Money Moral Dilemma: Should I have flogged my husband's bling?

Aldahbra

I think you know you shouldn't have done it, that is why you feel guilty.

I think the real dilemma here is whether or not you tell him what you have done.

The moral high horsers will say "yes of course you should, honesty is everything. " but only you know your circumstances, your husbands character and other baggage you have. If it will hurt him or not. You should not off load to ease your conscience, just to hurt him. However how will he feel if in a few years time he is looking for it and can't find it. What will you say then?

Which action will cause least hurt in the long run? You decide.

What ever you decide the money is his not yours

plainjane2312

All you people who say it could not have had sentimental value are wrong. I have things in my loft which I have had for 20 years. Just because I don't use them or look at them often doesn't mean I don't value them. ie. the gifts given as christening presents have been there in a box for 20 years. How devastated do you think I would feel if my partner decided to sell them? There are things my parents had which I cannot bear to part with but do not wish to use. The money value is second to any possible sentimental value. Just because its in a loft doesn't devalue it.

mrsmoneybee

Eek, that is wrong. Randomly found my hubby's ugly gold necklace (18th bday present apparently, hasn't been worn since our first date!) last week. I told him I'm cashing it in as it's vile and if he wears it again I'm divorcing him! He laughed and said it was fine. Had he said he wanted to keep it it would have gone in the bedside drawer to live out its days.

I also have ugly gold jewellery that will never be worn again but if he cashed it in without consulting me there would be an almighty fall out.

scoobydoobydoo

Well I am going against the grain here because I dont see a problem with it! He has forgotten he owned it, she hated it and they needed the money. As his wife I am sure she knows if it has any sentimental value or not, I know what items are particularly precious to my husband.

Yes, I would probably talk to my husband first if it was me but we dont know what kind of relationship the OP has with her husband and what he would do with the money if he had it in his hand. But whats done is done so the guilt is a waste of time, it wont change anything.

Just make sure that the money is spent wisely on something you need rather than pis.... whizzing it up the wall ;-)

maom114

What you did is plain and simple theft. It doesn't matter that you're married to the person you stole property from.

scoobydoobydoo

maom114 wrote: »

What you did is plain and simple theft. It doesn't matter that you're married to the person you stole property from.

How can it be theft if she hasnt kept the proceeds? The money has gone into their joint account, she hasnt pocketed it and gone shoe shopping! What a ridiculous over reaction!

purplegaily

Cerisa wrote: »

Food's better than gold after all.

I don't know, you can get quite a few carats from gold

- sorry, lame joke kind of day here!

MkkDdd

I'd kill her.

judy1010

The necklace sounds awful and had been lost for 10 years, imagine if you had shown him your discovery from that attic and he started wearing it again, wouldn't that be awful! Maybe you should have shown him this, had a laugh about how awful it was and then went together to ensure you wouldn't feel guilty, but if there was a chance he would've started wearing it again, I would say you were right not to consult him! Married couples sometimes take each other's things down to the charity shops they despise and then later laugh about how it's mysteriously gone 'missing', I wouldn't take it too seriously! But I seem to be going against popular opinion here on the MSE board!!

pollypenny

You saved him from looking a prat. However, at £220 you were robbed.