Dad associating with convicted sex offender

pinkcandyflossprincess

brian_723 wrote: »

He is your dad and neither you are your brothers that you know about have been abused growing up so why would he start now?

my dad is a bit erm odd though in some respects, he met my mom when she was 15 and he was 25, then he met a woman with celebal paulsey (sorry cant spell it) with a very low iq then he was dating a girl about 18 but with an iq of about age 7 ( i mean really backwards bless her:() my cousin went mad at that as she saw them and said surely its not right, what does a 60 year old bloke have in common dating soeone with that mental age group...so are doubts in him have kinda been there in the back ground.

pinkcandyflossprincess

shellsuit wrote: »

Ahh, bless you.

What does your Mum think of your Dad's behaviour and the past of his mate?

I'm assuming your Mum and Dad aren't together?

mom told me im doing the right thing and dont let him bully me into thinking hes right...mom had a hellish life with him, beatings, living without electric, getting police at the door when she was 16 and pregnant with my brother saying he had been arrested in red light district....probably where he met his mate no doubt:(

myshinycar

I found out that someone I worked with was convicted of this, and just the thought that I had worked with someone like that made me physically sick.
If I then found out that someone I knew family member or whatever was associating with that person, I would shut them out of my life completely & I don't have kids yet but I don't think I'd ever be able to fully trust them iykwim?

shellsuit

pinkcandyflossprincess wrote: »

mom told me im doing the right thing and dont let him bully me into thinking hes right...mom had a hellish life with him, beatings, living without electric, getting police at the door when she was 16 and pregnant with my brother saying he had been arrested in red light district....probably where he met his mate no doubt:(

Crikey, your Dad's past with women, is certainly, errrr colourful isn't it!

Thank God your Mum saw sense!

LittleMissMPB

pimento wrote: »

Don't shoot me down, but it is possible your dad is in any way involved with the photos?

Sorry but this was one of my thoughts too. Being mates with someone known to have taken disturbing pictures of children - then sending him to a house where he knows there is children and the possibility of their parents being asleep? I certainly wouldn't want anything to do with him.

ETA - sorry looks like I'm just repeating what's been said, only just read last page of comments.

I would just refuse all contact with him now if it was me, and refuse children all contact too. If they were old enough I would explain 'why' in an age appropriate way - ie "its important not to see grandad because hes not a very nice person" in case he tried to make contact with them individually,

sueeve

Does he live near enough that he might approach them at school etc? If there is any likelihood of this I would have a word with the school, given what you say about his past oddities re women. Also, make an enquiry about your uncle under Sarah's Law. As a relation you should have no problem, and they might have already got concerns even if no conviction. If nothing to worry about no harm done. But if there is something to worry about they need to know, and you don't appear to have a close emotional relationship with this man.

Molly41

Cant add much but just want to reinforce the suspicion I have that your father is involved in this. His history with women is very suspect. He seems to go for young almost childlike women (whether in age or IQ) and that in itself is very worrying.

This is screaming at me and I personally would not allow any unsupervised contact with any of my children and would be warning my family against it too. Im so sorry for you as a family because it must be devastating but it wont compare to the devastation it will cause to a young child and the impact that will have on them for the rest of their lives. Please for your own sake and that of your children - keep this man away from you and yours.

paddy's_mum

[QUOTEthe man .. used to creep me out[/QUOTE]

Honestly?

Your Dad and his friend are birds of a feather. They are both weirdo's and your instincts are spot-on.

One already has a string of convictions and the other is whitewashing the sordid past. Together they are unbelievably dangerous and in your shoes, I would happily ban any contact whatever.

Can your children afford for you to make a mistake?

pinkcandyflossprincess

thanks all
my oh is 100% behind me on this thankfully, ive told the older two whats happened, they talk to him on facebook so although not trying to stop the contact id prefer they are aware so know whats acceptable behaviour and what isnt.
ive never been close to dad really so its not too much of a loss..its a shame for kids not for him to be normal but they have lots of love elsewhere in family so they do not lack, my stepdad is very loving to them..placid as he is and none interferring even he said i was doing right by pointing out that dad shouldnt be hanging around with the man.
i just live in fear of what the man will do next, like my brother said he used to be a lorry driver, who knows if hes kidnapped women before or what hes done that he hasnt been found guilty of.
again with this man he had a girlfriend who was about 14 when he met her in his late 20s, then his wife was a young philipino girl he met whilst working cruise ships. no wonder she had "gone off sex" poor girl stuck here..with him all alone:eek:
its put my brother up north in a bad postition as he normally brings my dad to visit and now he cant so he has to put up with the fake heart attacks and all that stuff as he lives closest to him. i dont want to go up to see brother with kids either as know dad will turn up with the weirdo mate just to wind me up:(

CH27

Block him on Facebook. You don't want anyone knowing your children's whereabouts or seeing their photos.