Female neighbour always asking my husband for help round the house

soup

she sounds fun, I like diy and can certainly nail a shelf up fairly straight.

diable

soup wrote: »

she sounds fun, I like diy and can certainly nail a shelf up fairly straight.

Thats why you are single.........



Single women can twits men around their little finger. He needs to say "no" or you do on his behalf. lol

welshmoneylover

P'haps a smack in the chops might suffice! :rotfl::o

ailuro2

Say your husband is busy but YOU'd be happy to help...

then repeat as required. Make it clear your husband is tied up at the moment and will be for the next 3 weeks.

If she does have the brass neck to let you into her house, make sure you make a pig's ear of whatever it is even though you're capable of doing it.

Then she's got two good reasons not to ask you again.;)

retireby50

McKneff wrote: »

To be honest I think its some sort of different 'tool' she's after.

Tell your OH to deal with it in your presence.

...but she may not be interested in a threesome...........

kazwookie

You answer the door next time she comes round, and just say your husband is busy, but you could come and hold / help and makes a pigs ear of it while you are there.

Also keep any of those leaflets you get with handyman type numbers on them, and give her it, with words like we are busy for the next couple of months, so if you need a hand contact (number on leaflet).

birkee

soup wrote: »

she sounds fun, I like diy and can certainly nail a shelf up fairly straight.

'NAIL' a shelf up???? :eek:

Please stop doing DIY now.

maryotuam

"He's a nice guy, but he has a full time job with a commute, a part time job and is doing a college course to update his skills, not to mention that he has kids who don't see enough of him and jobs to do in his own house. "

Just point out this to her. If she's a decent person she should take this on board and if she doesn't , then that's her problem. She sounds needy and spoilt so it should be a relief to draw the line over which she cannot cross.

birkee

It used to be the case, that I was very capable of doing most things, and always seemed to be called on.
Relatives and friends just ask for a favour, and it's a one off (if you're lucky, and at this time.)
The trouble was, that there were so many people asking for help, that I was being put in the postion of neglecting my own family and my own DIY needs. One period, my Brother was even loaning me out to HIS friends too.
It took some time, but I had to start becoming 'unavailable' in order to protect myself.

Your neighbour is a 'User', and needs to be disuaded from being dependant on your husband. She'll get the message when you say something like, "No, I can't put your shelves up, because I'm having a bath and cutting my toenails", or in other words, your trivia is far more important to you, than HER needs.
Or, tell her to get a quote for a job, and your husband will do it for 25% less than the quote.

j.e.j.

..what a pain! If you can see it's her, just don't answer the door?