Grandchild excluded from will.

POPPYOSCAR

KimYeovil wrote: »

Your 'joint' son is with the woman 'responsible' for the destruction of their son's marriage. It is entirely reasonable and expected that they may have problem with this and would treat him differently.

Can I ask how you know this is the case?

And even if this is so, then I personally do not find it 'reasonable and expected'.Their grandson from all accounts has been a big part of their lives and they have always had a good relationship so very hypocritical of them if this is the case.

ceridwen

Read a bit further now - so one other thought:

You say you are also getting a share in the Will. Then that is your answer as to whether they think you have been unfaithful or no and "joint child" isnt hubby's. They obviously feel quite certain that the joint child IS also hubby's - otherwise they wouldnt be leaving you personally anything. So - whatever else this means - it does NOT mean they think you've been unfaithful.

One does not leave money to a spouse of your child if you think they've been "badly behaved" in any way - eg unfaithful.

Bloomin_Freezing2

KimYeovil wrote: »

Your 'joint' son is with the woman 'responsible' for the destruction of their son's marriage. It is entirely reasonable and expected that they may have problem with this and would treat him differently.

Why include the OP then? If she is responsible for their sons marriage 'destruction' why would they include her? Surely it would be she who was left out?

Anyway, how do you know the OP solely ruined her OH's former marriage? Don't get me wrong, I have zero respect for anyone who is unfaithful in a partnership but you are making assumptions here.

NickyBat

withabix wrote: »

Jo17: It's actually none of your business.

helpfull!!!!

why ask the parents to be executors and let them know the contents of the will, knowing it is quite likely to upset them seeing their child excluded.

I have been an executor of a will (and still am) and i was not aware of the contents until after the persons death.

the grandparents have made it the parents business in this case.

January20

Kered wrote: »

I did not miss your point, I just looked at your issues from a different angle and answered from that direction.


Another point - you say in your first post that you have been with your partner for a total of 12 years yet your son in 18.

Please re-read the OP carefully! She has been living with her husband for 10 years! They have been married for 2 years! They could have been together for much longer than that!

Didn't you know that you don't need to live with somebody to have a child with them?

Jo17

Thanks everyone. Just to clarify...our son is 18 and we have been together for 12 years.

My husband was married the first time and had 2 children, he then separated and divorced. I did not know my husband at this time.

We then met, had a relationship from which our son was born but sadly decided that lots of circumstances meant we could not be together.

We went our separate ways. I then married and had 2 children to my husband. This marraige sadly ended in divorce, but with no invlovement by anyone else.

My now husband and I, finding both of us single and free to pursue a relationship got back together. I admit it's odd...but there is nothing cloak and dagger about it..it's just life. I didn't plan it this way but divorce isn't exactly rare is it?

As I said previously, there is very little money in the wills, it will not make any difference to us financially, I do not want them to change the wills, I appreciate that some of you may see this as a breach of trust (I do!) but it's not about the wills..it's about the odd behaviour. Thanks.

Kered

January20 wrote: »

Please re-read the OP carefully! She has been living with her husband for 10 years! They have been married for 2 years! They could have been together for much longer than that!

Didn't you know that you don't need to live with somebody to have a child with them?

fair point

Emmzi

1. It is you who is upset so don't wait for your husband to "fix it" - you're a grown woman just get on with it

2. Why don't you just ask them the reason calmly, then decide if you are upset with the answer or not instead of driving yourself nuts trying to guess what is in someone else's brain?

Just ask them!

January20

Jo17 wrote: »

Thanks everyone. Just to clarify...our son is 18 and we have been together for 12 years.

My husband was married the first time and had 2 children, he then separated and divorced. I did not know my husband at this time.

We then met, had a relationship from which our son was born but sadly decided that lots of circumstances meant we could not be together.

We went our separate ways. I then married and had 2 children to my husband. This marraige sadly ended in divorce, but with no invlovement by anyone else.

My now husband and I, finding both of us single and free to pursue a relationship got back together. I admit it's odd...but there is nothing cloak and dagger about it..it's just life. I didn't plan it this way but divorce isn't exactly rare is it?

As I said previously, there is very little money in the wills, it will not make any difference to us financially, I do not want them to change the wills, I appreciate that some of you may see this as a breach of trust (I do!) but it's not about the wills..it's about the odd behaviour. Thanks.

Did your inlaws know about the relationship, the birth of your child at the time?

onlyroz

Is it normal to include grandchildren directly in a will? I thought it was more usual to leave money to children and then leave it up to them how (or if) to distribute money amongst grandchildren.