Want to leave OH can't bear living like this anymore

sheena5

I've not been on the site for a while, so have read the thread in one go, and I just wanted to say that many years ago I left a man I had three children with, who was an awful lot like the op's partner: cold, selfish, mean with money, status obsessed, always putting me down and making me ask for money. After we split, following his second affair, he married another woman whom he also treated badly, he wouldn't pay the full csa assessment, and everything he bought for my children (clothes, toys etc) he insisted on keeping at his house to be used for any children he had with his new wife.

Fast forward 20 years, and I am married to a lovely man who treats me like a princess, I had a fourth child with him who makes us both very happy, and on my last birthday he took us to Venice to celebrate a decade together. My three eldest children think their father is pathetic, and are glad I left him. Life is too short to stay with a man who puts you down- and being a single parent is infinitely preferable to being an unhappy cohabitee. good luck with your new life- and make sure you get your money back when the house is sold.

FBaby

blue_monkey wrote: »

I guess the little one goes to nursery to give the mum a break. No crime there. The husband clearly works a lot of hours and should contribute to this.

I'm quite surprised by this statement. Since when 'having a break for oneself' is a requirement? Ask most working mums how often they get a break? Never! The OP probably gets a break at least during nap time, a lot more than most working mums get...

There is nothing wrong with putting your child to play group for a break....WHEN you can afford it. Here the OP is moaning that she is short on money and that her partner is mean, yet it would be ok to pay extra just so that she can have a break twice a week.

I think the OP might be surprised if she decides to become a single mum. I am not saying that she should be grateful for what she have, but the alternative might not be the delivrance she might think it is.