Neighbours Smoke

Pennylane

The thing with this thread is, apart from the OP, nobody knows the size of his garden nor the smell of the smoke from his neighbours.

If you have a tiny sheltered garden then the smoke can hang in the air. Qute different to having a third of an acre between you and your neighbour.

I've visited someone in a flat with balcony and the people below chain smoke and the smoke which comes up onto her balcony when they're all sitting out is awful!

What annoys one person, doesn't annoy someone else. Whether it's constantly having bonfires, revving engines, having piles of rubbish outside, allowing their kids to kick balls at your walls. I do think the best thing is to say something politely to your neighbours if it bothers you that much and see how they respond.

Some would say it's then time to get your own back. I'm not though!!
Lighting bonfires, getting a barking dog, hanging up massive BIG windchimes, having a nice big smelly compost heap next to the boundary etc.

spadoosh

Gazing_On_Sunsets wrote: »

Reminds me of a recent incident. It was lovely weather so I bought myself some lunch in town and sat on a secluded bench to eat it. After a few minutes, a woman came and sat beside me - and lit her cigarette.
I was initial furious because it was stinky and I was eating - BUT - it's a free country, she was in her rights, and ultimately it just comes down to rudeness. And some people are rude, and we just have to live with it.

I definately would have mentioned something and if she chose to stay there i would have left and commented on how rude she was.

Myself i can smoke and eat at the same time, doesnt bother me at all. But the though of lightin up next to somone eating is just not fair!

GlynD

thorsoak wrote: »

Some people obviously don't have enough to worry about!

That was my feeling exactly. Now if the OP was living near a public house or other building where lots of smokers congregate I'd be on-side in a flash. This however appears to be bleating in its most pathetic form. I don't wish to upset the OP but really he/she needs to re-examine what is worth fighting for.

euronorris

spadoosh wrote: »

No its normally the smells the partner produces thats high up on most peoples agendas

Hahaha, still way down on my list of worries. :rotfl:

ameliarate

Gazing_On_Sunsets wrote: »

Reminds me of a recent incident. It was lovely weather so I bought myself some lunch in town and sat on a secluded bench to eat it. After a few minutes, a woman came and sat beside me - and lit her cigarette.
I was initial furious because it was stinky and I was eating - BUT - it's a free country, she was in her rights, and ultimately it just comes down to rudeness. And some people are rude, and we just have to live with it.

You should have eaten indoors, she is not allowed to smoke indoors, personally I think it entirely selfish of you to take up the seat a smoker could have had.

Jetta-Wales Or maybe if they actually shared a bedroom like normal couples do then we would at least have the problem with only one of the bedrooms not both front and back.

how effing rude is this? My partner and I don't share a bedroom, it seems perfectly normal to me - we have our own reasons. What right have you to say it is not normal?

SingleMumOf2_3

Just wanted to say... if your a smoker and choose to smoke outside because you have children... the nhs recommend taking 7 steps out to avoid passive smoking. But what if those 7 steps take you near the neighbours and cause the problem of the OP? Are they expected to stand closer to the door near the children or the neighbours? Not trying to be a smart !!!!.. just wondered

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windchimes. Very good and harmless idea. Many people cannot stand the tinkle and will stay away from the sound

GlynD

kittie wrote: »

windchimes. Very good and harmless idea. Many people cannot stand the tinkle and will stay away from the sound

I'm waiting for someone to suggest anti-personnel mines - lol

euronorris

Gazing_On_Sunsets wrote: »

Reminds me of a recent incident. It was lovely weather so I bought myself some lunch in town and sat on a secluded bench to eat it. After a few minutes, a woman came and sat beside me - and lit her cigarette.
I was initial furious because it was stinky and I was eating - BUT - it's a free country, she was in her rights, and ultimately it just comes down to rudeness. And some people are rude, and we just have to live with it.

Not sure I agree that's rude. There are only a few places where people can smoke outside, whereas you have far more options of where to eat (whether indoors or outdoors). So, I think it's a little unfair to expect her to give up one of the only remaining places to smoke, so you can eat your lunch there. What made you more entitled to that space?

shellsuit

Gazing_On_Sunsets wrote: »

Reminds me of a recent incident. It was lovely weather so I bought myself some lunch in town and sat on a secluded bench to eat it. After a few minutes, a woman came and sat beside me - and lit her cigarette.
I was initial furious because it was stinky and I was eating - BUT - it's a free country, she was in her rights, and ultimately it just comes down to rudeness. And some people are rude, and we just have to live with it.

I wouldn't have done that ~ I'll only sit next to someone and light up if they are smoking too.

I would never sit next to someone and light up if they were eating, even if I knew they were a smoker themselves.