Defiant child and pansy teacher.

Blackpool_Saver

yes i am for real, seriously i think you need to be evaluated yourself, please let the professionals help you............

gingin_2

lauren_1 wrote: »

Are you actually for real?

I wondered it as well.

lauren_1

Idiophreak wrote: »

Oh, so you saw the report that the teacher made to SS? And it said "Lauren's been kicking her daughter"?

I imagine the teacher just reported the bruising and let SS read whatever they wanted into it, based on the past history of the case.

The passed history of the case is that SS have discounted everything that has been reported, its just a never ending cycle of false allegations, apart from having to force her to school, that true, otherwise she would never get there. And then I would be in trouble.

puddy

lauren_1 wrote: »

Are you seriously telling me not one of you have ever had to literally walk your child to school by their hand or arm, I see this happen on a daily basis to lots of children on the way to school, im not dragging her by her feet or hair or scruff of the neck, this is not abuse at all.

So if your dd has taken 45 mins to do what is a 5 min walk you would be happy to sit on the wall whilst they throw the 5th hissy fit of the morning or should i just leave her and get my ds to school on time?

If she's late she gets detentions, if she's on time i get accused of abuse, if ds is late he gets put in the late book when its not his fault at all.

Please tell me how or where I am going wrong with this situation?

it depends what you are doing. if you are 'defiantly' and angrily draggin her along, thats different to firmly taking her by the hand, reassuring her, talking to her, staying calm, showing her that school will be ok and walking along. im not saying you have it easy, but clearly something needs to change with your general parenting. even your description of your daughter, who has had several diagnoses for things as 'defiant' tells me a lot about how you interpret her behaviour.

and why, if she has been having various assessments for the past 8 years, do you not know exactly what her current diagnosis is and what strategies and treatment you should be focusing on. you dismiss all the interventions so far as 'free access to the YMCA', have you availed yourself to groups and advice for her particular problems, what is the SENCOs recommendations, what are you doing at home?

Lotus-eater

lauren_1 wrote: »

Are you seriously telling me not one of you have ever had to literally walk your child to school by their hand or arm, I see this happen on a daily basis to lots of children on the way to school, im not dragging her by her feet or hair or scruff of the neck, this is not abuse at all.

No I've never done that. I don't think I'd ever let it get to that stage. I would talk to her and get the situation sorted out, bring in the teachers, the head, whatever is needed.
Whatever the situation is, because you don't seem to know what the problems are and don't seem to want to sort it out, just want to be left alone, with your DD getting steadily worse.

lauren_1

gingin wrote: »

I wondered it as well.

Ok, I am a nurse, I am 29, I have 3 children and to add to that I have a degree in Anatomy and a PGCE.

If I did have aspergers I think it might have been picked up by now, I am amazed that no one can tell i am feeling quite angry at this but stop to ask me if I have been tested for aspergers.

melancholly

i think the general consensus is that the anger is counter-productive...

lauren_1

puddy wrote: »

it depends what you are doing. if you are 'defiantly' and angrily draggin her along, thats different to firmly taking her by the hand, reassuring her, talking to her, staying calm, showing her that school will be ok and walking along. im not saying you have it easy, but clearly something needs to change with your general parenting. even your description of your daughter, who has had several diagnoses for things as 'defiant' tells me a lot about how you interpret her behaviour.

and why, if she has been having various assessments for the past 8 years, do you not know exactly what her current diagnosis is and what strategies and treatment you should be focusing on. you dismiss all the interventions so far as 'free access to the YMCA', have you availed yourself to groups and advice for her particular problems, what is the SENCOs recommendations, what are you doing at home?

I have varying assessments due to different specialist's taking on her case. She is currently under the car of Bibic who gave her the most recent diagnosis.

relic

lauren_1 wrote: »

Ok, I am a nurse, I am 29, I have 3 children and to add to that I have a degree in Anatomy and a PGCE.

If I did have aspergers I think it might have been picked up by now, I am amazed that no one can tell i am feeling quite angry at this but stop to ask me if I have been tested for aspergers.

Again, you are still confirming his post.

Are you not finding it ridiculous that people are offering advice and you ignore it, yet still dwell on a random comment made by somebody?

gingin_2

lauren_1 wrote: »

Ok, I am a nurse, I am 29, I have 3 children and to add to that I have a degree in Anatomy and a PGCE.

If I did have aspergers I think it might have been picked up by now, I am amazed that no one can tell i am feeling quite angry at this but stop to ask me if I have been tested for aspergers.

Please don't get defensive. I was merely trying to back up what Blackpool Saver was saying because you seemed so astonished at their suggestion but it was my first impression reading through your posts.

I have friends who both have doctorates, busy careers and children.... and both have aspergers.