Dad associating with convicted sex offender

meritaten

you are being protective because you know in your heart that you shouldnt leave your kids with your dad. Sorry hun, but if he isnt a peedo himself then he is an enabler for one!
I would certainly block all access to your kids! including facebook where photos of them are available are they not? and his mate is making images...........do you know what that means? it means that your kids faces could be superimposed on other kids bodies and sent around the pervert community.
I do not want to sound harsh, he is your dad but, I would cut him out of my life if I was you and make sure he has NO access to my kids - in real life or online. He sounds a nasty piece of work - stay well away from him!

poet123

pinkcandyflossprincess wrote: »

no thank-god. only i and the oh look after the kids apart from a once a year deal with mom where she will watch them for a week while we have a break together( well shes done so twice so hoping for a 3rd time this year:p)
Ive allways been protective over mine but it makes me wonder why i am now or being so protective is just something all moms :odo?

It is something all good mums do, but your comment gives me pause for thought. Do you suspect you have another reason for behaving that way?

Trust your instincts, gut feelings are best acted upon. Don't be lulled into a false sense of security simply because he is your father. Protect your kids and listen to yourself.

CH27

pinkcandyflossprincess wrote: »

did wonder..oh dont drink:rotfl::eek:

Sorry:embarasse

pinkcandyflossprincess

meritaten wrote: »

you are being protective because you know in your heart that you shouldnt leave your kids with your dad. Sorry hun, but if he isnt a peedo himself then he is an enabler for one!
I would certainly block all access to your kids! including facebook where photos of them are available are they not? and his mate is making images...........do you know what that means? it means that your kids faces could be superimposed on other kids bodies and sent around the pervert community.
I do not want to sound harsh, he is your dad but, I would cut him out of my life if I was you and make sure he has NO access to my kids - in real life or online. He sounds a nasty piece of work - stay well away from him!

hes blocked now so one less place he can harrass me.:o
im now in some kind of stess induced fever, got the shakes and my "sick jumper" on reserved for moments of need and comfort.
Im officially up for adoption for any non weird dads who do things like fix your light bulbs and tell you to wrap up when its 90 degrees outside:o

delain

pinkcandyflossprincess wrote: »

hes blocked now so one less place he can harrass me.:o
im now in some kind of stess induced fever, got the shakes and my "sick jumper" on reserved for moments of need and comfort.
Im officially up for adoption for any non weird dads who do things like fix your light bulbs and tell you to wrap up when its 90 degrees outside:o

Being 'adopted' is great I've been 'adopted' by my friend's Dad, who is completely bonkers but harmess and actually also by his mum who is only slightly less bonkers:rotfl:

It's nice to feel loved and wanted :o

Also have several random 'father figures' about the place who I go to for advice on things most people ask their Dads about I haven't seen my dad since I was 4 but wouldn't want to be in your shoes at all :(

All you can do is cut him out really, everyone else has said it all.

Get 'adopted' though. It's great What you can do if you have time is volunteer to help with older people (my GP surgery has a poster up asking for people willing to do visits/reading and whatnot with the older folks who are alone in the community) then you can have adoptive grandparents too :rotfl:

ali-t

pinkcandyflossprincess, no wonder your head is minced. The person in your life who is meant to be protective, unconditionally love you and keep you safe from the world is best mates with a sex offender and you have doubts about whether your father may have similar traits or tendencies. It would be a strange person who was not spooked by this.

My understanding of the law that allows you check up on sex offenders and I can only speak about the Scottish version is that anyone who has concerns about someone can report that concern but police will only disclose information to the person who keeps the child safe i.e. mother if child lives with mother. If you have concerns about this man or your father having contact with your own children you can contact the police and request info but bear in mind, particularly in relation to you father, this will only relate to convictions and the chances are that you would be aware of any convictions as these would have likely been in the public press. In relation to the other man and your father, information will only be disclosed to you if your children have contact with either of them. If not, you can still note your concerns and this may keep some one elses child safe.

Your dad sounds like he engages in relationships with very vulnerable people which is never a good sign but it may reflect his own personality and perceived deficits rather than being anything sinister. Another thing you could do is raise your concerns to police and social work who may record them as intelligence which means that if any other concerns arise or are already there, yours will corroborate them.

TBH, I would be tempted to say to your father that due to his associations you don't want your children having unsupervised contact with him.

misskaytee

There is no reason why this man (dad) should be in your life... good god, ive read this thread open mouthed, To me its so obvious this man is to be avoided at all costs.

Anyone in a right frame of mind wouldn't befriend a pedo, and im sorry but your Dad with his past history that you have confirmed, sounds like a right weirdo anyway....Tell him to eff off! and to take his sicko mate with him.

:mad:

property.advert

Dig a big hole in the garden and throw them both in. Cover up and forget.

ailuro2

I hope you're feelign better today.

A family member of mine was married to a !!!!!phile and only found out after she'd been married to him for 10 years. :eek: She only found out when her 3 year old mentioned the games she played with her Daddy. :mad: I knew him well, or so I thought, and never in a million years would I have guessed what he was.

That most definitely makes you more wary of trusting anyone at all to look after your child when you aren't there.

If you hear the slightest alarm bell when talking to someone then you need to make sure your kids are never left alone with them. That goes for everyone reading this , not just the OP whose father is friendly with known sex offenders.

OP, I cut off contact with both my parents many years ago, I realised that sometimes the people who brought us into the world don't turn out to be the best families and it's better not to have contact with them anymore. Sad, as I'd love DD to have grandparents, but just not my own parents.

pinkcandyflossprincess

hi
yes thankyou-feeling a bit more lively today- went to bed in a right state, fortunately im one of those people who collapses in a coma when i sleep:o

Ive never really been that close to dad really or mom till lately, mainly as there was so much going on and they were too involved in their own arguments to worry about us mostly.
my childhood was a bit odd, i spent a year of my life in hospital because i was born without a hipjoint, this caused some kind of divide in family, dad used to visit me but mom didnt as she found it "too distressing", mom used to bully me as i was dads favourite apparently (slightly creepy now though to think of:eek:)
dad used to bully my brother who was moms favourite along with the other brothers in acending order apart from my two older brothers who were from dads first marriage, she used to treat them like 2nd class citizens. we were too young to understand, fair enough mom was just a kid herself really but it wasnt good for them.:(
mom used to use me to get to dad, ie she would tell me dad was going and not coming back etc so i would cry and then a fighting match between them would follow.
very bizarre!
thankfully i left home early and have allways been a person who can get on in my own company so used to travel alot to avoid them all probably:rotfl:
i cut mom off for a long time as she used to hate me (well had a weird jelous thing going on where she would try to cop off with my boyfriends:eek: etc and just shitstir in my life usually by tageting one of the kids as the favourite, finding out what i was buying them for xmas etc and then buying it for them, also not showing same attention to the other kids etc.
it got to a point where she was doing my head in with it all so i told her and her new chap (poor git) a few home truths about it all.
she then in all fairness has really changed so we get on quite well now and i won a holiday and took her, even though she acted like she was doing me a favour by gracing me with her presence:eek::rotfl:
so as you can see my family is truly mental and the only way i cope (along with the 3 normal brothers) is by making jokes about them all.
that usually works to lighten the mood but this is all a step too far with dad.:(
i confess i did think of booking a flight yesterday for a week to clear my brain but cant leave oh with kids as id come back to a house full of pizza boxes and them all jumping from the curtains:eek::rotfl: