Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

moomoomama27

poppyfield19 wrote: »

Thanks for your post moomoomama, that's exactly how she is, she keeps saying one thing, and then the other.

She will do, it's very confusing, and really like I was, she's still a little girl, with not quite an adults head. Just be there for her, support her, talk through her options, and just make sure you keep telling her you'll support her whatever her decision is, that's what my Mum did, and it was of massive comfort to me.

It will probably take a little time for her to come to a solid decision, be patient with her (which I'm sure you are/will be), and she'll get there!

Welshdebtor

vax2002 wrote: »

She can not "consent" she is under 16. The law exists for a very good reason.
A lot on here dont agree with that law, some are even angered by it, but it is the law.

Go and do your homework for gods sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Torry_Quine

vax2002 wrote: »

She can not "consent" she is under 16. The law exists for a very good reason.
A lot on here dont agree with that law, some are even angered by it, but it is the law.

we don't need you to keep repeating this which is totally wrong and unhelpful.

moomoomama27

vax2002 wrote: »

She can not "consent" she is under 16. The law exists for a very good reason.
A lot on here dont agree with that law, some are even angered by it, but it is the law.

You're really not being helpful. Thank you for repeatedly informing people of ''da law'', but what's done is done. If it turns out it wasn't consensual, as in she didn't agree, I'm certain it will be dealt with, for now, even if the law dictates that under 16's cannot consent, she probably did, therefore you can stop scaremongering with your hysterical ''she was raped'' posts. It's not helpful to the OP.

RAS

poppyfield19 wrote: »

When I asked her about the father she said she knows who it is but 'we can't tell him, he'll be angry'. Refused to tell me who it is. I asked if I knew him and she shrugged.

I am not sure asking about consent is going to help here. He would not be angry if this was a straight forward case of rape. I suspect that she thinks she consented, even if she was "seduced" or groomed.

No-one knows who the father is except the girl right now but maybe we can make a few assumptions based on this comment?

If this is someone of her own age, then he is unusually sure of himself; this was not a juvenile fumbler.

More likely it is someone older than her, and that you know the person at least by sight.

I think you need to think now about your reaction if it turns out to be someone you know well or someone in a position of trust, in the legal sense or maybe the older brother or father of one of her friends.

Right now she does not need additional angst; she has quite enough going on deciding on her options regarding the pregnancy and she does not really have much time to make that decision if she wants an abortion.

So you may need to keep your counsel until that decision is made and then re-consider the situation.

MrsAtobe

Poppyfield, I think you're doing an amazing job. Does the support group do one to one counselling? I remember reading on Taxi's thread that this helped his daughter a lot, might it be worth looking into?

Hope your talk with your daughter later goes well.

POPPYOSCAR

I think a certain poster is just on a wind up here, perhaps it might be better for us all to just ignore their posts.

poppyfield19

Thanks everyone,

The group does one to one counselling or talking as a group/with the other girls in the group, really just what each girl wants to do I think. I don't know if one to one would suit her - she's a really shy girl.

poppyfield19

PoppyOscar, I think so too to be honest.

POPPYOSCAR

Glad it went well with the doctor. I think you are being a wonderful mum
and will see your daughter through this in the most positive way possible.