His parents don't know there is a baby :O

Lunar_Eclipse

I don't think this has got anything to do with you 'teaching him a lesson', whether you're happily living apart, married, single or otherwise. It's about a child. The child has a right to know their biological family. Thus I would want the grandparents to know, but wouldn't want to take part in any devious or spiteful behaviour in telling them.

If I was in this situation, I would tell the father of the baby that your child has these rights and you want his parents told. You expect him to tell them, or you will be forced to tell them yourself, for your child's best interests.

In reality, this may well not be the easiest option. But I always think adults should make the right decisions where innocent children are concerned.

pimento

abby1234519 wrote: »

I'm due in July and had intended to Facebook a photo of the newborn to his relatives saying I understand you probably don't want to be involved but I thought it only right to send you a picture of your grandchild.

Please please please don't do it on Facebook.

vroombroom

Abby re uni, have you applied for childcare yet? You need to send your CCG1 form off sharpish as there is a 4 week delay on them. You'll need to pay the nursery fees upfront - SFE don't send the payment till 19th Sept (and thats provided they get it processed on time!)

Have you secured a place for your littlun? We registered ours on Saturday, he'll be 19 weeks when he goes in and I feel scared and uneasy about leaving him but I know it will do him the world of good.

I'm only in uni 12 hours so it'll be split down 2 x 3 hour sessions and a full day for him x

Re your ex. Why not ring him rather than text/facebook and say you want his parents to know. Don't give him the chance to say no - its their decision if they want to be involved and if they don't, at least you can tell your son in the future you tried. They might be a great support system, you never know x

PM me if need be x

Mojisola

abby1234519 wrote: »

I found out the other night that because his dad was being a "hypocrite" and saying that he had to be involved he told his dad that I had had an abortion. He has only just told me now because he thinks I am "cool with it" but didn't know how I would react at the time. He has told his mum the same.

I have a funny feeling that if his father knew that there was a child he wouldn't pay for him to do a Masters in america next year....he would make him be involved (even though his dad lives in Japan) somehow. And that would make him very bitter as he has no emotional attachment or anything. P

The father seems to have a lot riding on not telling his parents that he lied to them and that there still is a baby coming into the world.

abby1234519

pigpen wrote: »

4.5 out of 5 given over 800 reviews.. I think that is a pretty good mattress TBH!!!

I've asked her what she thought and it was that reviews such as

"Good value mattress, but doesn't feel the best quality and is quite hard. The foam layer on the mattress feels very cheap and the protective cover feels very synthetic. Having said that, our toddler sleeps really well on it!"

put her off. I don't exactly know why, shes the sort of person who reads the bad reviews even if there are only 10 yet 800 good ones

**Patty**

LilacPixie wrote: »

http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_3489_10751_-1_57684_102380_10001_14729

thats the one we have. Well worth it IMO.

I bought that mattress....I couldn't beat it anywhere else for quality or price :T

abby1234519

Nope, baby isn't born! I've got the forms filled out by the nursery in advance as they understand I want to send everything off once he is born. I've got all my forms filled in I just have to fill in his date of birth and name (beacuse who knows, it could be a girl). I don't think he will start nursery till 26th or later (october) so it does give me a bit of extra time but not much. My student finance application is currently processed as being non income assessed so I do have some funds coming on the 26th September. Its a case of Student Finance updating my application with the baby details. Luckily the complaint I made meant I was provided with an email for someone at the darlington centre and told if I scanned everything in eg evidence etc that I could send it by email so they would get processing it quickly. So I can send the form off to prove I have a dependent with his birth certificate and the childcare grant form via email as quickly as possible after his birth. But I would have to wait for my child benefit claim/tax credits to come back which could be a month after his birth? I am hoping I manage to make it in time to get everything sorted by October! I will get about £1300 at least in September guaranteed but I am meant to get over 3k plus childcare grant.

vroombroom wrote: »

Abby re uni, have you applied for childcare yet? You need to send your CCG1 form off sharpish as there is a 4 week delay on them. You'll need to pay the nursery fees upfront - SFE don't send the payment till 19th Sept (and thats provided they get it processed on time!)

Have you secured a place for your littlun? We registered ours on Saturday, he'll be 19 weeks when he goes in and I feel scared and uneasy about leaving him but I know it will do him the world of good.

I'm only in uni 12 hours so it'll be split down 2 x 3 hour sessions and a full day for him x

Re your ex. Why not ring him rather than text/facebook and say you want his parents to know. Don't give him the chance to say no - its their decision if they want to be involved and if they don't, at least you can tell your son in the future you tried. They might be a great support system, you never know x

PM me if need be x

But yes I have secured a place at the Happy Baby Day Nursery in Headingley, seems really nice and the girl I've spoken to and visited etc is nice. And the kids are rather happy! I don't like the idea of leaving him at 3 months but ohhhh welll. Needs must.

We have spoken about his parents knowing, he refuses to tell them...I can only just let him do what he wants. I can't contact them as I don't know them, I just know the fathers name and I can't find his siblings on Facebook anymore.

abby1234519

Mojisola wrote: »

The father seems to have a lot riding on not telling his parents that he lied to them and that there still is a baby coming into the world.

Well apparently the whole masters thing isn't happening. He is staying in the same city as me now...he said, if he sees me in the street he will say hi but it would be awkward if I am with the baby...yes...yes it would. More so if I am with my boyfriend! But quite rightly so, its his biological child after all. I haven't spoken to him since yesterday, will contact him next week so see what he wants to do about this money.

I'm probably going to buy that kiddiecare mattress someone recommended, I don't need a new cot I have one that will do, it was the one before that that was broken. This one does maybe need a coat of varnish where it looks like a child has chewed it! And I'd like to buy a mobile for the cot otherwise the baby will be staring at a white ceiling. Although, are they necessary? I don't believe in buying unnecessary things!

RAS

You can make a mobile if you want. Saw a gorgeous one made from sea shells, feathers and dried fruit slices covered in coloured wax. Or use use fabric scraps.

abby1234519

pimento wrote: »

Please please please don't do it on Facebook.

I wouldn't have had any choice I don't know his family, I have never met his family, I don't actually know his mothers first name. As I said I don't have the means to contact them now anyway so really, it is completely up to him. And I know what his answer to that is!