Money Moral Dilemma: Should I have flogged my husband's bling?

Saetana

I don't really see what the "money" part of the dilemma is here, the necklace is sold, there is nothing that can be done about that now, whether the price was a good one is arguable but some of those sites are better than others, still, I would have checked a few plus local pawnbrokers for comparisons as gold prices are sky high at the moment - although, saying which, if the necklace was only 9 carat then I think some commenters have an exaggerated idea of its value and most chunky gold (nasty blingy stuff) is only 9 carat.

I think the accusations of theft are an over-reaction, they are married, joint property and all that plus the money has gone into their joint account, its not like the wife has taken it to spend on a new dress or something. My husband and I discuss everything so there is no way I would have done this, unless I knew for sure he didn't care about it (and it had no sentimental value, for example a family piece) and wanted to surprise him with the money or a gift bought with the money at a time when we were skint. Its a moral dilemma admittedly but not really a money one.

I really dislike people taking "the high road" in cases like this when we have no idea what the necklace was really worth, if its been in the attic for 10 years then its hardly likely to be of sentimental value, I don't see the point in leaving valuable but useless items gathering dust when money is tight. Whether you tell your husband, that is down to your conscience and only you know how he might react to it. Its hardly grounds for divorce though as one or two people have suggested, so far as marital problems go this one comes a long way down the list of priorities in my opinion.

HairyMclary

I agree with Saetana. Cash is tight apparently and the item can't be so precious if it's been put away for 10 years. Plus the money went into a joint account, not into her own. However if cash is so tight he might notice the extra money in the bank and what will she say then? It would have been better to discuss it first.

But then there's so much we don't know. Perhaps the husband isn't very good with money and it's better that he didn't have £200 in his hand to spend on more bad jewellery or to waste on beer or whatever.

anjak-j

Ask yourself how you'd feel if he'd done that to you and you found out about it later on...

I know I would [beeped] off if my partner did this to me. No-one has the right to sell another's property without permission; whether the item is liked is neither here nor there. Just a terrible abuse of trust for which there is no excuse.

Maddogjones

£200 !! If you're married to Mr T then... Runaway !! lol

Joking aside.. You really should have asked before selling them. If he's not worn them in 10 years chances are he'd probably say yes to selling them, especially if funds are low.

should you tell him ? - I say no.

bouncydog1

Totally unacceptable - the chain may have had some sentimental value for your husband but the point is it was his and his alone - not a joint asset.

Regardless of what you did with the money, you stole the asset and converted it to cash.

I hope that your relationship with your husband is strong - I would be livid if my OH did something like that and would expect him to react in the same way if I did it to him.

purplegaily

The ways this isn't right are many!!

My husband has a ring and necklace that I don't like. His ex gave them to him (we've been together 13 years, married 9) and he wears than daily - since day 1 of meeting him, and they are part of him. I would be on thin ice if i got rid. I have jewellery that y ex's gave me that I don't wear often, and my husband may mistakenly think I don't like any more - I just don't have the opportunity to wear them.

I lost a piece of jewellery that held quite a lot of sentimental value, and then found it 4 years later. If I discovered it had been sold because he didn't like it, then there would be serious questions to be answered.

You should have discussed it with him before getting rid, and as other posters have said - did you get the best value for your money?? Probably not.

Ebenezer_Screwj

Technically you are guilty of conversion, which is unauthorized dealing with or the assumption of rights of ownership to another's personal property. In other words you had no right to sell this item and your husband may well say now that it was merely misplaced and he wanted to keep it ! There may well be friction between you as well because he knows you always hated it . . .

JHC

What would you think if your husband sold some of your jewellery without asking?

You can't go around taking a person's possessions and selling them, even if you're married to that person.

My wife recently decided to sell some gold items she never wears now, including a necklace which I'd bought her 30 years ago. She asked me if it was OK, just in case I got upset that she was selling my gift.

She sold her gold through a local jeweller and got a good price for it.

IDProtected

Wrong as it was not hers to sell, but who keeps their gold in the attic??

kimberley111

IMO you should never had touched it,it's not about the money it's about going behind your husbands back and selling his property which you had no right to do