double take but aye, I realised.

Elle7

Thanks everyone...I'm getting ready to go now. If I don't think about it too much and just jump on the bus, I'm hoping it will be easier. Finding the pub could be a challenge itself, though!

I'll post back later and tell everyone how it went!

coin_operated_girl

Elle7 wrote: »

Thanks everyone...I'm getting ready to go now. If I don't think about it too much and just jump on the bus, I'm hoping it will be easier. Finding the pub could be a challenge itself, though!

I'll post back later and tell everyone how it went!

Hooray! Good luck and have fun

Percy1983

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

Lol, i bet you use that quote a lot...just like dropping it in everyday conversations David Brent style

I wouldn't do that, she would withdraw my access to what I am clearly so good at... for a short while. :rotfl:

fs110

Hooray again. Good luck Elle.

Dinah, dont worry you didnt embarass me, i was just playing. Although just to be clear, i would never cast aspersions on another mans ... erm .... length. Even if he is a celebrated stud.

Tete_en_l'Air

Hi Coin Operated Girl, I've been reading over your whole thread today and honestly some of your posts could have been written by me, from going on holiday and having him acting strange, to having scary dreams about him (he died in mine), to getting dumped the minute you get home - out of the blue and for no real reason. I totally empathise with you on wanting to send him a letter/email - I did this too. We had ended things quite badly and angrily but I wanted him to know that I didn't hate him and would be willing to give things a go if he did - he never did reply but I would always prefer to regret the things I did do than the things I didn't - at least this way I know I've done all I can - he knows how I feel and the ball's in his court.

I'm in awe of you and how you've managed to pull yourself together and be so proactive in such a short period of time. It's been a good six months for me and although I'm doing things, inside I feel like I'm going through the motions and everything is still bleak I'm not so much getting on with things to prove anything to him because he won't know, but more so that I don't look back on this time and see it as wasted, mopey time.

I don't have anything constructive to say really just wanted to post as you'd struck such a chord with me. You're doing brilliantly and are such an inspiration, and all the people who've posted on here have been so brilliant too. Best of luck with your date(?) tomorrow

Top of list of Things To Do: Find man like Percy!!

coin_operated_girl

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Hi Coin Operated Girl, I've been reading over your whole thread today and honestly some of your posts could have been written by me, from going on holiday and having him acting strange, to having scary dreams about him (he died in mine), to getting dumped the minute you get home - out of the blue and for no real reason. I totally empathise with you on wanting to send him a letter/email - I did this too. We had ended things quite badly and angrily but I wanted him to know that I didn't hate him and would be willing to give things a go if he did - he never did reply but I would always prefer to regret the things I did do than the things I didn't - at least this way I know I've done all I can - he knows how I feel and the ball's in his court.

I'm in awe of you and how you've managed to pull yourself together and be so proactive in such a short period of time thanks . It's been a good six months for me and although I'm doing things, inside I feel like I'm going through the motions and everything is still bleak I'm not so much getting on with things to prove anything to him because he won't know, but more so that I don't look back on this time and see it as wasted, mopey time Thats good you are doing things for yourself and not for your ex. Me and my ex dont have any mutual friends and we aren't friends on FaceBook any more so he will never know about what im doing- i'm doing it because i used to have quite bad depression, i got over it about 3-4 years ago and i never want to go back there. I think if i didn't force myself to do things i could quite easily slip back into that place. I guess my future feels pretty bleak at the moment too. We had planned our whole future together, even down to little details like names of children and how many we were going to have (even though we were never planning to have children for a good few years yet), so its hard knowing all that is gone and i feel a bit lost. Everything seemed like such a certainty when i was with my ex and i knew certain obstacles (mainly my health) were not going to be an issue when i was with him, but will be now i'm on my own. Although i have accepted its over, it still doesn't quite feel real, if that makes sense. .

I don't have anything constructive to say really just wanted to post as you'd struck such a chord with me. You're doing brilliantly and are such an inspiration thanks, i'm lucky enough to have a few people around who have really been there for me and are forcing me to get out and do things...some days i dont even have time to think about my ex, and all the people who've posted on here have been so brilliant too agreed, i am very greatful. Best of luck with your date(?) tomorrow

Top of list of Things To Do: Find man like Percy!! :rotfl: snap!

Thanks very much for your post. Thats really weird that our breakup situation was so similar. I think its probably harder that it happened completely out of the blue...its like you have no warning and i still feel a bit like my head is spinning and im thinking "woah, !!!!!! happened?!". I'm exactly the same as you, i don't regret contacting him because he knows the ball is in his court (although i am beginning to wonder now whether i would take him back) and that i know i have done i can do now. I think the fact that he hasn't got back to me has helped me move on a bit because i feel like he has made up his mind, so i guess that has taken any hope away.

How do you feel about your ex now? Would you still take him back? Do you think you could ever just be friends?

If you ever need to chat feel free to PM me.

Tete_en_l'Air

The more time moves on, the more angry I feel rather than upset - if he was here in front of me now I could probably punch him for the three years of my life he's wasted (I'm a bit older than you - 29 - and had thought he was the man I'd spend the rest of my life with, so they really do feel like wasted years - I could have been out meeting someone who DID want to spend their life with me in that time).

I don't know if I'd take him back. I'd want to but whether it would work or not I don't know, I wonder how much a relationship can come back from. I wouldn't want to be just friends though, sounds petty but it's true. And I think all the same things about him that you do about your ex, he's a brilliant person etc etc but he's just hurt me too much and it would have to be all or nothing.

I'm like you in that our paths would never naturally cross and he's not on FB at all so it's weird to think that if he doesn't ever respond then that's it, I'll never see him again, won't know what becomes of him or anything, after all we had together Like you say it doesn't seem real, I still can't quite believe it all this time later ... I don't think I'll ever understand what happened.

craftykez

Hi Coin Operated Girl, I'm a long-time lurker on these boards but have never posted before today. After reading your thread I felt I had to come out of lurkdom (if only briefly!!). I just wanted to say well done, you seem as though you are being really pro-active getting your life back on track and getting yourself out there meeting new friends and volunteering!

Having been through something similar myself, i think the shock of it all is the worst part. When it comes out of the blue like that you've had no time to prepare for it and it knocks you for six - I promise you it will get a lot easier!! I hope everything goes well for you - you should be proud of how you are turning a horrible situation into positive new opportunities for yourself!