His parents don't know there is a baby :O

abby1234519

kelloggs36 wrote: »

maybe the grandparents would love to have a relationship with their grandchild, and by denying its existence, you are denying them this opportunity? I would make contact with them and give them the chance to see if they want to be in your child's life - if not then you need do nothing more. As for money, it is up to both of you to contribute to the costs of this child, and you should not feel guilty for asking him to pay. Good luck.

He is the one denying the existence, since the earlier posts in June I have tried to contact them. My only means was via facebook and I had mentioned I could contact them via his sister and brother. However...now when I search for them on his profile they aren't there. I literally cannot find them. I've tried searching for his address as in his mums on a peope finder service but no luck with that, perhaps because he is staying in this city he isn't registered there. I know some people think he should be the one to tell them, I just thought a quick message and a photo when he is born would be nice.

abby1234519

pigpen wrote: »

Then you put it in the bank either in the baby's name or yours and save it until you do need something!!

You should have a new mattress anyway.. it is part of the cot death recommendations that your baby doesn't have second hand mattress.

Wellll that IS my plan.

But thanks I didn't know that about the mattress, I will see when he is planning to give me this money and order it to arrive at mums. The cot isn't built yet as I left the bolts at mums (was so annoyed) but I can order the mattress to here as dads going to take me and the baby back when I go home. We found one on the boots website that is sprung and has some foam, I didn't think a foam one was worth it!

pigpen

no the foam ones aren't as supportive and are not very good value, I always get sprung ones for mine.

Fire_Fox

abby1234519 wrote: »

I do have most of the stuff I need now from freecycle etc. My house was furnished (within reason) and I did get a cot etc from freecycle. I got a few things like coffee tables, toaster etc for free. Oh and the dining table from my grandma. My grandma bought me a pushchair. The only things that need buying are a new mattress for the cot as the one I have is a bit battered and probably not best for a newborn. So thats £60 from Boots. I do have an inbuilt circuit breaker, the only thing is there are hardly any plugs and I am hoping my landlord will agree to making the OLD single ones into doubles. And one switch has snapped off. For instance the fridge freezer is plugged into an extension cord and I know surges can make things blow. I have 1 plug I can use in the kitchen, and I'm going to have things like the baby steriliser etc (bargain avent steriliser at £3 from a carboot!) so am worried about that. I can't actually think of anything else I need for the baby really. I have been given a lot of things. The only problem is my mother has a habit of coming home with things like baby hair brush (£2) and other random things that add up. My sure start maternity grant has literally already gone on the cot and things. Everything is second hand though, like the breast pump was £8.81 for an electric one.

I know its a good 6 months before he will be moving around but I would rather make the house safe for him in advance as I probably won't have the time when he starts moving around as I wil lbe studying hard. As for the bits and bobs I can't reaaaally get rid of them. its things like torches, screwdriver set, money tin, then tubs with things like fuses and batteries in. I don't have the kitchen cupboard space for them (who doesn't install drawers in a kitchen?). I literally have no storage. So if I got a cheap second hard sideboard I could pack that all away and put my door safety baby lock on it! Basically I would spend the £200 on a £60 mattress, then maybe £30 on the sideboard and I could probably put the rest away as an initial investment for the baby I think.

Why don't you just move house to somewhere with more practical electrics and more drawers? Agree with you completely kitchen drawers and enough sockets are essential. Single sockets and snapped off switches says to me old wiring, it may not be safe to simply add double sockets or use an extension lead on the ring main. :eek: Not 100% sure what you mean by surges, but that vast majority of tripping the circuit breaker incidents is a bulb blowing or badly wired plug on a small electrical item or overloading the ring main. Nothing to do with extra electricity coming from the power station; if your power is tripping out at random you need to track down the culprit.

abby1234519

pigpen wrote: »

no the foam ones aren't as supportive and are not very good value, I always get sprung ones for mine.

