Female neighbour always asking my husband for help round the house

POPPYOSCAR

Sounds like desperate measures are needed here.

Next time she knocks tell her he is out ......at the clinic, and you think you might have to go too!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ska_lover

GotToChange wrote: »

What a terrible attitude to have....are you exempt from the ageing process?:mad::mad:

In terms of the thread, I feel for you OP and you really do have to grasp the nettle and tell her what you feel if hints aren't working.
I have been the "neighbour" (it was the father of a friend who I would turn to with car issues [he was a mechanic for the Police]) and, although I didn't realise it, he developed quite a crush on me. His wife hated me because of it; the last time I bumped into her, she said - upon seeing that I had a different car, "It must be nice to have a car that works". Subtle eh? She has never spoken to me from that day to this and I see her out and about as she lives around the corner from me in a relatively small village. What made me most sad was that no-one told me when he died, until it was too late to do anything other than send a very belated condolences card.
I did nothing to encourage him - never would have. I genuinely needed help - in some ways, it balanced out (I thought, although not that it should have....) the help I gave to their daughter (yes, my own friend, although the same age as my daughter) with the pony she insisted on having despite being wheelchair-bound.....
The other side of the coin is that I encouraged my husband to help my (then single parent) friend with DIY; it blossomed into an affair that led to the downfall of my marriage.
The saying is, I think, "No good deed goes unpunished".

Oh Hello!! If you read my post in its entirety, how I was laughing at how some older women make snide comments to younger women - even family members - out of jealousy and your snide little reply has proved my point entirely. How hillarous!! Hahaha!:p I've never witnessed someone walk so blatantly into something!!!

Anyway, back to the thread, Can I just ask the obvious..why would you ask a neighbour to do your jobs, when you had a husband of your own? Or if he doesn't have the neccesary skills, or if he had left by then, what's wrong with taking your car to a garage, rather than imposing on someone else?

You didn't have the right to expect your neighbour to spend his time helping you. It is little wonder his wife disliked you - whether there were romantic intentions or not, at the very least you were imposing on their family time together. Yet you try to come across as an innocent victim and do not seem to understand why she wouldn't like you.

ska_lover

Ive got it!! OP I have cracked it. Next time she knocks, you and your OH stand a few feet away from the door making very load moans and groans so she thinks you are at it!! hahahah makes me giggle just thinking about it

princeofpounds

I'm a bloke and I'm kind of amazed that only a few people have pointed out that your husband needs to be the one to deal with it.

Let's face it, if it was just a DIY issue then a few 'I am sorry but I'm busy doing x, do you want the number of the handyman we use?' replies will be more than enough.

If it is a relationship issue, and you are concerned that she has designs on him, then it shouldn't be a catfight over a man. You should express your concerns to him and ask him to refuse her, probably in the same way, from here onwards unless you are involved in any decision to help. It sounds like he already knows this upsets you.

This way you do not have to confront her and sour neighbourly relations at all. She gets the message but in a manner that is not rude or subject to or based on potential misunderstandings.

POPPYOSCAR

ska_lover wrote: »

Ive got it!! OP I have cracked it. Next time she knocks, you and your OH stand a few feet away from the door making very load moans and groans so she thinks you are at it!! hahahah makes me giggle just thinking about it

Yes but she might then suggest a threesome!!!!!!!!

ska_lover

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes but she might then suggest a threesome!!!!!!!!

Hahahaha! I never thought of that one!

Kira000

I suggest that your hubby draws up a detailed invoice for all the previous jobs he has done, obviously he would need to be charging overtime rates for evenings and weekends, and an extra call out fee for those times when he had to drop everything because it was "an emergency" and it couldnt wait.

Next time she asks, he can hand her the invoice, and ask her to settle the account before he will consider any other work as no-one likes a non payer. He could express stunned surprise, if she tries to argue, that anyone would think that that much help would be given free to someone who wasnt a friend or family??!!

With a sufficiently large total on the invoice, i strongly suspect you will find that she will suddenly be trying very hard to avoid you both so the bill doesnt need paying.:D

diable

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes but she might then suggest a threesome!!!!!!!!

ska_lover wrote: »

Hahahaha! I never thought of that one!

you need to expand your mind........... ;o))))))

Bloomin_Freezing2

GotToChange wrote: »

What a terrible attitude to have....are you exempt from the ageing process?:mad::mad:

Why so :mad::mad:? Of course no one is exempt of the ageing process, but some women do have problems with younger women for no obvious reason. Do I assume by your :mad::mad: that you are an older woman too? Maybe you have problems with younger women - have you thought about that? Or maybe you are menopausal or suffering from dry lady bits as previously mentioned and that's what's got your knickers in a twist - literally!

Gigervamp

Dry lady bits! :rotfl:

Dunno why, but that just tickled me!