Daughter is pregnant - at 15!

Gavin83

I'd be really interested in how people would force their daughter to tell them who the father is. At the end of the day it is her choice if she tells anyone, all you can do is threaten to disown her and not support the pregnancy and would that really make you a good parent?

I think it's a little late for a grounding.

PootleFlump_3

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

You obviously haven't been here long!

We had a member who faked a breakdown and suicide on line. He returns regularly and is now supposed to have a female AE/;)

:eek: Attention seeker most probably (and a bit weird!)
I dont think the OP is lying about it though although I would personally have dealt with the whole situation differently.

shy-but-need-help

glitter03 wrote: »

Wow that is crazy, thankyou for your post.

Did you have your scan at the usual 12 weeks?

I just would expect with her being 14 weeks (approx) then they may have given more information than just a few leaflets

I've been scheduled in each time for when they've guestimated 12 weeks would be, was 9 weeks with 2 of them, 8 with another (but no heartbeat- missed miscarriage) 12 with one, 13 with one and 14 will the other.

Dawning

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

You obviously haven't been here long!

We had a member who faked a breakdown and suicide on line. He returns regularly and is now supposed to have a female AE/;)

:eek:

It amazes me that people need to go these lengths and I don't know whether they need care and sympathy or ignoring or what...

PootleFlump_3

glitter03 wrote: »

Lol you would hope not wouldn't you!?

I was on a parenting site when pregnant with my first child and there was a lady there who posted regulalry who we were all friendly with. She told us she was pregnant and went into labour very prematurely and then told us her baby had died. She posted pictures and everything.

We later found out she was lying about all of it, she never was pregnant and she had stolen the pics from her friend who actually had gone through something similar.

Thats awful although cant help but feel sorry for someone that would feel the need to do that particularly where fake pregnancies concerned. Some people crave attention and some are so desperate to get pregnant that they lie about it (and Im also very gullible, soft hearted and trust everything I read!! :rotfl::o )

Gavin83

Errata wrote: »

I'm not sure the mother has specifically told the daughter not to have sex and not to become pregnant. Some mothers have that conversation when their daughters are 12 years old, other mothers just hope for the best.
I think the bald facts are that the daughter doesn't trust the mother and won't be honest with her. Finding out a 15 year old daughter is pregnant is tough enough; realising that your're not trusted by her and she's also dishonest is a bitter pill to swallow.

I fail to see how she's been dishonest, she hasn't lied to her mum from what I can see.

To be honest if I was in her shoes I wouldn't have told my parents at all.

Pollycat

gordikin wrote: »

The amount of guesswork going on this thread as to who the father is astonishes me. I don't think it's helpful IMHO.

I think this is a really sensible post.

I feel that a lot of posts on here are akin to a car crash with lots of rubber-neckers all wanting to see what's going on - all this speculation about who the father and the circumstances surrounding the actual conception just seems somehow wrong.

glitter03

PootleFlump wrote: »

Thats awful although cant help but feel sorry for someone that would feel the need to do that particularly where fake pregnancies concerned. Some people crave attention and some are so desperate to get pregnant that they lie about it (and Im also very gullible, soft hearted and trust everything I read!! :rotfl::o )

I know it is very worrying. I think i would be able to understand it if she was unable to have children and wanted to feel part of the group or something. However, she did have three children so i am not sure what her motives were

pelirocco

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

It may not be a popular viewpoint but I feel that a little less trust and a little more "spying" might have avoided this situation altogether!

It is, after all, the daughter who has betrayed the trust that her mother put in her.

For someone who says how wonderful the swinging sixties were you do have some funny ideas sometimes .


At the end of the day all the poor girl did was have sex and get pregnant ..........the fact that a lot more dont get pregnant has a element of luck about it .........and I think that goes for the majority of posters here .

Its not ideal , but on a scale of 1 to 10 of things that could happen to any of us , it rates pretty low on the disaster side

And as for her not wanting to tell who the father is , that could indicate that there is something untoward , or the fact that its just another difficult thing to confess to

poppyfield19

What good would spying have done? I don't see how it could have prevented any of this to be completely honest.