Dad associating with convicted sex offender

BitterAndTwisted

It's not the OP's OH and the person being complained of has defects far greater than mere drunkenness

make_me_wise

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

He's a first-class something or other but "numpty" isn't the first word that came to mind. He's much, much more dangerous than a mere numpty.

It wasn't the first word that came to my mind either, what did is far far to rude to post even on MSE.

CH27

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

It's not the OP's OH and the person being complained of has defects far greater than mere drunkenness

:rotfl:I've mixed threads. I'm the numptee.

Sorry.

thorsoak

My take on this is - just cut all contact with the man who fathered you and your brothers. A father should be someone who protects his children and shields them from harm - perceived or threatened as well as real. Your father would appear to think otherwise.

Do not give him or his friend the benefit of any doubt. IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO KEEP YOUR CHILDREN SAFE - and if you perceive any association with your father to be a risk to them - then keep them away from him.

Don't bother to respond to his letters/phone calls - block him on facebook - ensuring that there is no way that he can view pictures of your children - let him hang out with his "friend" - not with you and yours.

pinkcandyflossprincess

Bettybigboobs wrote: »

Jesus, you may not be worried about bumping into all these crazy men, but I most certainly am! I am in Middlesbrough, so it really is no wonder my daughter never leaves my sight, only for school, and even that makes me feel Ill that I can't watch her. To be fair, I think your father is connected, and not only in a friend way. Looking at this, as if I was in your shoes and it was my father....I think my father would be inside for attacking this man, not being blimming mates with him. The worlds gone crazy, I seriously can't work people out nomore.

well yours is the normal reaction people normally have to child molesters hence the reason im now so disturbed:(
unfotunately we cant keep tabs on how many more are out there, im protective enough of my kids as it is..you shouldnt have to ban them from your family too:eek:
i rarely see dad, ts normally a text at xmas etc , just seems odd that he last came up when his mate wasnt arrested, he then has almost no contact then his mates out of jail and now he wants to come! i mean in all seriousness how would he expect us to sit and chat like alls well with this:(

pinkcandyflossprincess

CH27 wrote: »

:rotfl:I've mixed threads. I'm the numptee.

Sorry.

did wonder..oh dont drink:rotfl::eek:

mrbrightside842

I think you're doing the right thing by keeping him away, I don't think I'd reply to the letter. Does he take the friend around to your brother's a lot, does he know the full story. Also, just out of nosiness if I'm honest, why did he come around to you thinking he could stay when you were pregnant? How old are your eldest who contact him on facebook? I'd be tempted to block him there but it depends how old they are.

shelley_crow

definitely write your father off, sorry it sounds so callous but there must be something going on with that man and your dad.

On another note, is there any other family who see/look after your kids who may inadvertently or otherwise take your kids to see him?

Your gut feeling is normally right, good luck hun.

pinkcandyflossprincess

mrbrightside842 wrote: »

I think you're doing the right thing by keeping him away, I don't think I'd reply to the letter. Does he take the friend around to your brother's a lot, does he know the full story. Also, just out of nosiness if I'm honest, why did he come around to you thinking he could stay when you were pregnant? How old are your eldest who contact him on facebook? I'd be tempted to block him there but it depends how old they are.

my brother has told him he cannot bring him round his as quite frankly he doesnt want to be seen associating with a sex offender.
my brothers never liked the man either, we used to take the mick out of him as we all knew he was pervy but like like that:eek:
the bloke was down here doing a gig soposedly(hes a solo artist) and apparently it was where i lived and he needed a place to crash.
well there are only two pubs where i live but i dont go in them so dont know if that was why the bloke was here but id never liked the man as he used to watch your legs etc when i was a girl and i have a teen daughter so i didnt want him around her....at that point i never knew he was a sex offender for the making of the images but i just found out that dad did yet willingly sent him to mine:eek:
I mean i was in and out of hospital all that week ,was there all morning with pains, getting calls from dad in the morning probs set it off! i didnt get back home till past 11 and dad was ringing up still- no concern to me trying to send the bloke round! In the prelude to giving birth and in that state its the last thing you need, i didnt want any guests at that point, never mind him!
but thats what dad is like- he used to bring his ex g/f round my brothers after she smashed up his car in a demented fit - nothing to do with my brother, all becuase he turned up unexpectedly as dad and her were having a row so she started jumping on his bonnet like a lunatic. my brother had to have his car fixed with no help or apology from dad then used to bring her round my brothers when he wanted nothing to do with her after that.

my eldest are 14 and 16 but tbh he doesnt talk on there a lot as he cant work it
dad is ALLWAYS right though:mad:

pinkcandyflossprincess

shelley_crow wrote: »

definitely write your father off, sorry it sounds so callous but there must be something going on with that man and your dad.

On another note, is there any other family who see/look after your kids who may inadvertently or otherwise take your kids to see him?

Your gut feeling is normally right, good luck hun.

no thank-god. only i and the oh look after the kids apart from a once a year deal with mom where she will watch them for a week while we have a break together( well shes done so twice so hoping for a 3rd time this year:p)
Ive allways been protective over mine but it makes me wonder why i am now or being so protective is just something all moms do?:o