My friend family are controlling her - I need help please

blue_monkey_2

rachbc wrote: »

So she is in her home with her husband - where are her mother and sister during the evenings? Are they at the house...if not can you go there to talk to her, if they are then why isn't her husband telling them to leave?

Yes, they are there all the time. They are nasty to the husband, real nasty. He is trying not to be confrontational - because they tel her they are. He just puts up with it.

He grew a pair and fronted up to them yesterday. He has never done that before.

I found out today that her mother and sister sorted her dovorce, spoke to the solicitor and gave him all the (false) information - and took her there saying it was a chat but the work had already been done.

Also they told her, when she said she was going to the doctors about her eating 'get it on file that he is abusive and controlling and deal with the eating issue another time'. :mad:

After my husband spoke to them I do not think they will ever show their face in the village again. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I have started a couple of threads asking for help with different things and everyone has been amazing. Thank you everyone for your contributions, help and support.

gorgeouslatinrose

well done! sounds like you managed to do more in one day, than she could have done. I hope you and your husband are both okay, i think it would be very hard for them to get away with it all, even if your friend comes back and denies it. Thank god the police took notice. I hope it all goes okay for you in the next couple of days, but I hope your friend realises what a good friend she has .

diable

I haven't read through the whole thread but where are they from?

DON79

blue_monkey wrote: »

Just to add to the lady from JW - I am so sorry if I implied things, this is what they do at KH here, this is what my friends mother told her - that there was a glass box at the back of the room and if she has sinned she has to sit in it but she would not do that. I do not know anything about the religion so I am sorry if you was offended by this. I was trying to show the contempt her mother shows. Maybe it does not happen and her mother was trying to big herself up or something, but was saying what she told her daughter.

Thank you for advising on how it really is, I hope that following this they get shamed to leave the church (I am sorry if not using the correct terms).

Hmmm, I now wonder if she goes at all. Maybe she was wanting to look like something she is not. I am not sure, this is what she told my friend though. She probably lied about that.

They picked the wrong person to mess with when they involved me I am afraid, having been there before I knew exactly what they were - only they screwed themselves by reporting her missing. Ironic, isn't it really.

Now I need a long hot bath. Thanks again, all of you, for helping me to get my head in perspective. Everything for a reason, this had to happen this way, although it has been a long, long ride.

Hi, I am not offended at all - it just sounds like she has told a load of lies though about what goes on, like you said to make herself sound "tough".... I doubt very much that they are still JW's but are still going in an attempt to stir things up in some way.

And if that is what is happening at that KH - there is something seriously wrong and I am glad I don't go to that KH!! :eek: Can you give me a general location of the KH? as I am curious now lol!

Her family sound really nasty and I hope she & her husband and daughters can finally have their own lives back. I am glad she has such a good friend as you. :A

Also just to add - JW's believe in marriage so there is no way a real JW would try break them up if married. or pour alcohol and drugs into someone, or suggest they go out clubbing/set up a date with other blokes whilst still married...

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Have you considered adult social services at your local council? They might be able to help, as well as children's ss, as they are affected by the abuse as well.

blue_monkey_2

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Have you considered adult social services at your local council? They might be able to help, as well as children's ss, as they are affected by the abuse as well.

I contacted A SS first Jojo, they told me to give her the number for relate, tell her to go to her gp and to go and see the childrens school so they could 'counsel me through my guilt'. They did say they would make a note for CSS.

I was a bit shocked to be honest and came off the phone realising just how things happen to people and they get abused, they did not want to know.

Errata

He grew a pair and fronted up to them yesterday. He has never done that before

And not before time after 15 years of being with her! Let's hope they don't shrink back to their past miniscule size.

blue_monkey_2

Errata wrote: »

And not before time after 15 years of being with her! Let's hope they don't shrink back to their past miniscule size.

Me too!!

I found out this morning they did the exact same to her sister (the one also bullying her) they had this relentless onslaught of him until they split up her and her husband and found her someone else.

They obviously did not count on my sticking around too long though. He would have given up had I not encouraged him to carry on fighting. Thing is, i said that even if he left her, they would do this over and over again so she would still not be happy.

I have so not finished with them, it is time they had a taste of their own medicine..... Call it Karma if you will..... :cool:

WelshBluebird

blue_monkey wrote: »

I have so not finished with them, it is time they had a taste of their own medicine..... Call it Karma if you will..... :cool:

I have been following this thread for the last few days. I am so glad that you have managed to stick by her and make her see what was happening.

But I will say this. Don't stoop to their level.

blue_monkey_2

OMG. The police are kicking their !!!!!!.