Defiant child and pansy teacher.

Lotus-eater

lauren_1 wrote: »

She is not medicated as I reckon half of it is an act and the other half played on as as soon as she gets what she want's she's nice as pie.

But she gets what she wants from you. You write down her homework for her, you are reinforcing that her attitude works.

relic

lauren_1 wrote: »

I want to complain about these malicious SS visits as all but one have been basically lies by this teacher, I am not the only mum to have a problem caused by her.

Would you rather she let the kids get beaten up and bruised and abused at home and not do anything, in fear of making a parent feel hard done by?

lauren_1

puddy wrote: »

you mean you're not the only mum to feel that she does nothing wrong and that the teacher should butt out when they see something wrong?[/QUOTE

I didn't do any of the things insinuated by the teacher, nor did SS find any evidence when interviewing my children. So yes I would really like this teacher to butt out.

lauren_1

relic wrote: »

Would you rather she let the kids get beaten up and bruised and abused at home and not do anything, in fear of making a parent feel hard done by?

Where are they getting beaten up?

relic

lauren_1 wrote: »

I didn't do any of the things insinuated by the teacher, nor did SS find any evidence when interviewing my children. So yes I would really like this teacher to butt out.

All I know about your attitude is that from this thread.

If I was your child teacher, I would also be concerned.

I suggest you take some responsibilty, and not blame what is happening on everyone but yourself.

*doodle*_2

lauren_1 wrote: »

I want to complain about these malicious SS visits as all but one have been basically lies by this teacher, I am not the only mum to have a problem caused by her.

I really do think that the focus for your concerns and energy should be your daughter and not the school. Yes, your feelings might have been hurt but this isn't about you - it's about your child. Schools do not ring SS wilynilly - they have to have a damn good reason in doing so.

Your child, it would appear, rules the roost in your home and this isn't right. Speak with your doctor and school about her behaviour and ask for support. No one will think badly of you but they will if you continue to place unjust blame elsewhere.

relic

lauren_1 wrote: »

Where are they getting beaten up?

It's called an example.

If you saw a child with bruises, and so-on, would you just sit there and think "Oh, I don't want to cause the parents any trouble!".

KiKi

Hi OP

I mean this kindly, so please take it in the manner it's intended!

I sympathise that you're cross with the teacher, and that SS have been called needlessly, and know your children are being monitored. It must be a pain, probably a bit embarrassing, inconvenient and probably makes you feel bad as well as resentful towards the teacher. But please bear in mind that the teacher - terrible as she may be in whatever way - saw behaviour that concerned her, and had to report it. If schools did not do this, *real* cases of abuse would go unabated. She did her job, even though it's caused you problems.

Although I understand your anger, I think you should channel that into getting help for your daughter, instead of being angry at the teacher. Being angry at the teacher won't achieve anything - absolutely nothing, other than perhaps make you feel a bit better. But in the meantime your daughter's problems continue.

You say you've been 'told' she has a mental age of 5/6, but has this been from a psychologist, or specialist? I don't know enough about the sort of help that kids can get through school, but I would suggest you ask for a meeting with the head teacher or head of year, and use your anger to FIGHT to get your daughter properly and FULLY assessed and diagnosed, and then concentrate on getting the help she needs.

Some of it may be an act to get a response, but at the age of 10, I would expect her to have grown out of that a bit. I find it hard to believe that unless you've pandered to her for her whole life, that there isn't a problem somewhere. If she can't use full stops and spaces, there is an educational / learning problem somewhere.

Be angry and cross, by all means. But direct it into fighting to get your daughter the help she needs to progress at school. She won't have that teacher forever, but she will have the learning problems if you don't get them sorted.

All the best
KiKi

Lotus-eater

lauren_1 wrote: »

I didn't do any of the things insinuated by the teacher, nor did SS find any evidence when interviewing my children. So yes I would really like this teacher to butt out.

You want the teacher to butt out re your DD homework and attendance record! That's what the flipping teacher is there for, to try and teach your child! And that's what you were complaining about in the OP.
Now, she shouldn't have said anything to you in front of anyone else. Why don't you arrange a meeting with her and yourself to try and sort it out and by sorting it out, I don't mean your problems, I mean your DD problems, which is what you should be worried about.

peachyprice

Lauren, you need to put your energy into getting help for your daughter, not chasing after this teacher.

Lots of questions have been asked above, but you haven't answered. Have you sought help for her?

Have you taken her to the GP and asked to be referred to the Child Development Centre? You have to fight for this help, it's not going to land in your lap.

You owe it to your daughter to help her be understood and to have a hppy childhood. Comparing her to her brother isn't the way to go.