Dad associating with convicted sex offender

pinkcandyflossprincess

sueeve wrote: »

Does he live near enough that he might approach them at school etc? If there is any likelihood of this I would have a word with the school, given what you say about his past oddities re women. Also, make an enquiry about your uncle under Sarah's Law. As a relation you should have no problem, and they might have already got concerns even if no conviction. If nothing to worry about no harm done. But if there is something to worry about they need to know, and you don't appear to have a close emotional relationship with this man.

thankfully they are all far enough away not to worry, will i be able to under Sarahs Law? it would be worth it to put my mind at rest on some of it as its cabbaged my brain to say the least!

Counting_Pennies_2

I haven't had a chance to read the other replies, but wanted to check the ages of your brothers. If any of them are of a vulnerable age and your dad wants to take them round, I would suggest informing Social Services, if he is on the protection register I think he shouldn't be accepting visitors of a certain age.

I also think perhaps chatting to your siblings and agreeing a pact about his limited supervised access to any of your children, including your uncle too from the sounds of it.

Take care

pinkcandyflossprincess

counting pennies
hi
all my brothers are adults thankfully, there is only myself and one brother who has children that are below 16 ..my youngest is 3 whilst my brother who has kids doesnt talk to dad anyway as dad used to bully him all the time, making him the butt of jokes etc so brother cut him off. my brothers kids live with their mom so they dont have any contact with my dad ..hence why im the source of all this joy:(
it really makes your mind spin though i can tell ya

BitterAndTwisted

What would I do? As your father has written you that letter demanding a reply I would consider sending one back to the affect that as his own personal conduct in relationships in the past has been questionable, to say the least, and that he freely admits to consorting with a convicted sex-offender, a convicted sex-offender that he has tried to introduce into your family home, you would consider it extremely irresponsible as a parent to allow any contact between him and your children whatsoever for the foreseeable future. And that you would thank him for not contacting you about this or any other matter and that should he do so you will consider it harassment and as sinister in the extreme and that you will report him and his behaviour to the police.

Then, you hope that the letter will give him a real heart-attack rather than the many bogus ones he's pretended to have.

sueeve

I have just googled 'Sarah's Law, how it works, and it seems that you can log in and take it from there. I am sure that you will get the advice you need. Or you can simply contact the police. You could try ringing the general non emergency police line to get advice.

missminx

I don't think I would reply to him! He has a cheek demanding it. I would also definitely block him from access to you and your children on facebook. Your children have their photos and personal information on there, and given your worries he should not have access.
I studied Criminology, and have a fairly good understanding of the nature of offenders, and I will pm you some info now.
I think you are protecting your children, and better for you to be wrong with safe children than any other turn of events. Let's face it, he can't pull the guilt card about being kept away from his grandchildren as he has brought it on himself. He chose to keep accepting his friend, and has tried to push this on to you and your family.

Triker

Unfortunately hun the pattern of distorting relationships is very much there. This sex offender must have thought christmas had come early for him when he met your Dad.

What do we have;

a parent who beat your Mum, threatens his children with emotional blackmail re his 'fake' heart attacks, ridicules one of his children, has what can at best be described as highly questionable relationships with vulnerable (age and emotional development) women and colludes with a child sex offender.

I'm afraid as another in the professional 'field', I would say all the above are high risk factors/indicators because your Dad demands that his needs and his alone are met, at the threat of serious safety issues to everyone else.

I'm really glad that you live far away from him.

Keep yourself and your children safe PCFP and be glad that you have one decent, safe parent ... your Mum. x

make_me_wise

Sounds to me like your dad has more than a few loose screws. If he were my dad I would have cut contact long ago and he wouldn't be allowed anywhere near my kids.

I cant fathom his way of thinking at all. He seems to have no concern about what this !!!!! friend of his did.

As for faking 'heart attacks' over the phone when he doesn't get his own way. Good lord, one day he will have one for real and no-one will take any notice. What a first class numptee :doh:

BitterAndTwisted

He's a first-class something or other but "numpty" isn't the first word that came to mind. He's much, much more dangerous than a mere numpty.

CH27

make_me_wise wrote: »

Sounds to me like your dad has more than a few loose screws. If he were my dad I would have cut contact long ago and he wouldn't be allowed anywhere near my kids.

I cant fathom his way of thinking at all. He seems to have no concern about what this !!!!! friend of his did.

As for faking 'heart attacks' over the phone when he doesn't get his own way. Good lord, one day he will have one for real and no-one will take any notice. What a first class numptee :doh:

How polite:D