Female neighbour always asking my husband for help round the house

jetta_wales

Oh for goodness sake put your handbags away the lot of you, jeez!

ska_lover

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

I'm not normally one for digging through old posts to bring things up, but I did have a quick nosey at yours. In this thread you say that it is usually other women who are jealous of you, in another you admit to being vain. One of the most ugliest traits a person can have. I cannot stand people who think they are the bees knees, more often than not those people are very disillusioned.

I have come to the conclusion that I don't like you.

I have come to the same conclusion re Got to Change after reading her name calling of a disabled child. What an apt user name.

birkee

Steel wrote: »

The other way of looking at this is right then and there she needs help and is going to the closest person she can who seems a bit useful.

I'll hold my hand up and say that when we move to our current house we were always next door asking for a hand. We've been doing up the house and there were things that needed two people and I didn't have the strength or height to help hubby with, or more usually there were oddities with the house that needed a second opinion from someone who was a handy DIY knowledgeable sort of person.

We don't do it so much any more after our neighbour took it upon himself to start second guessing things that needed to be done and waited until we went on holiday to do them. We once came back from a weekend away to find he had cleared a rubbly bit in our garden and were told by his young children that it took him all day and we should pay him. Some of the things they were saying it was quite clear had come out of either his or his wife's mouth. So now we don't ask for help at all. If it has to wait until a friend comes over then so be it.

Now there's a thought...maybe your husband could be in her face and interfering so much she gets fed up with him?

Sounds like someone else is a 'user'... not only that, but it's it's on their terms.
I hear a guilty concience in this post.

GotToChange

ska_lover wrote: »

Excuse me - you started these nasty comments. A general joke was made - which was clearly aimed at no one, and you jumped in and took it upon yourself to ruin the fun and jokes. You sound pent up my dear.

How can we be using age as a weapon? I don't know how old you are, you dont know how old I am? I could be 60 for all you know!

A joke that simply wasn't funny.... simply an attack on women "of a certain age" .... something that no female is able to escape. I made the same remark that I would make were I to be in the presence of such a pointless attempt at humour. Immediately, the sights were turned on me with inferences and incorrect assumptions (mainly about my age - so I don't know why you say that you don't know how old I am; you don't - but you ASSUMED) being made - by several people. It is such ugly behaviour -on the back of what I personally already considered to be an ugly remark, sorry - joke.

Again, the assumption is that I (yes, for example; but why not think of another one?) dress cheaply.... Again, wrong wrong wrong. You cannot say that older women have a problem with younger ones as though that may be the only issue.... Sometimes there are other reasons which can (sadly) be based on appearance (slimmer, taller, fitter, blonder - whatever......) and, as I said, no-one sees beyond that. I have an image in this village that I have done nothing to deserve but that has been based historically on my pastime of riding a huge and handsome grey horse around the area. Leaving aside that I never wore a hard hat and that people always think of s**t when they see horses around, the very practice of riding can sometimes make people think you are "up yourself" - and yet when people gave us (me and the horse) a chance, they would find out that for starters, he is the most pleasant, noble and child-friendly horse you could ever meet -and that I am not the aloof ice-queen that people assume....

The comment you make about making you (and others....?) laugh on this forum says a whole lot more about you than me.

jetta_wales

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

Now that really is disgusting. They way she's described herself i'd be inclined to suggest she changes her user name to haggard-old-trollop

Grow up!!!

Bloomin_Freezing2

jetta_wales wrote: »

Grow up!!!

No! I'm enjoying myself far too much!:D

jetta_wales

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

No! I'm enjoying myself far too much!:D

And that says it all doesn't it.

Bloomin_Freezing2

jetta_wales wrote: »

And that says it all doesn't it.

If gottochange wants to shut up now there will be no reason to respond and the thread can get back on track. But now you are joining in too.

GotToChange

Blimey - I seem to have awoken the beast(s)..... (just a saying).

Whoever said that they are referring to old posts - oh for Christ's sake; knock yourself out. Yes, I am vain - but healthily so - after having suffered the terrible self-sabotage that is linked to episodes of depression (that you will of course now say that I deserved), I am happy (as an ex-model) to be taking better care of myself. And sadly, there have been occasions where it has been suggested to me that certain things have happened "because so-and-so" was jealous.... (not always my own take on it, truth be told). I was out-and-out bullied right out of a job I loved by a newly brought in (female) Manager who was huuuuge, just as I had undertaken some major physical changes (some of which brought on by stress - i.e. weightloss); my union rep's take on it was that she "was jealous of me". Again, not 100% sure but it has happened on occasion. You cannot say in one breath that looks aren't a factor and yet be snarking that older women are jealous of younger - when looks has got to play a part in that.
I maintain that, whatever the ages of the people contributing to this topic, there is some pretty ugly stuff being "said".

And yes, the disabled child (teenager when I first knew her, now a grown young woman) was a spoilt brat. I am not the first to say so, and I do not believe that her disability precluded her being spoilt; the very fact that she was given a pony was perfect evidence of that... also the expectation that other people would take the lion's share of care of it. She was also demanding and quite obnoxious to her parents (although never to me). On the other hand, she had a heart of gold and steely determination. But, I say again, spoilt.

I am not sure if I am meant to be bothered by the insults that are being thrown at me. Again, says more about you (plural - sadly) than me - in my opinion.

GotToChange

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

If gottochange wants to shut up now there will be no reason to respond and the thread can get back on track. But now you are joining in too.

But the thread had already gone off track at the point that I joined in.... unless it was meant to be some kind of discussion of older women vs younger, menopause and the condition of women's nether regions.

And if one thing is likely to stop me from shutting up, it is you saying that I should.


(ska and BloomingFreezing - I have noticed the edits/deletions (I wouldn't have remembered tbh but I have quoted you)...... you still come across a as vile as you say that I am.)