Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

lovesabargain123

Hi OP

I have no real advice for you but can only say good luck and send you a big huge (((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))

I also have a 15yr old daughter and it's a scary world we live in.

xxx

skintbint_2

Blue_Elephant wrote: »

Given that Dehaani/inahead/dehaan seems to post their vitriol at all times of the day makes me think they're either one of the "benefit scum" they hate so much or are "stealing" their employers' time. What do you think?

Reported.

possibly both?

katerinasol

Not read through the rest of the thread, only the first page so sorry if this has already been said/there have been new developments, but I think you should let her stay the night where she is, but send her a text saying you will support her no matter what or something comforting, so she isn't scared to come home in the morning.

poppyfield19

Hi - just read through all of your posts and want to say thank you all so, so much. I can't put into words how much all of your support and advice means to me, especially right now. She will definitely be getting a big big cuddle in the morning!

She has sent me a couple of texts, she said she hasn't told anybody and is going to watch films with her friend tonight and would rather they drop her off at the house tomorrow. She said she looks forward to being home and "hope you're not angry mum". Bless her....

I'll definitely not push her into anything. If she decides to get rid of the baby I'll know she's doing it for all the right reasons, and if she keeps the baby, again she'll be doing it for all of the right reasons. She's a bright girl.:)

I do think that if she keeps the baby, or not, she will still go on to do the best she can for herself. She's spoken a lot about her future and I don't think this is going to change anything.

Thank you all again x

polejunkie

Im 28 and my eldest is 13. Not hard to work out the age difference.

I wont lie and say it was easy because it wasn't, it was absolute hell back then especially coming from a very affluent area I was labelled with allsorts, verbally attacked by complete strangers, school was difficult and very nearly gave it up.

My mum became the primary carer when I went back to school, had to claim the child benefit for me and deal with doctors etc etc, even though I was her mother I couldn't take her to the doctors or give permission for anything as I was a child myself still.

Things might have changed but still the main points are your daughters education , your living arrangements and can you deal with having to look after a new baby 90% if your daughter returns to school?

Your daughter may well decide to continue with the pregnancy and opt to stay at school but she has to try and fit being pregnant, giving birth and having a baby in to that routine to look after in that routine, something has to give if your not prepared to step in and help with the lions share. And she will need help despite what she says.

I dont regret it for the world but I couldn't have done it without the full support of my family.

Oldernotwiser

poppyfield19 wrote: »

If she decides to get rid of the baby I'll know she's doing it for all the right reasons,

Do try not to use this terminology when discussing termination!

KiKi

skintbint wrote: »

possibly both?

....and signed up again. Spot the newbie.

poppyfield19

I won't - sorry if wording it like that offends anyone.

Also - why would I convince my daughter into getting a termination?

DON79

Nanana wrote: »

Hi, this must be a difficult situation for you.

There are lots of things to consider such as whether or not to keep the baby. I would recommend that you convince your daughter to have a termination. It's the right thing to do.

Best of luck to you and your daughter.

why are you so pro-abortion? and not for the first time either.... it is the daughter's decision and not up to the mum to convince her to do anything. The mum can be supportive of her daughter's decision which I am sure she will be.

DON79

KiKi wrote: »

....and signed up again. Spot the newbie.

too obvious