Defiant child and pansy teacher.

Idiophreak

lauren_1 wrote: »

I didn't do any of the things insinuated by the teacher, nor did SS find any evidence when interviewing my children. So yes I would really like this teacher to butt out.

The teacher, by law, can't do that. If somebody reports seeing something to them, or your child is injured in certain patterns, they're obligated to do something about it.

My OH spends half her lifetime on the phone talking to SS about stuff like this - I assure you, she *really* wishes she didn't have to, but it's for the children's protection.

You have to learn there's a difference between "insinuated by the teacher" and "reported by the teacher".

lauren_1

relic wrote: »

If a teacher is concerned, and from the few examples you have given, I would have been too, they have every right and duty to report it.

what examples?

puddy

what do you mean, parenting courses didnt 'highlight' anything? they are not put in place to catch you out, they are put in place to help you learn something new, the fact that you so easily dismiss their benefit tells me you are the defiant one, not your daughter

emsywoo123

lauren_1 wrote: »

what examples?

I think Relic means the bits I have pointed out as well...........post #31

Apologies relic is this is not what you meant

Nicki

I have a DD the same age as yours who is autistic and has behavioural issues. She has gone through phases of not wanting to go to school, and will lie on the floor prone and throw a real tantrum if she doesn't want to do something.

I have never ever resorted to dragging her along to make her get to school. That is abuse I am afraid, and if I were to do that to my child, I would hope that someone would notice and call social services for her sake to be honest. Parenting a child with learning difficulties and extra needs is hard and thankless but there is no need whatsoever to resort to physical intimidation. If you haven't got the willingness to investigate alternative strategies of help your daughter, nor the insight to try to understand what might be behind her difficulties, frankly you can hardly complain if the child's teacher regards your parenting as substandard and tries to call you to account for it.

lauren_1

Idiophreak wrote: »

The teacher, by law, can't do that. If somebody reports seeing something to them, or your child is injured in certain patterns, they're obligated to do something about it.

My OH spends half her lifetime on the phone talking to SS about stuff like this - I assure you, she *really* wishes she didn't have to, but it's for the children's protection.

You have to learn there's a difference between "insinuated by the teacher" and "reported by the teacher".

the teacher insinuated to ss that i kicked my dd because she had bruises on her legs. Is that not the same thing as reporting?

puddy

Idiophreak wrote: »

The teacher, by law, can't do that. If somebody reports seeing something to them, or your child is injured in certain patterns, they're obligated to do something about it.

My OH spends half her lifetime on the phone talking to SS about stuff like this - I assure you, she *really* wishes she didn't have to, but it's for the children's protection.

You have to learn there's a difference between "insinuated by the teacher" and "reported by the teacher".

you're also forgetting that socia services dont take up every single referral, sometimes they are marked no further action. it is the case that unfortunately a lot of referrals come to SSD from schools and many are marked as NFA because it may be a minor concern that school feel they have to report to sort of cover their back. SSD know this and know how to recognise the cases where they have to go and investigate.

the fact that SSD investigated shows that it was a valid referral based on what information the teacher had at the time. they are not mind readers, they have to refer and then wait to see what the outcome is, it may be nothing, in which case all is well.

KiKi

lauren_1 wrote: »

There was nothing to report in the first place.

The receptionist saw you dragging your child to school (which the teacher would have been told about), and then saw your child very upset, refusing to talk, then had anonymous tip offs.

She felt she had to report it - hell, she was *obliged* to report it.

I said before - I know it's inconvenient for you re SS. But your issue should be with the way she treats your daughter for not getting her homework right. And your efforts should be in getting more help for your daughter.

You seem to be quite fed up / negative about the support you have ("the only positive thing to come from this is my children were given free memberships to the YMCA") so far - and I don't blame you. So find some positive ways to go about this, instead of defending your anger on here.

KiKi

puddy

lauren_1 wrote: »

the teacher insinuated to ss that i kicked my dd because she had bruises on her legs. Is that not the same thing as reporting?

you dont know what your daughter told the teacher do you?

Blackpool_Saver

lauren_1 wrote: »

Where are they getting beaten up?

Hmmm interesting answer, have you ever been tested for aspergers because that literal take on a statement which clearly was an example, shows a possible tendency to me, of course it could just be a lack of language ability...........