Female neighbour always asking my husband for help round the house

renegade

Try telling her that your husband has a list of charges for DIY jobs now and did she want a copy?

Primarni

Errata wrote: »

If your OH wants to help her out, he will. If he doesn't tell him NO is a very useful word.

I thought the problem was that saying no repeatedly didn't seem to be putting her off?

HeidiHi wrote: »

So far he's always been in the middle of dinner, just going out, or revising because he had an exam in the morning when she's come round to ask for help but him saying No over and over again doesn't seem to have deterred her.

Steel_2

The other way of looking at this is right then and there she needs help and is going to the closest person she can who seems a bit useful.

I'll hold my hand up and say that when we move to our current house we were always next door asking for a hand. We've been doing up the house and there were things that needed two people and I didn't have the strength or height to help hubby with, or more usually there were oddities with the house that needed a second opinion from someone who was a handy DIY knowledgeable sort of person.

We don't do it so much any more after our neighbour took it upon himself to start second guessing things that needed to be done and waited until we went on holiday to do them. We once came back from a weekend away to find he had cleared a rubbly bit in our garden and were told by his young children that it took him all day and we should pay him. Some of the things they were saying it was quite clear had come out of either his or his wife's mouth. So now we don't ask for help at all. If it has to wait until a friend comes over then so be it.

Now there's a thought...maybe your husband could be in her face and interfering so much she gets fed up with him?

paddy's_mum

birkee wrote: »

tell her to get a quote for a job, and your husband will do it for 25% less than the quote.

The trouble with this solution is that the neighbour might agree but then want "extra services" provided by the husband. If the husband is about to be coerced into .. ahem .. 'stud duties', the OP might as well be receiving the proper going rate for the on-the-job.

This is MSE after all! :rotfl:

POPPYOSCAR

paddy's_mum wrote: »

The trouble with this solution is that the neighbour might agree but then want "extra services" provided by the husband. If the husband is about to be coerced into .. ahem .. 'stud duties', the OP might as well be receiving the proper going rate for the on-the-job.

This is MSE after all! :rotfl:

My OH had to go around to someone to collect some money. She was expecting him and answered the door in nothing but a towel saying oops sorry just got out of the bath.

I told him he should have told her what his going rate was!!!

Bloomin_Freezing2

HeidiHi wrote: »

She's bugging me, but more importantly bothering him.


Any advice?

I'm glad that he feels this way. How annoying would it be if he couldn't see a problem here.

Giving her the benefit of the doubt, you are next door, it's easy to knock there and she's got thick skin so doesn't realise she's being a pain -just keep telling her he' busy/out/asleep etc, nopoint getting the @rse, she won't notice.

If however she is winding you up on purpose, knows exactly what she's doing then let her know in no uncertain words that she can clear off and get her own fella to do it. I'd definately stock upon handyman leaflets and give them to her next time she calls.

My (older than me, female) neighbour is always nice to my OH and was off with me the day we moved in. I now have no intention of being plesant to her now. She seriously has a problem with other, younger females including her daughters. I did comment to her once that the menopause had clearly hit her hard!

ska_lover

you are going to have to be diplomatic i think, as she is ONLY next door, so you dont want a fued to develop.
she may have unterior motives, or she may not - either way alarm bells as she has her own boyfriend she could ask.

If i was in your situation, i would expect my boyfriend deal with this himself and tell her he will not be helping in future.

ska_lover

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

My (older than me, female) neighbour is always nice to my OH and was off with me the day we moved in. I now have no intention of being plesant to her now. She seriously has a problem with other, younger females including her daughters. I did comment to her once that the menopause had clearly hit her hard!

Hahaha I love that comment - it must have hit a raw nerve there ooooooo!

There are some women like this aren't there, older females that seem to have a problem with younger women, and family members - I have noticed this. Its like, god damn love, you have had your youth - no need to be bitter! I am sure there is plenty to look forward to in old age, like vaginal dryness hahahaha

Barneysmom

You could go with him, next time she wants a job doing, maybe she'll get the message then.

KateBob

Always answer the door to her yourself and when she asks for your other half explain that he's busy (Revising/DIY/Washing his hair) and ask if her boyfriend can't help.

Or start popping round hers and asking her boyfriend to help round your house!

Keep doing this and she'll get the message, may take some time however as she seems particularly thick skinned.