I sat down and read a lot of reviews which said often the foam ones disintergrate

This was the one we found, although when I originally looked it had 20% off so was £57 I think, something like that. So I am going to wait to see if another offer comes around or try to find some sort of boots voucher! I know I will get 10 points per pound for it as I am part of the baby club but that only really equates to the delivery fee I think.

http://www.boots.com/en/Tutti-Bambini-70x140cm-spring-cot-bed-mattress_1208894/

abby1234519

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Why don't you just move house to somewhere with more practical electrics and more drawers? Agree with you completely kitchen drawers and enough sockets are essential. Single sockets and snapped off switches says to me old wiring, it may not be safe to simply add double sockets or use an extension lead on the ring main. :eek: Not 100% sure what you mean by surges, but that vast majority of tripping the circuit breaker incidents is a bulb blowing or badly wired plug on a small electrical item or overloading the ring main. Nothing to do with extra electricity coming from the power station; if your power is tripping out at random you need to track down the culprit.

Can't I've just moved in! And whilst the electrics aren't practical, the rest of the house is compared to everything else on offer in Leeds. Because of the type of accomodation, ie back to backs etc it was a struggle finding a "normal" house. All of the houses in Hyde Park have bedrooms on seperate floors, steep stairs etc and aren't generally in that good condition. I could have lived further out but then getting in to university would be a hassle and getting the bus at 8am with a baby would have been a nightmare. So I live somewhere that I can walk to the nursery (25 minutes) then walk from there to university or get the bus direct for £1. I have to go back on myself to get to the nursery then university but it looks to be a really nice nursery. And then with the house its a normal house, everything is where it should be, there aren't any random rooms, by that I mean when a student landlord has created a bedroom out of a living room or visa versa. It isn't massive but it has enough space for me to live comfortably for the next two years of university. I do have to use housing benefit to pay for most of it but my theory is that its better to do that for 2 years and HOPEFULLY find work after graduating than to not continue with university and struggle to find work. Mum said that nowadays you buy drawer units or cupboard units, so you can mix and match and for some reason the landlady simply hasn't installed the drawers. Its not a new kitchen, its actually a really badly designed kitchen, I've got enough cupboard space an then there is a massive gap for a tumbledryer (which I shall have in September) and I could probably fit one of those plastic drawer units under there. So far I've managed as there is a tiny metal trolley trolley shelved thing and I've put all the utensils on there but I think I will need a plastic drawer thing to store half of the baby bits. I am going to ask her if she will do an electric service thing as it does make me nervous and I think I am well within my right to when I will be using a lot of appliances for the baby and I don't want to blow up the house

By the surges thing, you know when the fridge suddenly makes more noise when it is cooling down? Mum says it surges above its normal ampage (?) so it could trip the electrics if the wiring is old? As the fridge is plugged into an extension lead I can't plug anything else into it? However I do wonder how the last tenants got on, when I looked round I didn't actually notice the lack of drawers but I know lots of things were plugged in to the extension

I'm at university for 8 hours a week I just got my timetable as I was able to choose my seminar groups. 1 hour monday at 5pm, so he has to go to nursery for an afternoon but it means I can use the afternoon before the lecture to work at the library. Then I'm in 12 till 2 on a Tuesday and Thursday which means I have to pay for a full day but he doesn't have to go in for a full day or I can take advantage of it to go to the gym, get my food shopping done things like that. And then Friday I am in 9 till 12 so thats a straight morning session. Its not as bad as I thought it was going to be, I know I will still struggle to abandon him at nursery but as I am only at university for a couple of hours at a time it gives me time to get used to it.

sulkisu

abby1234519 wrote: »

So I am going to wait to see if another offer comes around or try to find some sort of boots voucher! I know I will get 10 points per pound for it as I am part of the baby club but that only really equates to the delivery fee I think.

http://www.boots.com/en/Tutti-Bambini-70x140cm-spring-cot-bed-mattress_1208894/

Delivery is free when you spend over £40.

LilacPixie

http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_3489_10751_-1_57684_102380_10001_14729

thats the one we have. Well worth it IMO.

abby1234519

LilacPixie wrote: »

http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_3489_10751_-1_57684_102380_10001_14729

thats the one we have. Well worth it IMO.

Think mum looked at it and thought that it wasn't so good going by reviews? Whats your review maybe I can persuade her!

pigpen

4.5 out of 5 given over 800 reviews.. I think that is a pretty good mattress TBH!!!