Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

poppyfield19

Morning everyone.

Thanks again - and to everyone who has shared their stories and experiences. It's really good to read all of your posts Didn't sleep much last night and just had the dogs out for an hour long walk while it is quiet. My daughter has sent me a text asking if I could pick her up at 8 rather than 9 this morning and she has woken up early and doesn't feel that well....

I'm sorry if I keep repeating myself, I really do appreciate all of the responses x

poppyfield19

Also can I thank everyone who reported the troll(s?), I don't understand some people

HRV

Hope all goes well whne you collect your daughter- you've had loads of great advice ( and some not so helpful:mad:). Keep strong- it WILL be ok one way or another xxx

jackieb

tomatoe wrote: »

Well illegal sex has occured here, best call the police for starters.

No, don't. Not until you've talked to your daughter.

I also got pregnant at 15. The best thing for you to do is to be supportive. I was afraid to tell my parents, and they found out accidentally when I was 7 months pregnant - I kept passing out, probably due to me still wearing my normal jeans! The thing that meant the most to me was how they didn't shout or give me into trouble - they just reassured me everything was going to be okay.

If you are going to keep the baby I strongly suggest you try to encourage your daughter to continue with her education. I was supposed to go back to school afterwards. Mum was going to look after the baby. But I chickened out. Couldn't face going back for fear of what people would say. I then got accepted into the local college, and I chickened out of that too. That's my one big regret. I had all the support there, but I was scared. Everythign has worked out fine in the end though. My baby is now 27.

mum2twinsx2

Good luck poppyfield19. I read thread last night but didn't get a chance to reply, as soon as hit Nine am I thought of you.
Can not imagine how many different emotions and thoughts are going through you at the moment.
I am sure with a little help things will not turn out to shabby at all.
x

busiscoming2

Poppyfield, just wanted to say I am thinking of you. Not an ideal situation and one that most of us parents dread. You sound like you are doing things right, she is a lucky girl. I hope you find a way forward together.

I have to say I am surprised at all those posters who said 'call the police' without knowing the circumstances of the pregnancy. Of course if it transpires she was raped or coerced into it then that is a different matter, but if it was with a lad she was happy to have sex with, why would you? It may be illegal under 16 but so are lots of things that we are all guilty of doing or have done in the past. Im sure most of us could have faced a charge of some sort at some time in our lives! Sorry for the rant.

poppyfield19

Hi everyone.

Just got time for a quick post....

Thanks for all of your posts once again. All appreciated.
Daughter is back home now, she was dropped off earlier.
We've had a long talk, cry, cuddle etc and I think both feel better for it. She was obviously nervous about talking about it but I told her how proud I am that she felt she could say something about the pregnancy. She said she had been 'planning' ways that she could hide the pregnancy so I wouldn't find out.

She told me that she has known for about a month now. She said over that time she's done 3 pregnancy tests.

When I asked her about the father she said she knows who it is but 'we can't tell him, he'll be angry'. Refused to tell me who it is. I asked if I knew him and she shrugged.

I am very worried about who the father is but I didn't want to get her to talk too much so she's upstairs listening to some music now and we'll talk again when I get back with shopping...

thanks again x

jackieb

Sounds like you handled it just right. Well done.

jenjade

hey hun,

my suggestion would be to ask her wants she wants. Hand her the control and see what she would like the outcome of this to be then support her.

children's centre often offer young parents groups may be worth contacting them later to support and advice both of you on matter. there are teenage buddy schemes in some areas also.

look for support. There is a simular thread cant remember what is is called but the child was older than yours but went though the whole keep it abort it discussion and used a counciller who was impartical. may be worth reading for ideas on what to do next.

Hang in there

Little_Vics

you're doing brilliantly - well done.