Defiant child and pansy teacher.

lauren_1

relic wrote: »

All I know about your attitude is that from this thread.

If I was your child teacher, I would also be concerned.

I suggest you take some responsibilty, and not blame what is happening on everyone but yourself.

Gee thanks, given that SS have found no evidence of abuse, neglect or evidence of any of the lies I think I have a right to get !!!!ed off after so many visits.

I want to know why my DD is terrified of this teacher to the point where I am having to carry her to school.

She wont write out her homework because her teacher makes her feel ridiculed if she gets her working out wrong and her hand writing isn't neat enough.

KiKi

lauren_1 wrote: »

I want to know why my DD is terrified of this teacher to the point where I am having to carry her to school.

She wont write out her homework because her teacher makes her feel ridiculed if she gets her working out wrong and her hand writing isn't neat enough.

My previous post still stands, but if this is the case then you need to speak to the Head about *this* issue. Forget the SS case - teachers have to report anything of concern.

KiKi

relic

Honestly I don't know where to start.

This problem was about the teacher, yet you failed to include this information about the teacher ridiculing your daughter, and of your daughter being terrified of her till the second page!

pigpen

If SS are involved already is there any support they can offer which you feel might help DD?

It really does sound like DD needs a proper assessment. So the whole family can have the support you need.. Start by speaking to the SENCO at school.. ask for an assessment by the Ed Psyche for a start a referral to CAMHS might help and also speak the the disability team at the LA they might take self referrals for statements..

It is quite common for a child of 'average' intelligence to have difficulties.. this is not a reflection on you or your parenting. I too am concerned how you will manage when she is a little bigger and stronger and they soon overpower you... seriously you need to loook at what will help your daughter now.. the tools are in place for you to get that help.. you have the HV, the SS and if you want it school too..

Take the help, if not for you but for your daughter.. it may be something quite small that makes a big difference to her..

think how good it would feel to say 'yes, this is part of the condition she has we try to help by doing this... '.. no judgement, no accusations.. it is easier.. honest!

lauren_1

peachyprice wrote: »

Lauren, you need to put your energy into getting help for your daughter, not chasing after this teacher.

Lots of questions have been asked above, but you haven't answered. Have you sought help for her?

Have you taken her to the GP and asked to be referred to the Child Development Centre? You have to fight for this help, it's not going to land in your lap.

You owe it to your daughter to help her be understood and to have a hppy childhood. Comparing her to her brother isn't the way to go.

She has been under assessments nearly constantly since she was 3, for speech, behaviour and development.

I have done parenting courses from the SS which didn't highlight anything and the constant monitoring of my children have not thrown anything either, the only positive thing to come from this is my children were given free memberships to the YMCA

lauren_1

pigpen wrote: »

If SS are involved already is there any support they can offer which you feel might help DD?

It really does sound like DD needs a proper assessment. So the whole family can have the support you need.. Start by speaking to the SENCO at school.. ask for an assessment by the Ed Psyche for a start a referral to CAMHS might help and also speak the the disability team at the LA they might take self referrals for statements..

It is quite common for a child of 'average' intelligence to have difficulties.. this is not a reflection on you or your parenting. I too am concerned how you will manage when she is a little bigger and stronger and they soon overpower you... seriously you need to loook at what will help your daughter now.. the tools are in place for you to get that help.. you have the HV, the SS and if you want it school too..

Take the help, if not for you but for your daughter.. it may be something quite small that makes a big difference to her..

think how good it would feel to say 'yes, this is part of the condition she has we try to help by doing this... '.. no judgement, no accusations.. it is easier.. honest!

She has a senco helper once a week at school.

lauren_1

KiKi wrote: »

My previous post still stands, but if this is the case then you need to speak to the Head about *this* issue. Forget the SS case - teachers have to report anything of concern.

KiKi

There was nothing to report in the first place.

relic

lauren_1 wrote: »

There was nothing to report in the first place.

If a teacher is concerned, and from the few examples you have given, I would have been too, they have every right and duty to report it.

pigpen

Once a week is obviously not offering the support she needs to feel comfortable and safe.. you have to be strong and push.. noone offers anything you have to battle to get it.. wrong as that is.

emsywoo123

lauren_1 wrote: »

I was seen dragging my daughter to school, she's utterly defiant about doing anything and quite violent at times.

as DD was visibly upset one morning and didn't want to talk about it....and a annonymous tip of that I smacked DD...and another one where I cut her lip...a few more where DD appears to have bruising on her legs insinuating that i have been kicking her.

I don't think you have a problem with this teacher. As an anonymous outsider, based on what you have said, I would have been very concerned as well.

You say there is an issue with her lateness-that is not your DD's fault, at this age, it is your responsibility to get her there on time.