Dad associating with convicted sex offender

trudiha

I'm really uncomfortable with the phrase 'making images'. This man is either sexually abusing children and recording it or he's looking as photos of children being sexually abused. This isn't a victimless crime, photos contain images of real life children being abused.

Your father seems to be making excuses for this man's past behaviour, what else will he make excuses for?

sueeve

You are at the heart of child protection for your children, and it is clear that to let them be alone with your father, without yourself or your partner, would not be responsible. Yiu appear to have become in contact with an unsavoury set of people, given the comment about your uncle. Could you discuss it with a professional eg social worker, because it feels that there is potential danger for other children as well as your own? I realise you would probably not want to speak to the police, as family are involved, and that is always a painful thing to do, but I suspect that, although you will protect your own children, suspicions (hopefully unfounded) will not go away. The uncle comment really worries me.

pearl123

underanewname wrote: »

it does sound too bizarre to be real i know- being a long term member ive come across a fair few on here myself!:D
i didnt want to give my real name as on here lots of people know me and a public company i work for, its my only source of income so worried they wouldnt like it if i am linked to my dad and his weird affection for mad men:(

? ? ? ? Not sure you are for real. In light of the seriousness of the subject matter - what is the importance of the public company you work for?
Your previous fake id would not identify you to your company would it? And your family members would perhaps recognise the mention of the sex offender - whom you name. - You state four of your family member are upset about it, but you don't want to be recognised by family so you change your posting name. !!

A Troll ? ? Probably yes !

whitewing

I don't think she's a troll.

Dump your Dad - the safety of you children is more important.

shellsuit

If my Dad told me that looking at pics of kids being abused was OK, he'd be out of my life straight away, and my Dad is my best mate.

I would NOT reply to the letter ~ !!!!!! does he think he is telling you what to do?

If he wants to see his Grandkids that desperately, he can apply to the courts can't he, then all this dirty linen will be hung out.

I'm sorry, but if you're Dad has hardly bothered with you and your kids, why is he bothering now?

Why would a man, with children of his own, AND Grandchildren, want to even breathe the same air as this bloke he is pally with?

You look after you and yours and stay the hell away from the lot of them x

sueeve

I don't think she's a troll, but even if she is it is a real situation with which some people do have do deal. I certainly met a similar situation in my professonal life, made a bit more straightforward because Dad was actually on the offenders' register. So the discussion could be useful for someone who is quite anonymous.

leos-mummy

Guilty by association springs to mind here. Im sure your father is probably innocent but to associate with a convicted sex offender is a big no no, even if they are best mates. No matter how close they are he should cut all ties for the safety of his family who are more important than this creep! People end friendships for a lot less!

pearl123

She states that she does not want to be recognised by family or people on here - so she changes her ID. She states that four family members are upset. Yet she is quite happy to name the sex offender by name, thereby she will be recognised by family if this is a real story.
I'm fairly convinced it is a troll.

RacyRed

pearl123 wrote: »

She states that she does not want to be recognised by family or people on here - so she changes her ID. She states that four family members are upset. Yet she is quite happy to name the sex offender by name, thereby she will be recognised by family if this is a real story.
I'm fairly convinced it is a troll.

I disagree with you. And even if she is, this thread has very real value, so can we keep it on topic please?

trudiha

pearl123 wrote: »

She states that she does not want to be recognised by family or people on here - so she changes her ID. She states that four family members are upset. Yet she is quite happy to name the sex offender by name, thereby she will be recognised by family if this is a real story.
I'm fairly convinced it is a troll.

People don't always behave in a logical way when they're stressed. You right that she might be a troll but I can't see what good you're doing accusing her of it and if she's not a troll, you might be doing a lot of harm.

What, exactly, would it cost you to give this woman a bit of compassion and the benefit of the doubt or just to say nothing at all?