Money Moral Dilemma: Should I have flogged my husband's bling?

ronangel

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But then there's so much we don't know. Perhaps the husband isn't very good with money and it's better that he didn't have £200 in his hand to spend on more bad jewellery or to waste on beer or whatever.[/QUOTE]

It was his money to waste on whatever he wanted to.:beer:
she could always go back to the company if it was very recently & tell them she has found out that it was not hers to sell, ask for money back offer to pay their postage expences.

cinderfella

No wrong thing to do. Personal things are exactly that. hands off.
Sorry - ask first.

Glosjools_2

Why tell him about it - if he hasn't remembered about it, he doesn't need/want it. Most people's lofts are full of rubbish that we no longer need. I regularly clear our some rubbish. My husband is oblivious to this. i wouldn't get rid of anything with sentimental value but would DEFINITELY get rid of anything that goes into the category of 'let's keep it - it may be useful one day'. Believe me - it WON'T be. Oh... thanks for reminding me about the silver jubilee crowns on a 'very; fetching silver chain...... where can they be now?...... well, wherever they are, they're also worth, precisely NOTHING.

ronangel

[QUOTE Oh... thanks for reminding me about the silver jubilee crowns on a 'very; fetching silver chain...... where can they be now?...... well, wherever they are, they're also worth, precisely NOTHING.[/QUOTE]

put on ebay some idiot will buy them!:)

wildthing01

did your wedding vows include 'all that i have, i give to you'? if so, then i think morally you're probably covered!!

i have to say though, i'd be annoyed if my other half did this - not because i think it's theft (in my marriage, i consider all our possessions to be jointly owned) but more because i'd want to have been consulted about whether i still wanted the item, and also about the best way to cash in on it if i decided to get rid...

georgemcghie

Should I have Flogged my husbands bling.

The fact that you have to ask is a total fail.

ronangel

georgemcghie wrote: »

The fact that you have to ask is a total fail.

no, it is a feeling of guilt so in this case the answer would be no

timbstoke

Have you told him you sold it? If not, how do you think he'll react if you tell him?

The answer to that question is the only important thing. If you know he'd say "Well done, it was old tat and we can use the money better" then great - but now you need to go and tell him. If he'd say "That was a £3000 necklace that I'd deliberately put up the loft because I knew it'd only increase in value" then you probably made a big mistake. And now you need to go and tell him.

sijohns

If your husband is Mr. T then you're in deep trouble fool!

loony.minder

As someone who has had this done to her by a very close, much loved, family member, not hubby thankfully, I think maybe you should have asked first. Although I am now over it and we now have a very good relationship the trust has taken quite some time to get back. I can see why this person took my jewelry though as they were desperately hard up and thought they had no other options. BUT to be told about their situation would have been better and I could have helped find a solution instead of having the incredible hurt caused by the selling of my belongings. Some I really wasnt bothered about but others I was. You should have discussed it first with your man that way he would probably have said "do what you want with it" as he had probably forgotten about it anyway. Learn from this and dont do it again.