poppyfield19 post gone about daughter pregnant

Oldernotwiser

CatValou wrote: »

I don't know if this has been covered already but how would we know whether there had been any unnecessary reports of abuse connected with that thread and who decides which ones were unnecessary?

It could be that there were lots of justifiable complaints about the very few posts that warranted it but, if there were only a small number of posters complaining about lots of posts then that would be unjustified as there weren't that many abusive posts to complain about!

Oldernotwiser

onlyroz wrote: »

PhDs don't normally last 5 years, and you *do* get paid to do them.

Only a minority of people are funded to do a PhD.

mountainofdebt

Gavin83 wrote: »

Im going to be the first to admit this, but I'm curious to know who the father actually is.

I must admit I was as well!

I must also admit I had several thoughts about poppy's daughter and the situation she found herself in as well but decided to keep quiet as I knew that they wouldn't be very popular.

*max*

Is this the longest thread-about-another-thread there's ever been on here? It's like thread-ception...

DoWhatULove-LoveWhatUDo

poet123 wrote: »

If you read all the posts as some of us did, then you can make a personal judgement on the veracity of the abuse reports. Obviously, if a thread receives a lot of reports, warranted or otherwise, the team has to check them out, that was what I read into the post by MSE Andrea.

Personally speaking I saw very few, if any, which I felt fell into the category of abuse.

I was subscribed to the thread and read it every time I got an email.

Isn't it possible that some abusive posts were removed before you saw them?

I don't think we should make the mistake of thinking that because people didn't post in the thread they didn't read it. Most visitors to this site do infinitely more reading than posting. Most rarely if ever even log in.

It's my assessment the abusive posts are the problem not those who do as the site requests and report them.

poet123

That does not tally with how I read the post from MSE Andrea, nor with the post Abuse made on another thread where they advised that those making unwarranted serial reports would, after a period, be called to account for it. I just think that the thread was too much work for the team as they had to keep on checking it when people were reporting.

If you went to the thread every time you got an email, I am sure you would have noticed if that post was abusive and mentally logged it as such, I did that on possibly one occasion. Similarly, if you went to the post later and the post by the person named in your email notification was not in situ one could assume it had been deleted, I have no recollection of that, do you? Additionally, post deletion is rarely particularly quick, chances are quite a few people see a post before it goes, none of the people who posted on that thread regularly and who are now on here can pinpoint a really abusive post/poster, and they usually stick in the mind.

Errata

Dozens or hundreds may have hit the abuse button on various posts, there is no way of knowing. The reporting abuse system reminds me of the Stasi, but I guess it's workable until someone comes up with Plan B.

poet123

I agree with the idea behind the reporting system, but I do think that on many threads it is being abused by those who can brook no deviation from their own views, and see a difference of opinion, or even a different way of phrasing that opinion, as abuse.

anguk

Well I'm guessing that by now Poppy's daughter will have made a decision one way or the other and I wish them all well.

I'm another who was curious about the father, mainly because it all seemed a bit odd to me. According to Poppy she had no boyfriend, was very shy, wasn't very sociable and only ever went to reading club or her friend's house and she was dropped off and picked up. So how did she get pregnant?

Either she had been lying to her mum all along (and was still stringing her along by refusing to talk about the father) or something sinister was going on either with someone in a position of trust or someone had taken advantage of her. I hope for her daughter's sake that the answer is that she was just lying to her mum.